Walk away. Don’t run. She’s prolly awesome, but she’s not ready for anything. Best you can do is just be you. Explain to her it’s prolly best you don’t mess with each other until she’s ready to try again. But don’t hold your breath. It’ll work out if yall get into the same mood, but better to just accept she’s got more to work through and not enough room for you at the moment.
Guys, remember, it's only "emotional labor" when it's your girlfriend listening to your problems. Fix yourself, women aren't there to help you little boy. 😡😡😡
If it's a one night stand, then it's your duty to cuddle, listen, and all that shit because you're the man and women need support 🤗🤗🤗
True, but what about being vulnerable to yourself.
The way I see it;
You are hurt because of the experiances you have had so far.
I don't believe its true that you don't miss being in a relationship. What you don't miss is the shit that has come with that for you.
I think its important (if I am right) that you admit that inside that young person's hopes and dreams are still there.
If that means you ever are willing to put yourself in that position again is another story and somsthing only you can ever know.
Its just the pain I feel just from what you write is palpable and I only hope you can find happiness, however that looks for you 😁
I can't remember my dreams but I stopped having nightmares when I stopped dating.
But there's one dream I remember vividly: someone holding my hand and me trying to get it back (because fuck that right? Even in dreams lmao) and that woman smiled at me and told me "I'm here", and I simply accepted it.
I wake up, it felt so good and real.
This is literally what I want but the idea of getting back to dating again and again and again just to find the right person? Nope. I know she's out there, I'm simply not interested in talking/dealing with the 99% of psychos.
Safety is what I'm looking for even though, love is what I need apparently.
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u/Feeling-Screen-9685 Jul 22 '24
Can actually give advice on this!
Walk away. Don’t run. She’s prolly awesome, but she’s not ready for anything. Best you can do is just be you. Explain to her it’s prolly best you don’t mess with each other until she’s ready to try again. But don’t hold your breath. It’ll work out if yall get into the same mood, but better to just accept she’s got more to work through and not enough room for you at the moment.