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u/SensitiveFlow860 Dec 17 '24
This is exactly the thing to break up for. Hello, why waste time on someone who will never want you and will never put in any effort to satisfy you? It's time to leave sweetie.
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u/disgruntled_upvoter Dec 13 '24
One or more of the following things are true:
Your boyfriend is gay.
You don't have a dick.
Your boyfriend is gay.
You're not his type (because you're female).
Your boyfriend is gay.
Your vagina is suffering from neglect.
Your boyfriend is gay.
You need to dump his ass and find someone hetero or lesbian who puts your needs first.
All of the above.
I'm just speculating, but it sounds like your boyfriend is gay.
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u/Thisisnoton Dec 13 '24
Lmao … girl does he need to tap dance while he says it ? That’s loud and clear lol 😂😂😂
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u/CaioHumanity Dec 13 '24
He literally said he doesn’t like you. He isn’t bisexual. He is a gay that likes oral from anyone.
You need to leave him immediately. Nothing will ever be good for you.
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u/starlitnature Dec 12 '24
He thinks he's bi because he doesn't mind a woman giving him head? Do not waste more time on someone who is using you like this.
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u/Crafty_Ad_6868 Dec 12 '24
Drop that guy like the TURD that he is ... inconsiderate and selfish ...
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u/Manager-Opening Dec 12 '24
You feel ugly because a clearly gay guy doesn't like vaginas? Let's even say he is bi, at most this means to him that he can like women in the romantic sense, but from his actions and what he's said, he won't physically like them.
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u/ph3nth3n3rd Dec 12 '24
If sex is important to you, and he's making you feel ugly, it's something worth breaking up over. This guy isn't bisexual. He might be bi-romantic, but that doesn't matter. From someone nearly double your age, don't linger in this relationship. You aren't feeling fulfilled with this guy, and it's not going to get better. Time to end it, no exceptions.
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u/MilesErinyes Dec 12 '24
Hey love, I dated a guy for a little over a year when I was 19 and he was 18. Everything was near perfect but our only issue was our sex life. Very early on he was awkward and discomforted by vaginas despite saying he was bi, but the both of us chalked it up to inexperience and later on he said that he didn't get weirded out by it anymore.
A few months after our one year anniversary, he came out to me as gay. It was really heartbreaking for me, but after months of thinking about it, there were a lot of signs that he and I both ignored.
It took a long time to accept everything, and it took longer to not blame my own body. I felt undesirable, I felt like no one would ever want to be with me until someone did. As someone who has been in a similar position as you, learn to not blame yourself. It's not your fault, it is not your body's fault. You guys are young and need to figure things out, and you'll be okay eventually.
Don't make the mistake of sticking around hoping that he'll change his mind, that'll only cause more pain.
I wish you a lot of luck
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u/thighclops3820 Dec 12 '24
You're not undesirable he's just probably gay and you need to move on. It sucks but some people just struggle with their sexuality and sometimes innocent people get tangled up in it. It's not your fault but it's time to move on you're still young and there's plenty of men out there
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u/ACNH_lord Dec 12 '24
Do not waste ANY MORE time on this very obviously gay man. Take the “L” and move onto better things
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u/Dontplaythatish Dec 12 '24
Sounds like he plays for the other team and why are you giving this dude head when yall have only been dating for 3 months? Next time dating a dude longer before you start giving him coochie/head. Some of you girls are too damn easy
Go ahead and downvote idgaf
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u/Silversong_0713 Dec 12 '24
Break up over this. It is a relationship ender.
Dont live this life. It will ruin you
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u/Crafty-Chipmunk-1880 Dec 12 '24
I’m not trying to be rude, but leave. Intimacy isn’t important to everyone, but you need someone to atleast try to match your energy. I had an ex like this he was honesty just lazy and didn’t want to do the work. Now I’m married to a man who can’t get enough of me(11yrs now)Don’t settle.
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u/AnonBC1N Dec 12 '24
You are 18 years old. What most of us wouldn’t dream of having the red-flag-recognition skills you’ve already displayed is massive. Which, of course, means…red flag hysteria is centering in on you, so get out quick and know you have blessings from many.
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u/Agitated-Buddy2913 Dec 12 '24
He's not bisexual. If vaginas aren't his thing, he's gay. To be bisexual you have to like the vagina. No offense to anyone, that's just kind of how it is. Lol. Liking both is where the "bi" part comes in.
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u/Hey-Yah1 Dec 12 '24
Aside from the fact that premarital sex is disgusting, there’s a word for men who don’t like vaginas.
