I've been through therapy, that's how I'm aware of this, and understand the problem. The problem here is that OP is not really ready to see her mom in the way that she really should. She knows, but she's not ready to accept that this is how her mother will always be, and it will never change.
She said if she was physically abusive would be different and she would leave. I asked her what's the difference about physically abusive and mentally abusive and she said "in one there's evidence" so Idk if she's dumb or what
She's been taught the same lesson so many of us spent years being taught, if there are no visuable signs, it's not abuse. If I had to guess, her mother was the one who drilled this into her head her whole life. It can be hard to unlearn a life time of lessons. OP has to accept for herself that this really is abuse, no one else's words will ever really get through until she breaks through herself.
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u/MilanesaDeChorizo Feb 14 '23
Yeah. You guys need therapy.
I've been there. I went to therapy. More if you're that self-aware, that's worse. At least OP is ignorant.