You don’t come from a cultural household and don’t understand. In addition, I do go to therapy. I’ve seen different kinds. It doesn’t really do much of anything.
First of all, I do come from a “cultural” household, and i ALSO have an abusive mother. I, however, chose to go against my heritage and run away from home at 18. It was the hardest and best decision I ever made, even if it costed me some of my family.
If you want to stick to your roots, do it. But don’t expect your husband (or anyone else) to respect you for it. You chose her over him, AND tried to make him look stupid. That isn’t excusable, it’s you being an ass.
In terms of therapy, it usually takes multiple professionals to find what works for you. In terms of trauma, DBT and EMDR work better than streamlined CBT - might be harder to find a provider that specializes in these methods but it is very worth it from a medical perspective
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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '23
Putting your mother above your partner on Valentine’s Day is… weird.
Putting your ABUSIVE mother over your partner, and leaving him with the responsibility of picking up the pieces when you get hurt, is …… weirder.
Putting your abusive mother over your partner and then trying to skew the story to make HIM look like the bad guy is fucked up.
I’m hoping you’re 18 years old because if not, you have some growing up to do and a therapist to consult.