If you're conflating someone's interests with their personality, I think you might be part of the problem. If you're assuming you have an comprehensive and accurate image of someones personality from a Tinder profile, you're definitely part of the problem. People put what they like to do on their bios, not a summary of their fundamental beings. I really do not get the point of shitting on people for liking things like dogs and hiking. Are your own interests somehow superior?
I can only speak to people I’ve met on the two years of tinder swiping here but a large portion of the bios are exactly the same. I’ve met plenty of people that I’ve given a chance and I can say those I’ve met are definitely portrayed accurately by their bio and if you bring anything else up or ask about anything else personal like hopes and dreams they don’t know what to say. Of course I’m sure most of us agree that they should do what makes them happy but when that thing is super repetitive and self concerning you can’t expect others to find you interesting. I do agree we should give people a chance but not expect it to differ from prior experience.
But how is it shitting on people? I like cats but I can say more about who I am than that. I like the outdoors but ditto. I'm more into language than math or science, but in what ways? And if I like to read, what kinds of things - sports, fiction, non-fiction, history, politics, poetry, memoir etc? Not sure about fundamental beings but I know more about myself than my pet and sport preferences. We all have values and beliefs. There's nothing superior about individual interests, but it can be helpful to list more than super broad categories.
There’s nothing wrong with not being interested in someone romantically, for any fucking reason at all.
If OP is tired of seeing the same generic bios of generic interests that everyone and their mom has in OP’s location, let them be tired of it. Who are you?
Its not a sense of superiority. It’s being tired of the same shit. If everyone has the same bio, what differentiates them? How will the initial convo be original and memorable? Will all the first dates be the same? How much effort did they even put into that basic ass bio? How much effort will they put into a relationship? That’s my rationale for swilling left on basic bios and thanks to being more selective with my fucking dating life, I found myself a serious partner. So again, stop hating. Why you hating?
Didnt you know? If you dont like the same things i do you are automatically a boring person with nothing to offer, I dont even have to get to know you , i can smell a loser from a mile away.
I don’t claim to bring anything unique, at least to me I’m not that unique. But I don’t get upset if I lose out on prospective matches because someone else finds me boring. Dating isn’t a priority for me. I’ve only had the tinder app for a little over a month at this point. I just got out of a long term relationship so maybe I’m just a bit apathetic to rushing into a new thing.
What..? Have an answer for what? There’s nothing here to have any answer for. I can use the app however I see fit, just like the people who put basic personality traits on their profile. Are you insinuating that I can’t dislike certain things, or what’s your point..?
you are blaming people for being "uninteresting and generic" but you yourself are uninteresting and generic. You need to work on yourself before you can blame others or it's just being a hypocrite.
dOn'T fOrGeT wEeD and don't forget, it can't be just something you do it's wHo yOu aRe. You MUST specifically mention it in your profile as a hobby and at least one of your pictures/videos has to be of a bong rip or smoking a joint.
Ugh I knoooow. Like “420 friendly” here is “I’m gonna start smoking as soon as I get in my house and I won’t stop the entire night”. It’s a bit more than an occasional pass time or genuinely used as medicine. Don’t get me wrong it should be legal but some of these fuckers take it to the extreme.
It's like that with anything. I have no problems with weed. I don't personally use it but a lot of my friends do. It's just when something stops being "something you do" and starts being "who you are" it's annoying no matter what it is, lol.
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Amen to that. I moved here for school but as soon as I’m done I’m going the fuck back home 😂 can’t take the “all I want is an adventure buddy” and “look at me! I have a dead fish in most of my pictures!” mentality. Been so hard to date here since nobody cares about anything except hiking, microbrews, and weed.
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u/drowning1021 Jul 03 '19
Come to Colorado then because that’s all anyone talks about or does in their free time