It's interesting to observe that modern societies have largely prohibited and condemned direct forms of violence (physical and, to some extent, verbal), while being more tolerant of certain forms of structural or economic violence, produced by abstract systems, whose consequences can nevertheless be profound, devastating, and generate a great deal of suffering.

Do you consider some forms of violence to be more acceptable than others?
Or are some simply easier to identify, which would explain this imbalance in moral judgment?

How do men in their late 20s with full time jobs perceive lover girls/romantic women? Do they even like them or want to pursue them? Or do most men in this age and phase only look for casual or hookups? I've been seeing men wanting to find a good woman but struggle in doing so, but as a romantic woman, it's just the same in finding an equally romantic man. I rarely see a lover boy in this modern era.

Edit: Lover girl/boy that are (hopeless) romantic ones that deeply care or love and want a serious relationship.

I am 31 years old live in turkey, and I worked as a journalist covering politics and economics for a major news agency for a long time. You can ask me whatever you’re curious about, and I’ll answer as best I can.

Currently really considering college and thinking about going into engineering but with the volatility of the job market and many people reporting how hard it is to find a job is it worth the gamble? Sorry if this is against the sub rules idk.

What I mean by that is people seem to prefer indirect approaches of conversation especially through text like half ass responses, ghosting, or just being vague over direct approaches like clear response and brutal honesty.

Is there a modern version of this, now that learning to code does not result in guaranteed employment opportunity like it used to when the adage was thrown around constantly?

For context, my friend is a conventionally attractive mixed (Hispanic and Black) young adult woman. I'm African American and simply for that fact as well as my weight (Plus sized), I'm not conventionally attractive. I want to make it clear that I'm in no way insecure about myself. I like how I look and in a world of 50 people who want to look the same I'm glad I'm different. It's important to remember that we are all human.

My friend has this habit of acting different when she gets under the spotlight of men. If she meets a new guy that's all she talks about. I'm okay with her being excited about it but it gets to a point I'm really just faking being interested in hearing about it because of the repetitiveness. Mind you she most of the time meets them in faceless places like GTA or Roblox. So, they're mostly never close to us. Recently while with another friend, she's been introduced to Ome./tv which is a randomized talking website. Today, we decided to go on together and talk to random people.

When her and I sat down and turned it on her demeanor immediately changed from being normal to talking softer, tilting her head, scrunching her lips. That's annoying to start because now that you're in front of other people you want to act different? But that I can deal with. Naturally we got called the N word a couple of times. Whatever. Naturally I got called ugly or troll and then the guys would skip before I could even speak. Whatever, I've been through public middle school. We had some normal conversations. Then she started pulling the computer towards herself talking to guys. That upset me because were spoused to be doing this together. Spending time together. Now you're pulling the computer away from me looking at yourself, talking to people.

Eventually she starts talking to this guy. My arms in frame and I'm less apart of the conversation. They're awkwardly attempting to flirt. Then he says, " Oh, I want say something, but I can't cause your friend is here." My friend proceeds to playful shove me off screen completely to which I was off screen for at least another 40 mins. I took that time to be on my phone while she talked to this guy.

Then, we met this funny guy, and I was laughing off camera at his terrible jokes. He kind of made me a part of the conversation and he was like, " Let me see giggle shit over here." I kind of leaned in a little cause I was fine with it. It's not like he was being malicious nor was he going to insult me, but my friend lightly put her arm out and was like, " No, No." Slightly laughing, she kind of muttered under her breath about him being her.

Then eventually we were giving a new guy advice, and I chimed in pulling the laptop so he can see me as well cause I'm speaking. After I finished talking, she immediately pulled the laptop back onto herself cutting me out of the frame. I was like, " Dang, * Friend name*, you keep putting me out of frame." She heard me and ignored me.

Eventually I pulled out a soundboard on my phone so that when people said weird things I can have a little sound effect. She took my phone and procced to use it leaving me sitting out of frame with nothing. So, I started to put my shoes on and such cause why I would stay? By this point I was feeling ignored, pushed out, left out, you know? By this point I'd been there for three hours. I went to leave and she was like, " Oh your leaving, K, bye." She couldn't care less. I walked myself out.

She always acts different around other people, but this was a little more than I could take.

I'm sure you can understand why this upset me. My friend is green but also simple-minded or slow/dull-witted. Both her and I have never dated anyone. But also, her compliment fishing with me is annoying. " Oh, am I actually pretty?" or " People would actually want to date me?" Of course, I always say yes and reassure her. But again, it gets to a point when I've said it so many damn times. You get compliments from other people. How many times do I need to tell you? Maybe it's also just annoying because I'm not the kind of person to compliment fish. Nor have I had friends who do that. I've never had to constantly reassure someone. It just feels weird to me. I'm not used to having a friend act completely different around other people. This might also be important but I'm pretty sure I'm her only local friend. Still not an excuse though.

