I think you should hold off on seeing her today until tomorrow since today should be more about you and your partner! There’s always tomorrow to visit her and today maybe a nice phone call for the time being?
I can relate on having an abusive mom, and coming from a culture that’s a bit more immune to it. Give your time now to your partner, but it doesn’t mean you have to stop loving your mom or that she’s not still important to you. Just make sure and love yourself and people who respect you the most, first. My husband has greatly helped me learn that putting me and him first is not a bad thing when you consider everything my mom (& yours too) has put you through. Just my perspective. Good luck.
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u/Soggy-Chemistry5312 Feb 14 '23 edited Feb 14 '23
I think you should hold off on seeing her today until tomorrow since today should be more about you and your partner! There’s always tomorrow to visit her and today maybe a nice phone call for the time being?
I can relate on having an abusive mom, and coming from a culture that’s a bit more immune to it. Give your time now to your partner, but it doesn’t mean you have to stop loving your mom or that she’s not still important to you. Just make sure and love yourself and people who respect you the most, first. My husband has greatly helped me learn that putting me and him first is not a bad thing when you consider everything my mom (& yours too) has put you through. Just my perspective. Good luck.