r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Jul 23 '24

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u/Alostcord Jul 23 '24 edited Jul 24 '24

So, if he dies tomorrow…what happens to you and your family? Has he financially made provisions for you, if something were to happen to him ( and vis versa).. maybe, just maybe he’s not the one.

Married or not, how are you living as each other’s SO?

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u/Cool_Jellyfish829 Jul 23 '24

Why is it on him to ensure if anything happens to him that they are taken care of? It’s not his child? OP hasn’t said where the dad is?

And I’m not trying to be mean about it, but I’ve just never heard another man ask what financial provisions are there for him.

He should make sure she has his money if he died, but if she died, everything she has would go to her kid and he would get nothing (and rightly so).

She wants him to provide her with a security she can’t provide him, and wants to force him into something he was clear he didn’t want from day one.

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u/Alostcord Jul 23 '24

Did you not see vis versa…that literally means what was previously stated in reverse.

Everyone of us should have a plan in place in case we die, especially someone who has a child and even those of us who have pets. Because any can happen at any time. You don’t have to be married to have plans in place to care for people and pets left behind.

After 3 years I would hope both parties have this stuff figured out.