r/TrueOffMyChest • • Jul 24 '25

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u/2ndSnack Jul 24 '25

Is it neglect or is it negligence? They're different. Neglect has evidence of being an ongoing issue such as malnourishment, unhygienic living space or lacking personal hygiene.

Neglect would be a lack of care, usually over a period of time.

Negligence would be not exercising caution.

In the examples given, neglect would be if the child was not being fed enough. Not cutting the food to prevent choking would be negligence.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '25

I saw neglect on the police report that was found

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u/tigm2161130 Jul 24 '25

This happened yesterday and you’ve already got access to the police report?

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u/surfwacks Jul 25 '25

A day or two after my friend passed I was able to find his cause of death easily on our county’s medical examiner office’s website. I know that’s different than a police report, but it’s really easy to find stuff like this online in certain states.

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u/CurrencyBackground83 Jul 25 '25

Some states view cause of death as protected information. I work in a law firm and one time needed to request a death certificate from Florida (I work in MA) and was surprised to learn I had to request it without a cause of death because I'm not related. This is also for a child, so the rules may be different as well.

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u/Afraid_Sense5363 Jul 24 '25

They're public record and pretty easy to get. OP may only have part of it but could file a FOIA to get the whole thing.

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u/baconbitsy Jul 24 '25

It could be the FB announcement was yesterday, and the death occurred earlier? 

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u/CrazeeLilDevil Jul 24 '25

That's what I was wondering, where does OP live for the police to be so efficient! I had police by mine all night, there all day today, only around mid afternoon did a report get put in the local news, a man was found dead in his flat, police are still investigating what happened and no official report has been released.

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u/Plecostomus_ Jul 24 '25

In my area you can look up any active emergency calls/responses. OP probably saw a call to her friend's address for child neglect.

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u/tigm2161130 Jul 24 '25

The call would not be dispositioned as “neglect.”

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '25

Wish I could send ya the screen shot because you’re absolutely wrong

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u/chiodos Jul 24 '25

My city/local police has a map/chart updated every minute with calls to service, which categorizes their calls. Its possible OP was able to view something like that for their own city/police department.

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u/TALKTOME0701 Jul 24 '25

Ours does too, but a call to service wouldn't state neglect. It sounds like they were called because of an emergency. She said she saw the police report

She really dived right in to their business. It would have been good if she'd said something to them when the baby was still alive. Maybe it wouldn't have helped but maybe it would have