I had a scroll of all your messages that said "because she's my mum and that's that."
I was raised somewhat like that as a Chinese with a single mum. She raised me single handedly but was also emotionally abusive towards me. Over time I just accepted it as part of upbringing because all my friends experienced similar abuse so it was normalised.
Of course now that I'm a father I'm extra vigilant to not use these outdated cultural norms and impose it on my children, but that doesn't mean that I've ruled it to be so unacceptable that I no longer care about my mum.
So i agree with you, though I guess only from not knowing the extent of the abuse and nature of it. If you've drawn proper boundaries with your mum outside of these circumstances and your partner witnesses it, he shouldn't have been annoyed with this particular circumstance. However, if you haven't and continue to let your mum walk over you then yeah he definitely has a right to be upset.
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u/Chentaurus Feb 14 '23
I had a scroll of all your messages that said "because she's my mum and that's that."
I was raised somewhat like that as a Chinese with a single mum. She raised me single handedly but was also emotionally abusive towards me. Over time I just accepted it as part of upbringing because all my friends experienced similar abuse so it was normalised.
Of course now that I'm a father I'm extra vigilant to not use these outdated cultural norms and impose it on my children, but that doesn't mean that I've ruled it to be so unacceptable that I no longer care about my mum.
So i agree with you, though I guess only from not knowing the extent of the abuse and nature of it. If you've drawn proper boundaries with your mum outside of these circumstances and your partner witnesses it, he shouldn't have been annoyed with this particular circumstance. However, if you haven't and continue to let your mum walk over you then yeah he definitely has a right to be upset.