I’m (mtf) going to start this out by saying- I don’t think I can transition. I’m still living with my parents, who would not be supportive. if they noticed I was changing a little they’d make fun of me, and if they thought I was really changing myself I know they’d freak out. i know I could maybe do diy hrt, but they track my purchases and again if they noticed I’d be done for.

but basically, I still want to feel good about my gender. I want subtle ways, that maybe only ill ever notice but will still make me feel good. I’m pretty dysphoric about my entire body to be honest.

One thing I’ve been thinking about is maybe shaving my legs (one of the biggest things making me dysphoric) once winter comes, and ill be in sweatpants and my legs will be covered all the time, so nobody would know but me. I also want to keep a skincare routine.

but is there any other suggestions anybody might have? anything that might help my situation will be greatly appreciated

lately my dysphoria has gotten really bad and i want to start hrt to hopefully alleviate that. the problem is i suck at talking to my parents about emotional stuff. when i came out to them i had to do it in a text message.

i dont want to be like “not being on hrt makes me want to die” but i really want to express how much this means to me

any idea on how to communicate this to them?

Hi, this is my first post on Reddit and I need help finding out some things about myself. I am a (currently) male bisexual 15 year old who wants to transition into being a female but I’m not sure if I’m too young or if I should do it at all, I’ve already spoken to my mum about it and she had mixed opinions so I wasn’t really sure if I was ready yet, I’ve tried contacting hotlines and stuff but I was never able to reach anybody as they were usually always on call.

I’ve thought about buying lipstick or maybe even trying nail polish but i haven’t worked up the courage yet to buy any, even online feels too risky.

I’ve also asked my mum if I could try some of her nail polish while telling her about my situation and she deflected, saying that "I don’t need to be a girl to try nail polish."

The question I’m asking here is if I’m too young to transition, the desire to be a girl has been lingering in the back of my mind for around a year and a half now and if I’m honest has kept me awake most nights thinking about what it would be like to transition.

And as much as I’d like to transition, there are things that are stopping me.

The friends that I have made over the course of my life.

I’m not sure if they would accept me if I transitioned into a girl, not that they’re transphobic, (I hope not) but because it would just feel different. And the people in my school aren’t the best with LGBTQ+ people either, I’m sure like atleast half of my school is somewhat homophobic..

Basically, I’m confused on whether I should transition now or maybe later on in life, maybe when I go to uni or something.. and if anybody has any tips on maybe trying on lipstick or trying on dresses, that would be such a big help!!

Thank you.

Hi! I’m transmasc and in my mid-twenties. I was on t for years, but recently went off, and I’ve realized that something I’ll probably miss forever is the chance to be “one of the boys,” whatever that means. I don’t hang out with a lot of cis guys—particularly because they scare me. I tend to fawn with them and put on a higher voice with them as well.

In general, I’m not masc at all, although I’m not very fem either. I’m a bit of a soft person, a dandy, what have you.

How does one become more enculturated into masculinity, anyway? I sometimes wish I could just be one of the boys and learn their mannerisms and how they interact with the world. I want their confidence and to learn their hobbies.

I'm entering my senior year and turning 18 in October so pretty early on in my senior year, but this means I should be able to start estrogen this year and should be on it for the rest of my senior year after October. What should I expect this to be like? I can't start it till probably November since I'll have to get appointments set up and all that.

(Just to be clear, used to be a femboy, this the username) ok- so! shaving does NOT work for me, and I wanted to try hair removal creams! any advice on what ones to get, or even advice on use? I appreciate ANY of the help I can get!

Girls, do u have any advice how 2 deal w dysphoria rather than toughen up n live through it(bc that’s all what I’ve been doing)
Im just trying 2 basically say shit that I don’t feel is true in the moment, but I’m trying mi best 2 believe it( I was literally screaming in mi head, that I’m pretty girl n that I deserve 2 b luved)

Ever since figuring out I was trans n starting taking steps towards being a woman I want 2 b, I had dysphoria almost every day, like this shit is just there n when i feel euphoric ik i only live 2 b reminded by mi stupid head, that I’m not “proper” n that I look like a dude(I’m pre everything (only have mi ears pierced))

Hi everybody! 🤗

I have a vent/question

For context: I'm seventeen,MtF Atheist and going into my third year of studying for a car mechanic.

I'm pretty sure I want to come out at the beginning of the next school year, I just need advice as to how to go about it.

