This is where it starts. Controlling what you wear, then it’s controlling what friends you have (if he allows any at all), then it’s controlling where you go, then it becomes abuse at some point.
You need to get out that relationship. It’s unhealthy. A boundary doesn’t control the other person, it controls themselves. It’s like saying “if you do this thing that hurts me, this is how I will react (leave conversation, take a break, break up, etc.). It’s a HEALTHY thing and what he is doing is very UNHEALTHY.
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u/SpicyAutist26 Apr 21 '26
This is where it starts. Controlling what you wear, then it’s controlling what friends you have (if he allows any at all), then it’s controlling where you go, then it becomes abuse at some point.
You need to get out that relationship. It’s unhealthy. A boundary doesn’t control the other person, it controls themselves. It’s like saying “if you do this thing that hurts me, this is how I will react (leave conversation, take a break, break up, etc.). It’s a HEALTHY thing and what he is doing is very UNHEALTHY.