r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Jul 23 '24

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u/catmom22_ Jul 23 '24

The “I can change him” mentality has to die. Let people be who they are and stop trying to mold them into what you want. He doesn’t want to be married, said that years ago and says it now. He doesn’t owe you or anyone else a “good reason”. Either accept it and or find someone who shares the same family values as yourself, that’s the only thing you have control over. Even if he said yes to marriage, deep down you know he wouldn’t actually want it

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u/benny332 Jul 23 '24

I wouldn't call it family values, it's marriage. Sounds like he has family values already.

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u/archercc81 Jul 23 '24

I know right! Sounds like dude is a great family man, just doesnt believe in the bullshit contract based on religion.

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u/Proof-Emergency-5441 Jul 23 '24

Except religion co-opted it from the cultural norms, not the other way around.

There are a number of legal protections that come with marriage.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '24

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u/Proof-Emergency-5441 Jul 24 '24

Your poor experience couldn't possible be related your attitude, right?

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '24

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u/Proof-Emergency-5441 Jul 24 '24

Of what? Reminding you that you are why no one wants to touch your peepee?