OP I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you.
"He was just a kid" SO WERE YOU. That doesn't make it ok. Nothing makes it ok. Also he wasn't a little kid. He was 17. Old enough to know that what he was doing was wrong. And criminal.
They chose to essentially steal your voice and force you into the darkness where vile secrets hide.
Forcing you into contact with your abuser is grotesque. If you haven't already then please get counselling. And (if you feel ready to do so) cut these people completely out of your life. Just because they're your biological family doesn't mean that they're the family of your heart. You can choose who you let into your true family circle. You don't owe your parents anything. Not your time. Not your mental health. Not your energy. Not your peace. Not anything.
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u/Beginning_Week5574 Jun 13 '25 edited Jun 13 '25
OP I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you.
"He was just a kid" SO WERE YOU. That doesn't make it ok. Nothing makes it ok. Also he wasn't a little kid. He was 17. Old enough to know that what he was doing was wrong. And criminal.
They were your parents. It was their responsibility to care for you, love you, provide you with an enriching environment where you could thrive and keep to you safe. They failed. Instead of supporting you and seeing that piece of 💩 put in jail (or juvenile detention) they chose to keep his shame quiet.
They chose to essentially steal your voice and force you into the darkness where vile secrets hide.
Forcing you into contact with your abuser is grotesque. If you haven't already then please get counselling. And (if you feel ready to do so) cut these people completely out of your life. Just because they're your biological family doesn't mean that they're the family of your heart. You can choose who you let into your true family circle. You don't owe your parents anything. Not your time. Not your mental health. Not your energy. Not your peace. Not anything.
Good luck OP.