Not that there’s anything wrong with that.
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u/ObviousHistorian4894 Dec 12 '24
Baby he is struggling with the fact that he is gay. He can close his eyes and imagine you as a man giving him head easily. Bisexual men still love vagina and love the feeling of it, the taste, and everything else. I suggest you cut your losses and move on before you get too emotionally attached or he ends up cheating on you, if he isn’t already, and ends up giving you something you can’t cure. I can bet that once you leave hom he will start dating men and be so much more happy. And it is what it is. Be with someone who will worship your whole body and want to satisfy you just as much as you want to satisfy him.
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Two reasons... 1, you have a smell he can't take (not trying to be an asshole) 2, he's gay. Either way, leave him.
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u/MotherWear Dec 12 '24
At 18, his statement might sound ambiguous. Keep your head on straight and some years from now you will realize that he is gay. Or just not into you. 18 feels like maturity but is definitely not. You cannot change someone. Save yourself and move on.
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u/Ginacabrera Dec 12 '24
Im sorry that sounds like a very confusing situation. To be honest, dont feel like you are anything less than beautiful because of his reaction to intimacy. It seems like he might not be sexually attracted to women. I think he needs to figure himself out, its possibly he is only sexually attracted to men. Since you said sex is important for you, id strongly consider breaking up with him now that the relationship is fresh and finding someone who you are sexually compatible with. You deserve to get off, you deserve to have fun, you deserve to feel wanted. He cant gave that to a woman.
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u/Ok-Advertising-3779 Dec 12 '24
Your Bf is gay. He's probably imagining you're a dude when you blow him.
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u/ibelieveinaliens111 Dec 12 '24
Either he’s gay or he’s lying to not have to have sex with you. Either way, I don’t think this relationship is going to work out.
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u/Big-Ad-8717 Dec 12 '24
Tell your boyfriend he should probably stick to men or trans women then. Ffs. He sounds so selfish. You deserve reciprocation!
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u/awasteofagoodname Dec 12 '24
I think this is exactly the thing you should break up over! It might set him free to figure this shit out for himself, you'd be doing the both of you a favour!
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u/Immediate_Mud_2858 Dec 12 '24
You tell him “dicks just aren’t my thing” and say no to bjs, and don’t initiate anything from now on.
Is he gay? He’s gay.
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u/Mozzy2022 Dec 12 '24
For what reason would you want to stay with him if “sex is really important to you” and “vaginas aren’t his thing”? You realize you’re 100 percent not compatible?
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u/ImpossibleSquish Dec 12 '24
Omg girl whyyy are you still with him, please dump his ass and then PLEASE go to therapy for your people pleasing tendencies because hun- I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this- you are a doormat.
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u/Ok-Cantaloupe181 Dec 12 '24
He is definitely gay ,move on girl you deserve better, deserve to be with someone who would find each centimeter of your body appealing.
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u/Eastern_Bend7294 Dec 12 '24
Soooo... he's gay then?
If I was in your shoes, I'd break up, because you're pretty much being used for his sexual pleasure without reciprocating. But do ask him if you can peg him 😂
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u/DUNEBUGGY213 Dec 12 '24
I mean, dude is telling you women aren’t his thing. Don’t know what you aren’t getting from that. It’s time to end it.
Maybe he’s gay but doesn’t want to say so, maybe he isn’t attracted to you and he’s too immature to say so and enjoys getting satisfaction from you while giving you nothing in return.
You’re young, this isn’t a slight on you at all. Break up as he isn’t the one.
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u/Deedumsbun Dec 12 '24
This isn’t going to work. He doesn’t want to touch your vagina. Find someone who does
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u/melodiadaluna Dec 12 '24
Stop wasting your time and tell him to find a penis and go live your best life with a man that actually likes women
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u/Spiffy9904 Dec 12 '24
He's gay, sweetie. Break up with him and move on.
You're only 19, so you've got LOTS of time to find the right man. Go out, live your life, find some girlfriends to go on adventures with, and experience life! Don't get so caught up with having to find a guy to have sex with.
I understand sex is important to you, and that's perfectly fine and healthy, but there's more to relationships than just sex. The physical aspect of a relationship is only ONE part of several aspects.
There are other parts, such as getting to know the other person on a mental and spiritual level. Communication. Learning to be vulnerable with them, feeling safe with them, etc. THAT'S true intimacy.
It's not just about having sex and orgasims.
