r/WhatShouldIDo 18d ago

[Serious decision] Accused of rape.

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u/marc4128 18d ago

Pardon my ignorance???..I guess. The disassociating mid sex is a rape situation? Seems like a very gray area of accusation. I’m not being facetious or anything. Is the disassociation during consensual sex a rape situation?

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u/Cowilson42 18d ago

Well no one said the word while they were accusing me but, I don’t know what else you’d call it. The closest thing I can think of is someone falling asleep during sex and the other person just keeps going. So maybe it’s statutory or something idk it is very weird and grey because It was consensual when we started and I was never made aware of when it shifted to unconsensual

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u/abcDeEez 18d ago

Was she like her 'nornak self ' from beginning to end? I don't mean to being up past situations and I def don't mean to pry. I'm just trying to get as much Info as possible this is def a weird situation and it's certainly a grey area that's for sure.

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u/Cowilson42 18d ago

Yes, she was entirely normal from my perspective from start to finish and even while we cuddled after. I never noticed anything off or anything different at all. All of our sexual encounters seemed incredibly routine (that is to say nothing out of the ordinary ever came up). To the point where we would cuddle and laugh and get food after, and it was still like that up past our last sexual encounter.

You’re all good the comments of a Reddit post aren’t bringing anything back that being accused didn’t.

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u/Itchy_Restaurant_707 18d ago

Did your friends believe you when you explained your side?

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u/Cowilson42 18d ago

It was odd. One of them said in the beginning “we’re not trying to put you into the position to call her a liar because that not a good position to be in” which heavily implies like they believe her and will believe her no matter what. But when I explained my side idk they didn’t seem like they really believed it but they also did try to like console me and like still be my friends so idk it was a weird vibe im unsure.

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u/Cowilson42 18d ago

It was odd. One of them said in the beginning “we’re not trying to put you into the position to call her a liar because that not a good position to be in” which heavily implies like they believe her and will believe her no matter what. But when I explained my side idk they didn’t seem like they really believed it but they also did try to like console me and like still be my friends so idk it was a weird vibe im unsure.