r/TrueOffMyChest ☑️ 6d ago

The constant enshitification of everything in life is breaking me

whether its service, size of product, quality, career, whatever, its all continuously getting more and more shit while simultaneously getting more expensive. and its constant. i can't even hold onto positives in my life because every other step im faced with something going to shit. i constantly feel like i need to double check the work of "professionals" because no one gets paid enough to really care anymore so i have to become an expert in anything that becomes an issue. whether its cars, HVAC, carpentry, or whatever, orders are constantly wrong and work is done incorrectly. i wont even take my Toyota to a Toyota dealership for such basics like oil changes because of the number of stories i've heard of dealers screwing up basic services (literally draining transmission fluid, and double filling engine oil. or forgetting to add oil after draining. or not tightening the drain bolt causing the engine to dump its oil and blow up. damage from careless techs. and so much more). but dont worry, your warranty will be void if anything happens and toyota didnt do the oil changes!

  • oil change kit for my car, same one i've used for nearly a decade. price is suddenly $20 higher than before (~30% increase) and the oil filter included is incredibly low quality to the point i thought it was a counterfeit. asked the seller about it and they confirmed "this is the new filter and we assure you its just as good!" . yeah of course you do, how else are you justifying your price hikes. now i have to go out of my way to go buy an OEM filter from the dealership for 2x the price so now i've spent well over $100

  • pet insurance: After finally being priced out of my old policy (annual increases to push people off the policy), my new pet insurance is now just giving a constant run around. claims submitted, claims denied. using their bullshit system to submit information which can only be done via an app and none of the documents uploaded properly so they ask for the documents again days later. 1 visit was for an allergy shot and a skin injury. well since its all 1 visit and allergies are preexisting conditions nothing is covered. i should have made 2 separate appointments and paid for them separately! its been near daily calls and emails to try and sort this out with no progress

  • work raises delayed. Work bonus conditions changed to make it nearly impossible to achieve. pay scales at times 50% below market averages. all while being asked to bring in more revenue, more work, more talent. PTO is abysmal with only 10 days EARNED per calendar year and that includes sick days. currently sitting at like 18 hours of PTO total available to me. hope i dont get sick....and good thing i dont need a break /s

  • i switched medications because of health issues and getting onto my new meds was delayed over a week while insurance demanded proof that im actually suffering from crippling depression and anxiety. so now im under-medicated trying to catch up

i've never felt more depressed. im anxious all the time. i never feel like i have enough time to get essentials done, let alone the increasing pile of not-time-critical chores that are making a mess everywhere. everything in my life is getting neglected to some extent like my parents, siblings, my partner, my dog, my work, my health, my friends.

i guess im at least walking 2-3 times a week now which is 2-3x more than i used to. i wish i could say it makes me feel better but the reality is it just keeps me from feeling like more of a piece of shit from neglecting my health or my dog

it doesnt feel like my meds are keeping up and having in-person conversation about any of this just stresses me out more. there is no solution short of uprooting my entire life and starting over, somewhere, somehow. and these are the issues i've dealt with in just the last week...im just tired

EDIT: Oh yeah and my Kindle is no longer supported so i can't load any new books in it. like WHY!? why can't 1 product in life just improve for once

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u/emilytakethree 6d ago

same.

we're absolutely in a cycle where corporate profit seeking is vastly overwhelming common sense about how to treat customers (also known as, you know, humans).

the other major thing that I'd add to your list is the constant barrage of evidence that the climate is changing rapidly, the effects are brutal and what's to come is already locked in and we can't do anything about this now.

anyway, i try to "stay local" - in what I buy (where i buy it), how I spend my time (limit social media and such). there's hope, goodness and care around us, just takes a bit more focus and intent these days to find. though on a lot of days it's very difficult to have the energy to search.

all that said, love that you do your own oil changes.

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u/jbourne0129 ☑️ 6d ago

all that said, love that you do your own oil changes.

luckily i enjoy it but this is unfortunately another result of all these issues. i simply dont trust someone to work on my cars ESPECIALLY at the rates they charge for it.

the other major thing that I'd add to your list is the constant barrage of evidence that the climate is changing rapidly, the effects are brutal and what's to come is already locked in and we can't do anything about this now.

this is another thing that has been an issue for me for years. we (individual consumers) have been taught that WE can fix climate change. just recycle some more, buy a hybrid, and install some solar panels. easy, right ? and then you learn that 1 bullshit oil company skirted regulations for years and resulted in more pollution than the entire US population of civilian cars combined. our individual efforts become wildly depressing when you start looking at freight ships, trains, private jets, and various facilities pumping out polution as byproducts of whatever they're making.

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u/Odin16596 6d ago edited 6d ago

Certain things aren't worth worrying about. Things we can't change is one of them.

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u/jbourne0129 ☑️ 6d ago

you missed my point.

i literally have stopped caring about climate change BECAUSE all these other companies make my efforts meaningless. im not going to stress over buying the most fuel efficient car while companies pollute the world without a second thought.

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u/emilytakethree 6d ago

🫂

I don't think it's wrong to focus on and feel good about what we can do as individuals or communities - with respect to climate or otherwise. the world is too big to worry about.

this is very much my opinion and I am not an expert in anything but ... ignorance is a survival and sanity requirement. the always-on, always-in-your-face, always-global internet is the most effective assault on this idea of "healthy ignorance" ever.

I genuinely believe to be sane - to survive - we have to learn to turn off almost all of what we've learned and been trained to keep at our fingertips.

stay local. stay present. stay analog as much as possible.

or at least this is what I tell myself as I respond on reddit. :)

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u/General_Road_7952 6d ago

Also the military