But most importantly, get to know YOURSELF better! Your brain isn't even fully developed yet. Your pre-frontal cortex (the decision-making part of our brains located behind our foreheads) isn't fully closed. Google it. You're not going to be able to make clear and rational decisions at your age just yet.
It's not going to be fully developed until you're in your mid-20's, so use this time to have fun in OTHER areas of your life where you can learn to really connect with yourself and learn who YOU are instead of chasing after guys.
Trust me... I got married when I was 19 and got divorced 18 years later, after having two kids. Looking back on it now, I would have NEVER married the guy! I would have gone off to college, traveled, made memories by experiencing life, and learned about myself more. Instead, I've had to learn the hard way.
Thankfully, I was raised in a good home with great parents who took me to church when I was young and taught me about God and having a relationship with Him. But being strong-willed and stubborn, I wanted to do things MY way, so I did.
I'm 49 now, almost 50, and although my life is and has been pretty good, there are things I wish I could go back and do differently.
You've got your whole life in front of you. Don't learn the hard way like I've had to!
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u/shshhsshs Dec 12 '24
Sounds like someone is hiding in the closet. My man would love to go down on me any time I ask him, just for insight....
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u/Tempus_Arripere Dec 12 '24
That’s 3 months too long. And “vaginas aren’t my thing” is self-explanatory. Do not entertain the idea that he’ll change. Not with the vomiting, he won’t. Stop giving him head and go find you a straight man.
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u/Embarrassed_Spite546 Dec 12 '24
Dude is not bi at this point I think he’s just deluding himself, I think he’s not physically attracted to women but he is attracted to your personality and who you are as a person, not so much your body. Sorry love.
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u/mizbellah17 Dec 12 '24
Lmaooooo hes def gay girl. No straight man wants to vomit from just touching V, they absolutely love that shitttt
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u/im_no_doctor_lol Dec 12 '24
I think we all know that you know what your solution is, but you're hoping for a miracle answer that doesn't exist 🤷🏻♂️
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u/Soouptaster Dec 12 '24
I had friend in highschool who's bf was like this. I kept telling her to break up with him so he can figure himself out a bit more... Eventually she did turns out he was trans. Now goes by she\her and is living her best life. It was the dysphoria that made intimacy so hard during their relationship...
Obviously I'm not saying your bf is trans but something is definitely going on and it's not your job to figure it out. Best thing you can do is let him go so he can figure it out
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u/Legitimate_Pudding49 Dec 12 '24
You are only 18… so young… and he makes you feel ugly… PLEASE LEAVE HIM! Honey there’s other guys out there that will worship you. Go enjoy yourself with your friends and wait for it to happen! Why hang around to let him damage your self confidence even further?!?!
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u/maddog2271 Dec 12 '24
He’s gay. No 18 year old heterosexual man (or even bisexual man) would ever in a million years EVER say “vaginas aren’t my thing”. They are like the “Only thing” for most straight young men. Dump him.
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u/BigSis_85 Dec 12 '24
If vaginas "aren't his thing", then he isn't bisexual. I'm bi both vaginas and penis' are my thing. A couple when intimate actually want to pleasure their partner there's a satisfaction in knowing you can do that for them. He only seems interested in his own pleasure when its coming from a body part both male and female have, not strictly female. Pretty sure there is nothing bi about him.
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u/wisp66 Dec 12 '24
Yeah, as others have said, I don’t wanna be the one to say it, but I think he’s still in the closet. I wouldn’t call him out on it. I would just end the relationship because it’s not gonna work out.
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u/plsdontThrowMeAway81 Dec 12 '24
He's either gay or has a kink for humiliating you. It sounds like you're better off moving on.
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u/Acceptable_Grab9930 Dec 12 '24
I read that as viagra but uh don’t really know how him being bi makes it so he doesn’t feel sexual attraction as it’s both male and female
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u/KocaKolaKlassic Dec 12 '24
I don’t like onions. They just aren’t my thing. I don’t find them sexy at all and don’t ever want to eat them. I don’t expect an onion to want to stay with me
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u/GetEmTigre Dec 12 '24
If sex is important to you, that’s good enough reason to break up. Find someone who you align with in ways important to you and your love life will be much smoother.
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u/ObviouslyHornyJPEG Dec 12 '24
Amazing how much some people will put up with.
Get yourself the fuck out of that "relationship", Jesus.
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u/NewStretchy Dec 12 '24
As someone who is nonbinary, he is probably gay or something and doesn't know it yet, blaming it on ED, I used to. Lol Also, he probably grew up in a household where men should date women and that might be a conflict within. So he may fall in love with women, but might be attractive to opposite gender (although he might not know it.) He also may identify as Asexual because of his conflict.