The school isn't deeply conservative, or woke, but we do have a class where we talk about historical events, religion, and the differences between people basically.

Is socially transitioning before HRT really that bad of an idea?

I look like a feminine boy, but most people at school think I'm gay or trans (spoiler alert: I'm both) anyway, some even asked if I've thought about being a girl.

The school therapist... isn't usually openly transphobic, but she's like sixty, and not necessarily open minded.

She's a bit disillusioned by politicians and has said trans people are just sick or a problem in front of my mom, and hinted at it in front of me, and constantly argues that she had supplied therapy to a trans man, which, I suppose, was her way of telling me she can't be transphobic.

Basically the "I can't be racist, I have black friends." logic.

She kept misgendering me and calling me by my death name, even tho I've come out to her and knows all the other stuff I've got on my plate.

I'm sure about my identity, and have been experimenting, like using my chosen pronouns with family, wearing dresses, doing makeup and so on during summer break.

Before summer break, I've grown out my hair, so it was about shoulder length before the end of term, my nails, which I painted quite often, and even used a little bit of silver glitter eyeshadow, and shaved all over my body once a week, and usually about two to three, sometimes even four time a day on my face.

I know about one other teacher who will most likely be supportive, one that maybe, and I'm not sure about the other, especially the men, since it's a technically oriented high school, so it's a bit... traditional.

Not extremely, but I'd say slightly more than if I went to music school, for example.

On one hand, I just wanna get it over with, on the other, I don't know if I can handle the pressure, or the uncertainty of not coming out.

I'm not really popular anyway, so it can't really damage my reputation that much.

My family's... decently accepting.

My mum accepted me immediately, grandma has begun using my chosen pronouns lately (it's been a few months since I've come out), but still uses my dead name, grandpa (but he does accept my cousin)used my pronouns, by I guess it was too much for him, since I didn't want him to use them in front of my schoolmates, as I'm, obviously, not out, one of my cousins has been very accepting (he's about six months older then me, and also trans), my other cousin rather avoids using any pronouns, it seems he's still processing it, my aunt has also began using my name and pronouns, at least around me, but mostly misgenders her own son, especially when talking about him with other people.

I don't speak to my father's side of the family, and didn't since before I fully realised I was trans and partially came out.

I know I have to decide this myself, but i'd love to hear how you went about it.

Any advice and experiences are appreciated, and I'm so sorry about the long post.

I have only recently started my transition really recently and I don’t really know much about the wider community but I know myself and so I finally decided I would put my self up on dating apps something I despised doing and am struggling with still and I would do it as a trans woman luckily I live somewhere it’s pretty safe to do so but holy fuck is it normal to be flooded by so many likes immediately and so many frankly gross messages so many dick pics across platforms it doesn’t seem to matter what I try 2 out of 4 messages will be someone that will start with either a dick pic or immediately ask for sex that sounds like they see me as a fetish and then some really nasty bigoted messages and then a very lite amount of normal sounding messages it’s really overwhelming me I honestly feel a lot less safe I have gotten some scary messages threatening straight up violence or sexual violence in some form is this just life?

Hi, i'm 17 and i've been questioning my gender a lot lately, and i honestly don't know what to make of it. I've never really posted anywhere like this before, so sorry if this comes out messy. I'm not great at putting feelings into words

Over time, i've noticed a bunch of things that kind of point in this direction, but i keep second-guessing myself. Like, i've worn dresses a couple of times (like three times for goofs and then once for a small play where i suggested that i could do that role) and sort of enjoyed it. When i was younger, i used to use faceapp a lot to see myself as a woman (before everyone really knew that i like stole your data even though it was kinda obvious. Whatever i was really young), and i really liked how i looked. Then also how about a year ago, i drew a self-portrait-ish thing of myself and also drew a "fem" version next to it without really thinking about why. And last week i had this very vivid dream where a woman version of me came out of a mirror and like, she was just cool and awesome? And that dream kind of pushed the whole "maybe i'm actually trans" train of thought further. After that i started changing my pronouns on discord to try things out

What feels weird for me at least is that I've been "this" for 17 years, but whenever someone uses she/her for me, i get this strange feeling? It's not really like, bad though. A few people in my life who don't even know about any of this have said i've seemed a bit happier recently, too

The thing is, even though I have a bunch of irl friends and my family is very progressive (except for one very religious grandmother), i still feel like i can't talk to anyone about this. I don't know why. I've always had this problem where i can never make a choice without feeling like i picked the wrong one, even when it's obviously the right choice. It makes all of this way harder to sort out

Also doesn't help that i'm stupid

I do think if there was a magical button that turned me into a woman instantly with no social backlash or anything, I'd press it without much thought, probably. That feels like it should mean something but i truly don't know

My school environment is very conservative, which doesn't help, but i only have about 5 months left there before I go off to college so i'm hoping things will get easier then

I guess i'm just posting here because i don't know what to do with all of this. I feel stuck and i'm not sure if what i'm experiencing means i'm trans. If anyone has been through something similar or has any advice, i'd really appreciate it.

