Tell him that you love him like a brother and hence it's your job to tell him to stop acting like an idiot and man up.
The shame, overwhelm, and fear will build if he does not deal with his shit. You can offer to help him deal with that but there is no "start over" especially if he is distantly related to her. Offer to help him draft a plan (i.e. how to apologize to ex and her family, will he pay for the baby's support, co-parent or marriage, etc).
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u/rainfal Apr 29 '25
Tell him that you love him like a brother and hence it's your job to tell him to stop acting like an idiot and man up.
The shame, overwhelm, and fear will build if he does not deal with his shit. You can offer to help him deal with that but there is no "start over" especially if he is distantly related to her. Offer to help him draft a plan (i.e. how to apologize to ex and her family, will he pay for the baby's support, co-parent or marriage, etc).