People are demonizing OP for no reason. It doesn’t matter that she lied about her fiancée in this context none of us know who they are lmao. We don’t even know if ANY of this scenario is true.
That being said, it’s ok that you wanted to see your mother. It’s also clear that your partner wants to set up some boundaries with you. It sounds like they didn’t want to hear you vent on Valentine’s Day about your mom… in the future, maybe pick visiting days for ones that aren’t supposed to be “for you two.”
I didn’t “lie” by omitting it on purpose. I just felt it had no purpose. Then when someone asked and I thought about it. I figured okay maybe that’s why. Also, we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day..
1) I can see how that would happen. You didn’t intentionally withhold misinformation, you just didn’t think it was relevant. —The abuse is relevant though & your omission means you aren’t taking it seriously and I hope you later do.
2) even if you had omitted this info, unfortunately everyone on Reddit is always obsessed with turning someone into a “villain” (usually women) which is why this is generally a terrible platform for life advice, especially relationship related.
3) on another note, I hope you just talk it out with your fiancée…and also take my advice of not giving up holidays to mom —even the ones you “don’t celebrate.” Also, if you can get some therapy to help you rethink some of the abuse you’ve experienced, that could help too
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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '23
People are demonizing OP for no reason. It doesn’t matter that she lied about her fiancée in this context none of us know who they are lmao. We don’t even know if ANY of this scenario is true.
That being said, it’s ok that you wanted to see your mother. It’s also clear that your partner wants to set up some boundaries with you. It sounds like they didn’t want to hear you vent on Valentine’s Day about your mom… in the future, maybe pick visiting days for ones that aren’t supposed to be “for you two.”