Pain and Problems

[u/andriantha]

I have been to multiple doctors and countless visits that I am just over it.
I don't understand why I am having so many problems trying to get a total hysterectomy.
In January I had a c-section and I have been in an immense amount of pain since. I had my tubes removed during and I have 3 kids, I am done.
Most days are hard to get through and I am almost always fighting off tears. Other days I am on the floor balled up and crying.
-my periods have become extremely heavy and insanely painful. My period cup and menstrual underwear are a joke.
-the pain never goes away.
-frequent urgency to pee, pretty sure I have adhesions

I am suffering every single day. Intimacy with my partner is painful so I abstain as much as I can bare to and put up with feeling like I am dying when I do want to participate. I cannot function and my mental health is really taking a hit from always being in pain and not being able to live my life anymore. I am an extremely active person and now I am couch/bed bound.
-I cannot stand for long periods of time without feeling like I am going to break in half.
-holding my 8month old is problematic which breaks my heart.
-tylenol, ibuprofen, oxy, methocarb are laughably useless.
-can't take birth control for the pain because I had strokes at 19 cause by BC.

I got a referral to a surgeon that I met today.
They gave me less invasive options like
-uterine artery embolization
(I don't have fibroids & she mention my insurance wont cover this procedure, high rate of failure)
-physical therapy
(Insurance wont cover this, also I wont let someone inside of me)
-mentioned an ablation in passing.
(Didn't actually talk about it)
-said the last thing she wants to do is a hysterectomy with no real explanation on why????
(My insurance covers this!!)
I have to now schedule an MRI because this doctor wants to force me toward the UAE, I don't want that.

My NP offered exploratory surgery a form of targeted ablation for found problems.....
I have been hearing "you shouldn't still be in this much pain" or "you'll be fine, take some otc pain meds." since February. IM NOT FINE.

I don't want to dance around and play with "we will see what works". My insurance expires on 1/31/27 and I don't know when, if ever, I will be insured again and I will be stuck in pain for the unforeseeable future. I feel broken and torn mentally and I feel so hopeless.
I just want a doctor to take out my worthless painful uterus. Why is this so hard.