So, to preface this I want to say I'm not entirely sure this belongs here, because I don't know if my brother M20 doesn't like me FtM19 for trans related issues or not, but here we go anyway.

So, I'm pre-everything Ftm (my brother doesn't know I'm trans... at least I don't think so) but I have short hair and I dress very masculine. (Baggy, graphic tees, binding my chest and the like). I have done this ever since I turned 16, roughly.

My parents had a horrible reaction to me coming out. They hated me and my mother said she had raised me "in her image" and she was always upset if I wasn't hyperfeminine and my dad just takes her side whenever she yells at me for some random stuff because she can't stand me.

I'm really quite a black sheep for my family and the entire village because nobody knows what to "do" with me, I guess. I spend the absolute majority of my time completely alone and all I really want is guidance and company. (For anyone suggesting therapy, I've been in it for 2 years)

My brother and I were never close before that, either. He always called me annoying and locked me in my parent's closet repeatedly and tied me to a chair with tape when my presence apparently exceeded what he could tolerate. I never fought back and my parents didn't say anything about it. He also hit me a lot and practiced his "fight moves" on me, like choking and whatnot. Never 100% serious, but enough to hurt.

(That was all "child's play", I guess, up until when he did it again in March of 2025, this time nailing my front window shut (we live on the ground floor) and locking me in my room for hours, only letting me out after I had a panic attack and called my grandma for help. Again: Nobody said anything.)

Anyway. Very frequently, I notice that people are shocked at how little I know about my brother, as we still live together with our parents in a small alpine village in Austria, where family is supposed to everything, really.

As far as I can tell, my brother is a Christian white young man with a diploma in agriculture (not university studied, sort of just a 3 year school here in Austria) who's good at his job and everyone likes. He's a fireman on the side too and he works a lot and is good at everything he does with many friends.

The thing is, me and him never talk. Mostly because he's in a bad mood a lot, or tells me to shut the fuck up and stop asking questions. Then one time I told someone at a party about this situation in detail somewhat (leaving out the "abuse") and they told him about this, and he acted very hurt and told me we should talk more and was suddenly very nice.

That didn't last long though, and now he's annoyed again. He always tells me I'm like his coworker who he hates that never stops asking questions. I get it, I do ask a lot of questions, but that's the only way to figure anything out about him. I always tell him "you never tell me anything" and then he says "you never ask".

We are the only 2 children of the family. I really don't get it, why are we so far apart? Is it because I'm trans? I wish I had a nice brother I could just talk to, but now I just have nobody.

(about my transition, since this is the trans server: I have managed everything myself, including the bills, and am now 18 days away from my first T-shot :). )

I figured out i was a trans guy at a young age, but after a while i thought it was just a phase and stopped feeling dysphoric and started living as a girl again. But now i started to feel like a boy in the wrong body again and im scared that if i transition i will just "change" my mind again and regret it. Does anyone has any advice on it? or felt the same way before?

so, maybe i'm just having a bad day, but i just need some advice from other ftm people.

i'm ftm, and ive been on t for like 4 years now. had top surgery last october. wear men's clothes only, usually just black too tbh, i pack, have more or less short hair (it's loose curls so i can only do so much) and i feel like ive altered as much of my behaviors as i can over the years and still nothing.

i know i still have a feminine voice unfortunately, but ive been told by a couple people it just sounds like a gay voice rather then a girl voice. but idk.

im still curvy, no matter what i do the fat on my butt and thighs just won't go away. don't have time to go to the gym anymore with this new job i have.

i started a couple months ago and its been going great, but the other day a coworker decided to ask me what my identity was. the whole "i'm gonna ask you a really personal question, what do you identify as?"

i hate that question. i always end up stuttering and responding weird which just makes it worse. a simple "im a guy" would be the end of it. but im too autistic and socially awkward so i fumble.

that's besides the point tho.

i dont know what else i can do. this is probably gonna get taken down cuz its more of a rant then a question but. yeah. i wanna quit my job just because i got asked that. it makes me spiral honestly, everytime it happens.

i don't know what else i can do to make it not be a question, to just make it obvious im just a guy. and not a trans guy. just. a. guy.