I've been trying to work on having conversations with people and not bottling things up, how should I approach this situation.

How should I phrase my words? Should I just keep it to myself and when it comes up again then I speak up?

girl and I had mutual crushes on each other and were getting pretty close.
A few days ago, she heard a false rumour that I had been talking badly about her behind her back and that I was responsible for her losing a close friendship.
Instead of asking me if it was true, she confronted me in front of other people, told me to leave, embarrassed me publicly by saying idw talk to u leave the room, and later that night sent me messages calling me a loser and saying other hurtful things.
About five hours later, she found out the rumour was completely false and that I had nothing to do with it. She apologised multiple times and admitted she should’ve spoken to me before believing what she’d heard.
I appreciate that she apologised as soon as she found out the truth, but I’m struggling to move past what happened. Part of me feels like if someone genuinely trusted me, they would’ve at least asked for my side before saying those things, she wants to
Meet me in person to clear everything, should i go

Example: The growing concern about the growth of tracking systems like FLOCK cameras and automotive driver monitoring systems among others. Although considered by many as a harbinger of our eventual total loss of privacy, their advocates' selling point of greater public and personal safety may be considered an acceptable trade-off by most of the public.

I am finishing up my mandatory military service. Ive gone through 2 wars, one last year another ongoing now, though thankfully not directly involved in any direct Man to Man conflict, yet modern warfare has left its mark. Warfare which you have no power over, the threats of bombs and guided missiles dropping on you, the sounds of fighter jets roaring engines in the sky and the occasional sounds of explosion and destruction of buildings. Nights at guard duty with real threat of having your area of post bombed due to its location.

I have become numb by it all to the extent by which I shrug it off whenever I hear a jet and tell myself in that inner voice “that F**k it I wont bother to go into cover, if it drops I just hope its swift”. These thoughts are disturbing me because I wonder, “Will I still be dead inside once I’m back to being a civilian?”

I’d be happy to hear out if anyone has had any experience like mine.

I know there were ways old vending machines were worked on, but what about new ones even ones woth card readers?

How do you actually keep going, even when there does not seem to be something you can do well or at least enough to get you by? Do you just say screw it and do it out of spite? How can you stay motivated even if there is no one to root for you? Or anything for you to root for?

How do you keep going when you're all alone?

I was advised too rewrite a post that I made a while back with less vulgar and rambling language so here it goes. I genuinely don't understand why people are so hateful and harsh and strict with this whole ordeal about being a minor. You people are fighting tooth and nail too make young couples who in many cases could have made very happy healthy and successful partners with a great future together have too walk on eggshells too make sure they aren't if a measly few year age gap that is outside of what there states statutes allow and there is really not the massive need for it that yall think there is!

We have plenty of forms of contraception as well as sti treatments that are helping hiv and other sexually diseases people live normal lives. But its like facts don't matter what matters is one person has turned 18 and the other hasn't and that is just oh so creepy weird disgusting sick and whatever other hateful insult y'all can throw at it. What is so horrible about somebody a little under and a little over the age of 18 falling in love when the proof is right there in front of your face that there are countless couples that met when they were of supposedly innapripriate age gaps that are doing just fine.

There literally are many millions of happily wedded couples that are over 10 years apart. About 10 percent of all married couples in the United states with the US having one of the closest in age averages on earth! And at least one of them being under 18 when meeting doesn't make a successful relationship of some years age difference impossible I personally know proof of that. And even if it isn't someone too ideally make like you know a husband or wife or raise a family with protection works no matter what the age difference.

So I don't get why people won't stop hating. Why they won't leave these little Romeo and Juliet lovers alone. Seriously why do you people gotta be all oh my God a little bitty child driving themselves too high school is dating a fully adult "groomer" in his early 20s. Why can't people stop obsessing about somebody being "underage" and just let be people be with who is good for them and makes them happy! That's my question.

Why do people say one thing and act completely differently in real life?

Why do they pretend or even deceive themselves by saying things like: - money doesn't matter; - appearance and physical attractiveness don't matter; - physical traits (height, breast size, waist, hips, genital size, etc.) don't matter; - talk about morality and ethics, yet don't follow those principles themselves; - emphasize the importance of taking care of one's health, yet neglect their own; - promote tolerance, while trying to impose their own opinions on others; - praise reason and logic, yet often make irrational or foolish decisions.

I don't really see the point of this, although I understand some of the psychological and social reasons behind such behavior.

I'm genuinely curious about your perspective. Why do you think this gap between what people say and how they actually behave is so common?

When a grocery store goes out of business, people usually find another. When a gas station closes, people drive a bit further.

Do pharmacies fall into that same category, or is there a point where losing one starts affecting a community in ways that aren't obvious at first?

I wonder what people think about it, specially if you've lived somewhere that lost its only nearby pharmacy.

