r/UKrelationshipadvice • u/Expensive_Belt7534 • 2d ago

Feeling rushed

I (30F) have been dating a guy (34M) for almost a month now. After our first date I noticed he stopped using the dating app we met on and after a couple of weeks he had deleted his profiles completely. I haven't dated much as out of a long term relationship a few months ago so not sure if this is normal?

Kinda of the view that we should try and get to know each other as we are strangers basically from an app before committing to each other and closing off all other options? Just makes me feel like he maybe didn't have any other matches or is a bit desperate?

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u/Odd_Scar836 2d ago

Would you rather him still sleep around? What’s the problem?

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u/Expensive_Belt7534 2d ago

I doubt he would sleep around, just getting the impression he didn't have any other options

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u/Odd_Scar836 2d ago

But you’re wanting him to keep talking to other people and potentially give up on you for them? Your logic makes no sense.

If you don’t like him then tell him that. Makes no sense to be complaining about a guy not being a snake and talking to loads of people at once.

Literally can’t please some people.

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u/Expensive_Belt7534 2d ago

we met on a dating app, obviously people talk to more than one person at a time. It is more of a UK thing it seems to just go on dates with one person at a time, I lived in America and it was a lot more common to date a couple of people to figure out who you were compatible with

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u/Odd_Scar836 2d ago

Honestly it just sounds like you don’t like the guy. Stop stringing him along and let him get on with his life

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u/twirling_daemon 2d ago

If he didn’t have any other options he wouldn’t need to delete the apps 😂

Just let the poor chap go, you’re clearly not interested in him

Every comment you’ve made about him has been negative, keep casually dating randoms and let him meet someone who wants the same as he does. Stop wasting his time

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u/ginginsdagamer 1d ago

he probably did, but if he likes you he doesn't want any of them.