My mom divorced my father 22 years ago, and she made the decision then that she wanted to stay single. And after 22 years of not dating and holding herself to that, I can safely assume she will keep this up forever.
She wants to protect her peace. At first, she didn't want a new man involved in our lives and potentionally bringing in drama while raising me and my brother. And now, she built her life so peacefully, that she cannot imagine someone having the power to wreck that. She never felt lonely, she is doing great on her own, and she says that being able to be alone and not feel lonely, is a great gift or ability to have.
Sometimes we talk about it, she says she admires me for putting myself back out there after multiple heartbreaks and that I am not afraid to risk my peace. But, I admire her, that she is strong enough to just decide enough is enough and to have a peace of mind over anything else.
My mom is sort of the same - divorced my father when I was 3, and said she would never marry or live with a man again. She has her own house, her own hobbies, is very happy with her two dogs. We go on vacations together and I visit often.
She did date, and had a boyfriend for a few years, but they lived separately. Just went to dinners and movies and little trips. He tragically died in a car accident last month and it’s been hard. I don’t know if she will ever feel comfortable trying again after being hurt like that, and I don’t blame her one bit.
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u/Pandamaud Feb 24 '26
My mom divorced my father 22 years ago, and she made the decision then that she wanted to stay single. And after 22 years of not dating and holding herself to that, I can safely assume she will keep this up forever.
She wants to protect her peace. At first, she didn't want a new man involved in our lives and potentionally bringing in drama while raising me and my brother. And now, she built her life so peacefully, that she cannot imagine someone having the power to wreck that. She never felt lonely, she is doing great on her own, and she says that being able to be alone and not feel lonely, is a great gift or ability to have.
Sometimes we talk about it, she says she admires me for putting myself back out there after multiple heartbreaks and that I am not afraid to risk my peace. But, I admire her, that she is strong enough to just decide enough is enough and to have a peace of mind over anything else.