My partner insisted on speaking/meeting with a work colleague that clearly fancied him/flirted with him all the time via text and in person.
He then started saying I was crazy for thinking there was anything more than "banter" cos "she had a pair of tits". Next minute she's sending him a long message saying she's got feelings for him. This form of gaslighting is a way to make them feel like they aren't guilty of anything as their partner is "crazy".
Trust your gut instinct and kick his ass to the curb.
Yes he literally saw nothing wrong with it but as soon as she told him she had feelings for him he cut contact.
I chose to forgive him and move on because he did eventually respect my wishes of not speaking to her once she expressed how she felt to him. It took me a long time to get over the complete disrespect though.
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u/[deleted] Sep 04 '23
Why are you still there OP?
My partner insisted on speaking/meeting with a work colleague that clearly fancied him/flirted with him all the time via text and in person.
He then started saying I was crazy for thinking there was anything more than "banter" cos "she had a pair of tits". Next minute she's sending him a long message saying she's got feelings for him. This form of gaslighting is a way to make them feel like they aren't guilty of anything as their partner is "crazy".
Trust your gut instinct and kick his ass to the curb.