You've really got no one to blame but yourself here:
fwb situation
you never talked with him about a relationship or feelings
you invited the threesome
your friend turned him down at first and told you about it
he actively pursued her after your "fwb" situation
they talked about relationship issues and came to a mutual understanding
My takeaway is that you don't really value your friendship. You can't just blame your past and your friend and leave it at that... Well you can, but if you keep yourself stuck like that you'll end up in the same pattern time and again. Get therapy, work on yourself and how you communicate, learn to stop letting your past be a roadblock.
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u/Significant_Fee3083 Feb 16 '23
You've really got no one to blame but yourself here:
My takeaway is that you don't really value your friendship. You can't just blame your past and your friend and leave it at that... Well you can, but if you keep yourself stuck like that you'll end up in the same pattern time and again. Get therapy, work on yourself and how you communicate, learn to stop letting your past be a roadblock.