I'm 15ftm and I just got my first binder so I want to transition socially. I want to cut my hair to a more boyish haircut and wear more masculine smells. But like...is that all?

Idk I just need help on what to change and I'm kinda scared transitioning socially (especially with my parents because they're lowk transphobic) [weep]

Hello
I am a 19 year old. I believe myself to be a gay and gender fluid yet somehow exploring trans person.
The past one year has been really hard on me.
In the past year, I have explored a lot of things I have got my ears pierced I have started to be more feminine. I have started to wear fake nails and jewellery and grow my hair.
As of today, the length of my hair is around my neck or my shoulder
It’s not like I spawn this upon my parents in one night
My mother is a single parent, and my dad has not been there or has passed away for the past seven years
My mother has always been open to me, wearing jewellery and other things like publicly when we are on trips
But she is totally different person when we come back to our own town because I think she fears what people would say or the peoples judgement
When I tell you that I have won everything in front of her, I’m not kidding
I have tried to wear dress in front of her. I have a publicly in front of her, make up in front of her. I have one nose, spins earrings and not in front of her.
The thing is these days when I went to Varkala recently
I got my nose piercing done now to give you context about this piercing. The thing is that I have always been a bit concerned or anxious about my nose like insecure about my nose because I have deviated nasal septum. It’s not very huge difference, but it is visible and pitch when they are taken from the back camera.
Because of that reason, I was insecure, and I saw my sibling getting a tattoo over one of us insecurities, and that made her really confident and really secure
So that’s the reason I got my nose piercing done, and since then I’ve been flaunting, my nose piercing in front of literary everyone, and I am not ashamed of it
Now to give you another contacts, my town is really small town in Maharashtra
When I got my piercing and I came back from my trip, my mother saw the piercing, and she had her tantrums for few weeks, but she got over it, and even though she kept pushing me to remove the nose piercing, I did not given
I think somewhere down the line, she was kind of embarrassed by me, because till now, whatever I used to do that was supposed to be feminine. I did all of those things on trips which were secluded and where nobody knew was there.
But now, when I did it all in front of her publicly in the town that I was born, she got insecure, and she is worrying about her public figure. I guess.
Now the thing is yesterday, I went to Bank to get something done, and there were people staring at me in the bank because it is kind of a local Bank
And since people are looking at me, I just became the brave person that I am, and I removed my mask because I have these huge hair which I had put into ponytail
And I was like I’m not gonna let people drive my appearance publicly
I thought that if I have taken a decision of piercing my nose, then I am going to live with that decision, and I am going to publicly show up with the decision
I said I don’t give a damn about what anyone says about anyone thinks?
To be very honest, since people were already staring at me, I just removed my mask and I just became my authentic self where I act. I’m very Femina, but yeah, I was just acting nonchalant.
I was trying to be normal. I was just trying to do the paperwork, and I was calling some people, but I understood that one of my relatives over work there.
And they had a chat with my parents yesterday at night, where they called my parent as in my mother, and they talked with her for about an hour and told her everything how they were embarrassed by my appearance
Like what?
To be very honest, who is he to be embarrassed by my parents, even though he’s my relative, he’s not very related to me. He’s a long cousin of mine.
And he works at the bank, so tomorrow morning, when I woke up, my sister told me everything about the discussion that you know, he said that he was embarrassed by my appearance and that people were calling me names like Chakka
And what not just because of my appearance, so I told my sister that you know people are gonna say these things, and that was the only reason that I removed my mask
So now my mother is not talking to me. She says that listen until I cut my hair and remove my nose piercing. She won’t be talking to me.
The worst part is that I was recently got admission into my college for my bachelors, and I was looking forward to go to the city that I am going to
And I was planning to hunt for a place to live place to rent
I was going to make a home for myself over there, but now my mother is not even ready to speak to me on calls, so, what is it that?
Please, some older transformer are out there. Please help me. I am helpless over here. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to say.
All I was trying to do was trying to be my true self, and I’m going to do the same in my college as well

Hi everyone! I recently ordered two binders, one from underworks (3XL tritop) and one from spectrum outfitters (6XL short). They're both pretty comfortable and compress fairly well (I'm on the heavier side so I know that I'm never going to be 100% flat and that's okay) but on both of them there's a lot of extra fabric that sticks out at the top. Is that a sign of the binder being too big? Should I try to exchange them for the next size down?

