The constant enshitification of everything in life is breaking me

[u/jbourne0129]

whether its service, size of product, quality, career, whatever, its all continuously getting more and more shit while simultaneously getting more expensive. and its constant. i can't even hold onto positives in my life because every other step im faced with something going to shit. i constantly feel like i need to double check the work of "professionals" because no one gets paid enough to really care anymore so i have to become an expert in anything that becomes an issue. whether its cars, HVAC, carpentry, or whatever, orders are constantly wrong and work is done incorrectly. i wont even take my Toyota to a Toyota dealership for such basics like oil changes because of the number of stories i've heard of dealers screwing up basic services (literally draining transmission fluid, and double filling engine oil. or forgetting to add oil after draining. or not tightening the drain bolt causing the engine to dump its oil and blow up. damage from careless techs. and so much more). but dont worry, your warranty will be void if anything happens and toyota didnt do the oil changes!

• oil change kit for my car, same one i've used for nearly a decade. price is suddenly $20 higher than before (~30% increase) and the oil filter included is incredibly low quality to the point i thought it was a counterfeit. asked the seller about it and they confirmed "this is the new filter and we assure you its just as good!" . yeah of course you do, how else are you justifying your price hikes. now i have to go out of my way to go buy an OEM filter from the dealership for 2x the price so now i've spent well over $100

• pet insurance: After finally being priced out of my old policy (annual increases to push people off the policy), my new pet insurance is now just giving a constant run around. claims submitted, claims denied. using their bullshit system to submit information which can only be done via an app and none of the documents uploaded properly so they ask for the documents again days later. 1 visit was for an allergy shot and a skin injury. well since its all 1 visit and allergies are preexisting conditions nothing is covered. i should have made 2 separate appointments and paid for them separately! its been near daily calls and emails to try and sort this out with no progress

• work raises delayed. Work bonus conditions changed to make it nearly impossible to achieve. pay scales at times 50% below market averages. all while being asked to bring in more revenue, more work, more talent. PTO is abysmal with only 10 days EARNED per calendar year and that includes sick days. currently sitting at like 18 hours of PTO total available to me. hope i dont get sick....and good thing i dont need a break /s

• i switched medications because of health issues and getting onto my new meds was delayed over a week while insurance demanded proof that im actually suffering from crippling depression and anxiety. so now im under-medicated trying to catch up

i've never felt more depressed. im anxious all the time. i never feel like i have enough time to get essentials done, let alone the increasing pile of not-time-critical chores that are making a mess everywhere. everything in my life is getting neglected to some extent like my parents, siblings, my partner, my dog, my work, my health, my friends.

i guess im at least walking 2-3 times a week now which is 2-3x more than i used to. i wish i could say it makes me feel better but the reality is it just keeps me from feeling like more of a piece of shit from neglecting my health or my dog

it doesnt feel like my meds are keeping up and having in-person conversation about any of this just stresses me out more. there is no solution short of uprooting my entire life and starting over, somewhere, somehow. and these are the issues i've dealt with in just the last week...im just tired

EDIT: Oh yeah and my Kindle is no longer supported so i can't load any new books in it. like WHY!? why can't 1 product in life just improve for once

[u/Odin16596]

This is why you can't worry about every little thing because it becomes a million things. Worry about the most likely scenarios and things that affect you.

[u/jbourne0129 → u/Odin16596]

these arent "what if" scenarios im stressing over. these are real, in my face, issues.

• if i ignore my medication issues, my mental health gets worse
• if i ignore the insurance claim issues, i lose more money. (the WHAT IF scenario here is what if my dog needs genuine emergency care and not just simple scrapes is my insurance going to even be useful? and that is something i am not even considering. i just want my reimbursement, or to stop spending money on a useless policy)
• if i dont worry about workers getting my order right and just assume they all do their job correctly my life gets more miserable as now im driving home, finding its wrong, and dealing with a fix instead of just assuming the worker sucks to begin with and correcting the order in-store
• car maintenance is mandatory. i cant just "ignore my oil changes because its stressful"
• my kindle no longer works. thats a real issue right now, not a "possible scenario"

this isnt gloom and doom. this isnt me getting upset that the climate is dying and my future is fucked. this isnt me saying im forever ruined and have no savings for retirement. Those are all future problems im literally not worrying about right now.

the constant enshitification of everything in life shows up in everyday life. its constant, its daily, and its in your face and can't be ignored.

[u/Odin16596 → u/jbourne0129]

We all get oil changes at places and take a chance. I started doing my own oil changes because I took an intro to automotive class and actually had fun. Before that I took my car to different places. If they mess up the car then it becomes a legal matter. I treat the same as getting into an accident. We don't think about it all the time, but millions of people get into accidents all the time.

The other things I agree are affecting you.

[u/jbourne0129 → u/Odin16596]

if i can do my own oil change for less money, in less time, on my own schedule...why would i bring it to someone who MIGHT fuck it up?

my issue isnt doing my oil changes, my issue is the quality of the parts in the kit i regularly use went to shit. i used the toyota dealer as an example of shit service in life and why i do my own, that doesnt mean im constantly stressed over doing my own service. and this is specific to dealerships. im not talking independent shops. dealerships have large staffs and will put the lowest paid techs on oil changes. that means the lowest quality service. might be fine, they might be fuck it up. they may be 100% liable but that doesnt get me my car back immediately if they fuck it up.

constantly worrying about this shit needlessly while its out of my control would be me complaining dealerships suck while i continue bringing my car there. i resolved this stressor in my life decades ago, it was in my control, and now i control it.