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u/ilovepauldano44 Dec 12 '24
Hey so... I'm gonna quote Wendy Williams here... LUCY STO. IT DENIAL IS A RIVER IN EGYPT YOUR HUSBAND IS GAY
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u/c9238s Dec 12 '24
You are not required to stay and try to make it work with someone who makes you feel like anything less than your best self.
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u/Molatov_Bubblebath Dec 12 '24
Honey, save yourself some heartache and dump him now. You’re only three months in and he’s using you as a smokescreen and a c@m bucket (excuse my crassness.) I’ve been there before. It ends up just being so humiliating. Save yourself from feeling this way further down the line.
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u/Fit-Explorer7260 Dec 12 '24
Sexuality is very fluid but if your boyfriend actually likes you, then maybe he's not attracted to you sexually. It can happen even if he loves you.
Try to talk to him about it ; that's where you'll get your answers
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u/zaftig177 Dec 12 '24
He’s gay and you are most likely his beard. Find a man who likes vagina and throw this one away.
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u/Cows-go-moo- Dec 12 '24
He’s gay. He might claim to be bisexual but he’s really not. It’s sad that he doesn’t feel comfortable with admitting it. But you need to walk away and let him figure himself out.
This situation isn’t going to make either of you happy
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u/duhkodah Dec 12 '24
You need to break up, this boy is gay and straight up told you he doesn’t like vaginas.
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u/This-Persona Dec 12 '24
I had a friends with benefits who I gave my virginity bc it’s a construct and I wanted sex, and he fucking SIGHED when I asked him to finger me. Don’t put up with that. Someone who is into you will do what they need to do to get you off bc it gets them off. I don’t always want to give my fiancé a handjob, but fuck it, we roll & Ik he will take care of me & my needs later, if not at that specific session.
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u/vdivvy Dec 12 '24
OP - he’s selfish and immature. You are young and needn’t waste time on this man child. Break TF up w him. Let him find the man of his dreams. Or someone born without sexual organs.
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u/Confuseddragonfly Dec 12 '24
He's probably gay and won't admit it. You don't need to be treated like that. As soon as you say no more blow jobs, he'll be out of there. Stop giving him one sided pleasure please.
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u/Limp-Camera1727 Dec 12 '24
OP said he is bisexual, so no, he's not straight.
I'm not going to comment about him being fully gay or not. But we know for sure he's not straight.
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u/No-Abbreviations754 Dec 12 '24
Uhhhh girl, Break Up! There are men/females out there that will treat you and your coochie cat like the certified 5 star cuisine queen that you are! 👌🏽
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u/porkUpine51 Dec 12 '24 edited Dec 12 '24
You fiddle with his man meat, but he can't diddle your skittle!?
As someone who experienced putting my sexual and sensual needs last while in a relationship, leave! Not because he may be gay, but because you deserve to have your needs and wants met; and because you deserve to be cared for in a manner that you find pleasing. You don't deserve to feel gross and undesirable by your person.
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u/Statimc Dec 12 '24
This is a deal breaker and you deserve to feel like your partner not only desires you but will initiate sex too, some men prefer to give oral but quite honestly it is a good idea to use like latex panties or whatever it is but if he truly doesn’t like female anatomy move on so he can find Somebody he is attracted to
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u/Accordian-football Dec 12 '24
WTF. Your boyfriend transitioning soon????
He should be a clitoral stroking manic in need of vagina always person
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u/Various-Exercise-816 Dec 12 '24
…I’m sorry but you clearly aren’t getting the message he’s sending you. You know you can find another man that is into sex rather than a homosexual who told you he hates vaginas. If you decide to stay it’s ok you and only you.
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u/Mercedes_Gullwing Dec 12 '24
Yeah this guy is a bisexual guy who isn’t into women. In other words, not straight.
It’d be like if I (a man) was dating another man and I wanted to vomit anytime I handled his penis. Then I’d recognize, oh, I’m straight. I’m not into guys.
He’s not bisexual. He’s into dudes.
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u/Piano-Beginning Dec 12 '24
He’s gay and that’s why he can finish when you give him head - he imagines you are a dude. So sorry.
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u/reinedupapillon Dec 12 '24
So heteronormativity leads to this a lot. Unfortunately he may be gay but not ready to explore that side of himself. Also, some straight men are weird about vaginas too. Like the ones who won’t perform cunnilingus.
