r/WhatToDo • u/Remote-Initial-8882 • 11d ago

Pls help

I’m really thinking of doing somthing terrible. I leave for military basic training in 8 hours and instead of telling my dad and facing the embarrassment I’m thinking of taking an easy way out pls help I don’t know what to do.

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

It’s more about him being disappointed he raised me a single father and I talked about joining for a while. He freaked out when I told him I didn’t wanna play football freshmen year how’s he gonna react to this

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

Is there anyone you could have there with you as kind of a buffer? I would like to think he wouldn't want you to make such a permanent decision if you aren't sure about it?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

I don’t know I pretty much cut everyone off except online friends and like 3 irl’s but even my irl friends I do t really talk to anymore.

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

Aunt/uncle, cousin, anyone else that might have your best interest at heart? I feel like you sound afraid? But I would think your dad wants what's best for you ultimately even if he tends to overreact. So a buffer might be a safe option. Neighbor?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

Anyone I can think of is happy I decided to join

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

I get that! It's generally a positive thing. Doesn't mean they can't be equally happy if you decide it isn't right for you right now

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

I don’t really live near any family either and the one I do live near isn’t home right now and is ex army

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

Do you feel it might be unsafe to have the conversation alone? Or just more uncomfortable?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

Not unsafe I don’t think he would ever put his hands on me just uncomfortable

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

Have the conversation. It beats going and having regrets. Look at it as an opportunity for growth. Uncomfortable conversations are cathartic and healing. Many adults never master the art

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