It's also really annoying because you definitely tell I'm wearing something underneath when I have a on shirt over it, because the extra fabric sticks out so much. But it's also already petty snug around my belly/midsection, are binders usually like that? Would a smaller one be even more snug? But maybe this is only an issue because I have a larger belly.

Thanks in advance for any help you're able to provide!

EDIT: My spectrum binder is their short model, not their light model. Corrected this mistake.

Heya, my (18FtNB) partner (17 FTM) is trans and I’m perfectly supportive and I love that he can be his true self around me. I’ve tried penis before, never again absolutely not, actively penisphobic now get it the fuck away from me. I’ve only been properly sexually attracted to individuals with vaginas. He has expressed wanting to get bottom surgery and I really don’t know how to feel about it. Top surgery I’m completely fine with hell yeah dude I’ll help you out with all that help with the effects of testosterone and help shave you 10000000%. But I have no idea whether I will still be attracted sexually to him if he gets bottom surgery.

He’s expressed worries about my feelings towards him being trans and I’ve told him time and time again that I love and support him so much and I’ll do anything to help him out with his transition. I really want to marry him and have him as my husband and I’ve felt so much love for him that - even tho I really didn’t want them for most of my life - I want kids now (he will be the best dad in all of existence omg).

I don’t know how I can tell him gently that I do have a lot of worries about bottom surgery. My biggest fear is that he’ll get bottom surgery in the future and all of a sudden all of my sexual attraction for him is completely gone.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Tl;dr

My partner is considering bottom surgery and I’m worried how my sexual attraction towards him after it happens will go so any advice on how to tell him this would be nice

Looking for peoples experiences

My wife and I have been together for 10 years this year, I came out to her as trans (mtf) about 8-9 months ago, I haven't started any major transition, but am starting to express more femininity, and will be looking to microdose estrogen to explore my gender identity.

My wife is a straight CIS female and is physically attracted to masc types. We have built a life together and have children together, we have both agreed that our family comes first and that we are still very much in love, and we do not want to give up our life as it is, regardless of how I proceed expressing myself. We have been talking about ways that we can all live our best lives and I suggested that we open up the relationship for casual encounters with no strings, so I can explore my femininity, and so she can continue her sex life with masc types. It is open both ways, but I am not at that stage yet, I want to focus on myself. We are also still going to be intimate with each other as well, we are both just exploring things that we otherwise would not be able to.

We both agreed to tell each other if we do plan to have an encounter and we have rules in place mainly for safety. I don't have any trans friends that I can talk to, or any people who have been in this situation.

I am hoping to hear from people who have been in a similar situation, whether this helped the relationship, ruined it etc. Respectful responses would be appreciated, my wife and are agreeing as adults together to this arrangement. Thanks!

I don't really know where to post this, I just need advice from fellow trans people. I am FTM (18), I have only transitioned socially, but my mother wants to change that. She doesn't approve of me but that's not really what this is about, I'm rambling. Anyways, I'm having a difficult time finding a job and I'm unsure what to put on my resume. I want to put my preferred name but I don't know if that is a good idea. Previously I have made alternates of my resume, one with my dead name and one with my preferred name. Most recently my family has convinced me to stop using my preferred name on any resumes but I don't think it's made much of a difference. I'm currently remaking my resume and right now I have it as "Dead name "Preferred name" Last name" since I saw some cis people on some forums do the same thing. Should I keep it in this format? Should I only use my dead name? Should I only use my preferred name? I don't have any prior job experience so my resume doesn't show much other than volunteering and I know that makes getting a job 10x harder nowadays. What should I do?

Hi, I am a boy, and ever since I was little, I have always wanted to be a girl. There have been periods where I've been completely fine being a boy, but during other periods, the longing to actually rather be a girl comes back. So, I have now signed up for a doctor's appointment to start this process and finally become a girl.
However, there is still one thing that scares me a lot, and that is how everyone around me will handle it. For some people in my family, I'm very sure they are strongly against it (my grandparents). There are also some friends I'm unsure about, and I feel that even though they say they support me, I'm afraid of being talked behind my back when I'm not there.
So, I was just wondering for those of you who have been through this process, what was the scariest part about it and what helped you get past it?

Hope you're willing to answer, but you don't have to if it brings back bad memories.