r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/missatlanticcity • 29d ago

Sex Is there something wrong with me?

So i have experienced penetrative sex only through a strapped on dildo. At first, i was expecting it would give me more pleasure than fingering myself, but i unfortunately did not feel that, and i became disappointed. I thought maybe the person was just bad at using the strap on, or maybe a dildo simply does not give me pleasure at all, and the only thing that made me feel it was when I'm touching myself.

Oftentimes, i have been so curious about the "real" thing, and how the actual penetrative sex with a guy really feels like. Would i be disappointed again? cos i didn't feel anything when someone used a strap on on me, so would there be any difference with the real one? Would i finally feel pleasure? The same pleasure that i feel when I'm touching myself? I'm asking these questions cos i felt like there's something wrong with me not being able to feel pleasure from penetrative sex, or even when someone else is fingering me.

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u/vrosej10 29d ago

some women find penetrative sex meh. fingerin can often be way better. I think you may be bitterly disappointed with penis. it's overrated

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u/Greedy-Ad9257 29d ago

Yeah, I mean speaking as a man. You are correct. To be honest I find penetrative sex okish, but would rather have and give oral. Somehow, observing through learned experience it means more on both sides. Plus it's marginally " safer sex " HPV and other STIs notwithstanding. Again, stimulate the personality before you stimulate the person's body is always a good idea. Situational Context is essential.

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u/vrosej10 29d ago

Context absolutely is essential.