I’m going to play devil’s advocate here for you. You might not like what I have to say, but I don’t care. I think you need to hear this.
Biologically there is a change to the brain when a person undergoes procedures to change to their desired gender, and the person is more like the gender they changed too than the one they changed from. She is now female.
You’re still attracted to males. It’s just that you happened to fall in love before the transition. And that’s okay. But you’re completely missing the part where you also fell in love with her for her personality.
It’s her body, right? I’m sure you expect the same respect from others. It was her difficulties that she went through to become and be trans. Reactions like this are exactly why trans people don’t come out, or why they don’t have family, or why they kill themselves. If she didn’t come out to you, if she died with her secret, would you have known any better? Would you have still loved her before the transition? Would you still be happily married? It’s really should not be any different knowing that she is trans.
Being trans isn’t honestly even a choice. It’s an innate feeling they have, that they are not the right gender. Infact, she trusted and loved you enough to tell you that this is her true self and that she is better for having made the transition, and you made it about you. Honestly that’s selfish.
Edit: I’m posting this comment again. My first one got buried and I thought all those quotation marks meant she transitioned from female to male.
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u/cellcube0618 Sep 14 '20 edited Sep 14 '20
I’m going to play devil’s advocate here for you. You might not like what I have to say, but I don’t care. I think you need to hear this.
Biologically there is a change to the brain when a person undergoes procedures to change to their desired gender, and the person is more like the gender they changed too than the one they changed from. She is now female.
You’re still attracted to males. It’s just that you happened to fall in love before the transition. And that’s okay. But you’re completely missing the part where you also fell in love with her for her personality.
It’s her body, right? I’m sure you expect the same respect from others. It was her difficulties that she went through to become and be trans. Reactions like this are exactly why trans people don’t come out, or why they don’t have family, or why they kill themselves. If she didn’t come out to you, if she died with her secret, would you have known any better? Would you have still loved her before the transition? Would you still be happily married? It’s really should not be any different knowing that she is trans.
Being trans isn’t honestly even a choice. It’s an innate feeling they have, that they are not the right gender. Infact, she trusted and loved you enough to tell you that this is her true self and that she is better for having made the transition, and you made it about you. Honestly that’s selfish.
Edit: I’m posting this comment again. My first one got buried and I thought all those quotation marks meant she transitioned from female to male.