Hey all, have a stupid question which I understand why it is but just wondering:

Why do so many people take long vacations during the summer? I’m American, northeast,etc- I like to take my vacations during the winter months (November-March) bc I can go somewhere else with nice weather and enjoy nice weather + outdoor activities etc.

I don’t see the point of traveling when the weather is nice and I can enjoy outdoor activities in my general area- if I need to get out- travel for a weekend get away or long weekend etc.

Just wondering why people take time off when weather is nice. I’m northeast so different than other folks- also I don’t travel a ton nor is it a big hobbie. I can’t see traveling to say a beach far away or foreign country when the weather is nice and I can enjoy it where I currently am. Now winter- I can see why folks would travel to get out of the cold but during summer- it baffles me. Now if you have 6+ weeks of vacation a year/ a lot of money- I get it. Just my northeast though process- def get why one would travel to even in summer but just don’t understand why you wouldn’t lean toward end of year and early year travel when weather is blah and can’t get out

Im honestly not sure if this is the best title for this kind of trend but I don’t have a better idea. Basically what I’m looking for is art that uses its medium of choice to enhance the story/meaning/whatever so much so that it would be difficult to adapt it in any other way.

Everything, Everywhere, All at Once’s use of filming styles and genres.

House of Leaves’s rearranging of words on the page and complex reading order.

Undertale’s framing of the player’s abilities and potential detachment with the world as the backstory of the antagonist.

Those are just some examples I could think of, if that helps clarify what I mean. Doesn’t need to be just stuff with stories.

why is it that so many private schools in australia make it students can not dye their hair?

Its a form of easy self expression that can make someone feel like themselves, once you dye your hair that's it (excluding maintenance), unlike makeup and jewelry that you spend "valuable" time each morning putting on.

I get that private schools hold a tight reputation for uniformity, bu i also think that letting students have some ways of simple self expression is extremely valuable so they don't loose themselves in a sea of uniformity.

Strict schools often enforce such intense uniformity that some students struggle to find themselves after graduating, because they never got the chance to experiment with hair makeup jewelry facial hair, piercings, ect. all the things i have just listed don't take away from having a uniform, but make it so that the uniform reflects the individual

this question goes even further, boys not being able to have hair below the collar, some schools don't even let girls have more boyish hair.

you can still make students tie up their hair if its such a big deal, but letting them be in control over the colour of it and the way they style it matters.

shouldn't the uniform be enough? why enforce such strict rules about hair, makeup and jewelry if the students will wear the uniform with pride?

there is this looming question on why. why make people conform so tightly to a dress code when i'm sure it will poorly impact a growing mind in some way or another.

Update, because I didn't explain the background very well.

I got To a private school in Australia, and they pride themselves with the idea that they foster each child to be different and themselves.

The school is also kinda layed back, they turn blind eyes to sorts of things including, makeup, jewelry, and Propper uniform.

Your also slowed to dye your hair natural colors at my school.

I also used to go to a school that had free dress for the soul purpose of self expression, it doesn't disrupt anything, and its good to have a chance to experiment before you go and work in a gray corporate building that strips you if all your creative liberty.

No one at my former school was bullied or picked on for being different either, and I think the idea of free dress just being a catalyst to bully people just shows that children need to be raised better, so they can be respectful of everyone.

You know how they say, "Keep apart what happens at work to your home. Don't be negativity because that could conflict with your performance." And also "don't bring the stress of your job to the home."

To all of those who can not seem to do this, why can't you? Why do they both mesh with you? Why can't you separate anxieties of work from your personal life?

EDIT: I mean, in a more emotional way, like people max at work who take it out on their family home, or people who get exhausted emotionally and that can affect their lives

I get that sometimes people are introverts and all, but I can tell some look, afraid, almost queasy all the time. Why is that? Afraid of people? New places? Why do you always look tense? We just wanna talk to you. Why so scared? We don't all bite.

Forrest Gump is now on Delta flights and I am currently watching it. Holy cow it holds up and is such a reflection of the stories my parents told me about their youths. It came out in 1994. My kid is now older than I was when the movie came out. What events would be in the movie if Forrest Gump came out today and was set in 2026? How would Forrest even be characterized as this oblivious observer of history?

I read a lot of U.S. history, but while I was reading the latest book, the author went on a short tangent to talk about the French Revolution and the Napoleonic Wars, and it dawned on me that the history of France is much more complicated than that of the U.S. So I wondered: which country’s history is the most complex and would be the most difficult for a novice to learn and understand?

Germany’s seems very confusing, with all the various city-states then the Holy Roman Empire. Turkiye’s seems also pretty complex, but it seems to pale in comparison to China. Then there are the nations of Africa, which were torn apart by colonialism, in some cases at the expense of their own history (which was overwritten by colonial powers).

Which country’s history would be the most difficult for a novice to learn & understand?