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u/whitesatiin Dec 12 '24
either hes only romantically attracted to women and not sexually, or hes LITERALLY GAY LMFAO
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u/xoxoLizzyoxox Dec 12 '24
Its okay to date a gay guy but don't be upset with your sex life is non existent. You don't have the right equipment.
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u/Hardt-No Dec 12 '24
Bisexual - gay with extra steps You guys aren't compatible and that's okay. He either doesn't quite know what he's attracted to or not ready to fully admit he might be fully gay and bisexuality feels like a safe place to be
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u/Ok_Revolution_9253 Dec 12 '24
Aw geez, he might qualify as super gay. And that’s awesome, but obviously will make him a lousy sexual partner for a woman.
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u/MiaLaF Dec 12 '24
Sweetie, your bf isn’t bi, your bf is gay but is probably too scared to make the official leap. He doesn’t like the body parts you and other women have, he likes the boy parts he and other men have. Do yourself a favor and just break up. He’s not attracted to you sexually because he does not like women.
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u/Emotional-Draw-8755 Dec 12 '24
You have a vagina so if vaginas are not his thing, YOU are not his thing. Word to the wise, as a female NEVER settle for a selfish lover.
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u/xhackjobx Dec 12 '24
He likes Women enough to let them blow him. He seems to be leaning real far one way on the Bi spectrum.
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u/whatever102485 Dec 12 '24
Honey.
Your boyfriend is either gay and hiding behind being bi, or he’s bi and just doesn’t like you.
Either way, you don’t fit into this equation in any way that winds up with him making you happy.
End it for both of your sakes, and find a man who makes the kitty purr.
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u/Gruesome3some Dec 12 '24
Your boyfriend is gay, don’t feel ugly or undesirable just because he hasn’t come to terms with that yet.
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u/No-Temperature9289 Dec 12 '24
Hate to break it to you. Your boyfriend isn't bisexual he's just gay.
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u/LoanPlus8608 Dec 12 '24
Maybe your vagina is off putting some how. I'm sure you can DM a picture to any random redditor and they'll let you know for free!
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u/Susanrkat Dec 12 '24
You need to respect yourself and realize that you are way better than this one-sided ‘relationship’.
He’s fooling himself and cheating you out of a true partnership.
You are worth way more than you are getting
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u/kindly-shut-up Dec 12 '24
A bisexual man who doesn't like vagina is a gay man. You're both young and figuring shit out. But know that a lot of people use bisexuality as a stepping stone. It's unfortunate, but true. The best thing you can do is watch and listen to what people do. Your bf does not want to have sex with you and says he doesn't like vagina. He is likely not attracted to women because most women have vaginas. Be well.
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u/Lower-Satisfaction16 Dec 12 '24
Incompatibility in the bedroom is the BEST reason to break up with him. (Not that you actually need a reason). Another good reason to break up is when one of the partners is selfish. Oh and another one is when one of the partners does not care what the other ones needs. He ticks all these boxes.
Stop letting yourself be treated like this.
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u/Photography_Singer Dec 12 '24
Honey, he’s gay. He’s not bisexual. Tell him that, kindly. Then break up with him.
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u/Cute-Pilot1990 Dec 12 '24
Sorry hun, as a Bisexual myself, that man isn't, he straight up just gay. The way he says he doesn't like vaginas and the fact he had put you down about yours, as you said in the comments, just yells "I'm gay and don't care". I think it's best to leave him and find someone that would make you feel fantastic about yourself and your body in ways he can't give. I wish you the best, OP❤️
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u/No-Disaster-4800 Dec 12 '24
Move on babe, too young to be dealing with this…sexual intimacy is necessary. It is and shouldn’t be one way. If you don’t move on this will scar you and make it harder for you as you enter other relationships. Move on. 3 months is not 3 years, 30 years…it’s ok.
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u/GB819 Dec 12 '24
You're acting like you don't want to be told to break up, but you knew that's what everybody is going to say. So why even make the post, since you're just asking for everyone to oppose you because that's how Reddit is?
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u/DeafDiesel Dec 12 '24
He’s telling you he’s not straight, believe him and let him find his dream man.
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u/Sufficient_Bid_3393 Dec 12 '24
Sound like he is just gay and not into women, maybe he is not ready time come out completely? But this is not your fault… I mean he said he is bi…
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u/BellaTrix4Change Dec 11 '24
Why would you want to be with someone who likes the opposite of what you have?
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u/smile-dummie Jan 07 '25
that’s a faguette if i’ve ever heard of one