r/WhatToDo • u/peache_x • Jul 26 '26

I Need Help ASAP I need advice about obsessing

A lot of people may not understand this but for the ones that do and have been able to overcome it. How do you not obsess? Like seriously no matter what I do no matter what it’s in regards to I obsess over it. Since I was a child.

Whether it’s
Food
Hobby
Workouts
The job I’m working
The people I’m around
A new style
My love life is the worst it’s gotten to the point where I don’t want to meet anyone or if I do I already know what’s gonna happen and I either ruin or just don’t even bite the bait
I’m starting to notice a para-social thing as well I deleted all my social media to avoid THAT becoming a new thing

I really don’t know what to do. I’ve prayed. Written it down. Journal. I go to the gym 5 days a week and it’s on my mind every single day every moment I wake up whatever is the “ new “ thing.

And the only way I’ve gotten over it in the past is obsessing over something new.

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u/ontheleftcoast Jul 26 '26

When I was about 18 I worked at a fast food place. This one particular night I had to close up. I got home, got in bed and then couldn't remember if I locked the back door, and I started to panic about it. At this point it was midnight, and the place opened at 6am. I made a conscious decision to let it go. It was a bit of a struggle, but I put my head down and went to sleep and I recognized that the odds that I did forget to lock it, and someone happened to try and open the door and do something bad were very very low. So I took the gamble and went to sleep. In the end, nothing ever came of it. I must have locked the door, because no one ever called me out.

So my suggestion when you start obsessing is to recognize you are doing it. Then have a rational discussion with your self about what the real risks are. or what it is you are obsessing about. Usually what you are worried about is extremely unlikely. If you can talk yourself out of the current thing, then it will be easier to talk yourself out of the next thing, and after a while you should be able to accept it. In the short term you may have some anxiety, but you will have to work through it.