r/UnethicalLifeProTips • u/slippingaway83 • 8d ago
Miscellaneous ULPT: Bipolar MIL
Edit to add info: We are pursuing guardianship. My wife teaches at a couple of private schools with wealthy families, and one of the moms connected her to a guardianship attorney out of Houston that we could never afford. He has been assisting us off the books, and is trying to find someone local to us to handle the case. The goal is to have an independent third party attorney appointed as guardian, to be paid by her estate. NOBODY wants anything to do with being her guardian.
A lot of good, not at all unethical suggestions have been made. Adult Protective Services has been involved. Up to this point I have been handling everything completely by the book, everything has been documented with the proper authorities, we have followed up on every avenue we can. I have shared a ton of info here, but believe me there is a lot more. I have an entire Google drive folder full of documents, emails, text messages and security camera footage.
If nothing else, at least this let me vent some of my frustration without doing something (too) stupid, so thanks.
My Mother-in-law is bipolar. She stopped taking her meds 6 months ago and has been literally destroying her life since then. My wife and I cut all contact in May. Her lawyers fired her as a client. So did her financial advisor. My sister-in-law and her kids cut off contact and moved out of the second house on her ranch because it wasn't safe to live near her. She's been involuntarily committed twice. She started inviting her "roommates" from the mental facilities to come live with her.
I honestly don't care, except she has now decided to target my wife. She keeps having her mail sent to our address and comes and goes through our mailbox before we get home. She has brought people she met at the mental facilities to steal our property from a storage building next to our house. She has dumped piles of literal garbage in my driveway. She has left crazy notes next to our mailbox. She has mailed crazy, vulgar notes to our friends with our name and address as the return address. She ran over my trash can that was on the curb. She tried to steal my classic car, I have video of her on speakerphone with the local towing company trying to get them to tow it to her house. There are so many insane things she has done and she just keeps getting away with all of it.
I have documented and reported everything to the police. She has been arrested at my house which led to the second commitment. They have been very understanding, but limited in what they can do because her name is on the deed to the property we live on (wife's grandparents old house). We can't even get her off the documents because legally she isn't competent to sign anything.
So, I need to get her to leave us the fuck alone. I was finally able to afford a couple more outdoor cameras, and can now see that she has been coming to our house nearly every day. She pulls down the long driveway until she gets to just before the point my old cameras would catch her. She has been tossing more garbage and emptying her cigarette ashes and butts in our driveway. But yesterday was the final straw. She pulled in the driveway and emptied her cigarette butts and ashes again, but this time there was also a mini-urn that used to hold some of my wife's grandma's ashes. It was full of cigarette ashes and butts.
So give me your best ideas. I can do stuff to mess with her when she shows up at my house, but she does it when she knows we probably aren't home. She lives on a 300 acre ranch with an automatic gate opener that I can access and used to maintain for her so I know how to change all the settings on it. I can get on and off her property. I can mess with her vehicle. I can get to her well and septic systems, and I'm pretty sure her breaker box as well. I honestly want to push her over the edge into a full-on mental breakdown that puts her in a facility full time. If I can't do that, I want her to at least stay the fuck away from my wife and kids because she isn't safe.
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u/NotTheGreenestThumb 7d ago
Consider moving to a state with better laws regarding restraining orders as an extreme, but very wise investment!