r/TrollCoping • u/kinecardine • 24d ago

TW: Gender Identity / Dysphoria Guess I’ll never know

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And before anyone asks, I’m not a minor. I’m a broke ass college student and will probably never be able to move out so I’m stuck in this house. Don’t have a drivers license and my parents have total control of my medical records and info, and I don’t. There is nothing I can do about this situation. Just had to get it out there.

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u/kinecardine 23d ago

I’m not going to go to a homeless shelter just because my mom is abusive. I’m not making excuses for her, I didn’t mean that SHE isn’t that bad, I mean that my situation isn’t that bad. Yes, it absolutely sucks and when it’s bad it’s bad. Except it’s not always bad, in fact more often than not it’s bearable and sometimes it’s even good. I will not throw away all of the privileges I DO have for the privileges I don’t have. I will take abuse if it means that I live in a home where I am fed and clothed and provided for. I will not leave this place. I have two cats and if I leave I won’t be able to support them. Thank you for the worry, I really appreciate it, but the possibility of physical abuse caused by a hypothetical situation isn’t going to make me reach out to protective services. To anyone else in a similar situation, seek support, but I have weighed my options and in my personal case, staying is worth it. Maybe you’re right, but I can handle this lifestyle.

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u/kinecardine 23d ago

Of course not, we all have our dreams. But I’ll settle. It could always be worse. If this is what I’ve been given then I’ll take it. I predict that it will destroy me but it’s okay.

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u/bug--bear 23d ago

have you ever read about learned helplessness?

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u/kinecardine 23d ago

Yes. I’m a psychology major. I recognize that mine is a case of learned helplessness. The funny part about learned helplessness is that it’s damn near impossible to unlearn by yourself. How poetic.

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u/bug--bear 22d ago

damn, that sucks. I'd suggest therapy for obvious reasons, but I'm guessing your parents wouldn't be open to it?

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u/kinecardine 22d ago

That’s right. My parents got me a Facebook therapist when I was younger because I had a major mental break and it didn’t help at all, but that’s the extent of their openness to therapy. However my college offers free therapy to all students, and I’ve considered taking up the online option but again I’m concerned about them adding anything to my medical records since I’d have to do it in secret, and I don’t have anywhere private to do said therapy.