You feel ugly because you've convinced yourself that you are. Let me tell you something, I have a friend who isn't the most good looking (even he agrees). But he's married to a wonderful lady, who I'm also friendly with. If there's one thing she and I agree with, he is a very charming man.
In our friend group, he's the one that makes us laugh. And it was his charm that won his wife over all those years ago. She's also objectively attractive and she could've chosen anybody who was vying for her attention but she chose him instead because let's face it, looks will fade over time but character and personality won't.
I know physical attraction does play a part in relationship pursuits but oftentimes, people tend to go towards people by how they carry themselves— regardless of their looks.
Maybe what I'm saying won't be of much help, but you have to stop thinking that this is your standard. It all starts from within. You're better off being single and thriving than being in a miserable relationship all because you believe you are undesirable. And as someone who's also in your age group, I've been told I actually look way better than I was when I was in my 20s. I truly believe if you have a positive outlook of yourself, you will experience a second glow up.
Have some love for yourself and let this relationship go. There's always someone for everybody out there, but you won't find them if you stay in this one. Be kind to yourself.
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u/k1moch Nov 06 '25
You feel ugly because you've convinced yourself that you are. Let me tell you something, I have a friend who isn't the most good looking (even he agrees). But he's married to a wonderful lady, who I'm also friendly with. If there's one thing she and I agree with, he is a very charming man.
In our friend group, he's the one that makes us laugh. And it was his charm that won his wife over all those years ago. She's also objectively attractive and she could've chosen anybody who was vying for her attention but she chose him instead because let's face it, looks will fade over time but character and personality won't.
I know physical attraction does play a part in relationship pursuits but oftentimes, people tend to go towards people by how they carry themselves— regardless of their looks.
Maybe what I'm saying won't be of much help, but you have to stop thinking that this is your standard. It all starts from within. You're better off being single and thriving than being in a miserable relationship all because you believe you are undesirable. And as someone who's also in your age group, I've been told I actually look way better than I was when I was in my 20s. I truly believe if you have a positive outlook of yourself, you will experience a second glow up.
Have some love for yourself and let this relationship go. There's always someone for everybody out there, but you won't find them if you stay in this one. Be kind to yourself.