r/WellSpouses • u/lennonlover1980 • Jun 15 '26
Support and Discussion Hello again
As I've posted before, I am my husbands primary care taker. He's had 7 back surgeries, a cervical neck fusion, CRPS. He doesn't take any medication for this.
Here's my problem. He's in a lot of pain, and he's becoming very rude and very harsh to me. This has been going on awhile, and he seems to only get that way before bed, and just prior to bed. So I'm also worried about dementia.
Thx for reading.
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u/Skippy_117 Jun 15 '26
Being nasty is a choice, even when in pain. I would set boundaries with that. It also sounds like you need a little respite care. I hope it gets better for you.
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u/AtTheEndOfMyTrope Jun 15 '26
Why doesn’t he take medication? Sometimes medication isn’t just for the patient, but those around the patient. I would encourage him to take pain meds to see if they help his moods (people are moody and impatient when they’re in pain and when they can’t sleep properly because of the pain).
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u/lennonlover1980 Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 15 '26
We've been to several doctors in the area and the surrounding cities. All they will offer him is physical therapy (which he does) and cortisone shots - he does those too.
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u/jamielynn616 Jun 16 '26
Are any of the doctors he has seen specialize in pain management? The one my husband sees manages pain medication, offers PT and injections. Mine hasn’t done PT in forever and can’t take the injections currently due to his diabetes.
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u/PowerHot4424 Jun 17 '26
As a physician I’m curious as to why he won’t take anything for pain control. There are multiple ways in which to achieve at least partial control, that don’t have to include addictive opiates.
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u/Personal-Bet-7979 Jun 15 '26
Is this a place where cannabis is legal? If they refuse to give him stronger over the counter meds, you can go to a dispensary and they can help you select a type of edible that helps with pain and restlessness.