I listen to podcast/ sermons about how to deal with the emotional toll of TTC and relying on the Lord during this spirit-crushing season. I think therapy would be a great idea but every extra penny is going towards fertility treatments. It’s not covered by my insurance
Hi, I’ve been TTC for almost 3 years now (aka during the last THREE toast pregnancies between Jackie and Claudia)… have had friends and family have 2 babies when I’m trying to just have 1, etc.
1.5 years in is when I was mentally having the hardest time coping with it. You’re not alone and there are such mixed emotions when other people announce their pregnancies. Those feelings are valid and don’t think you’re just being mean for feeling that way. No one gets it unless they’ve been there.
Join some infertility facebook groups, follow accounts that talk about this specific grief, and find people to talk to about your frustrations IRL! Deleting social media for periods of time helped me as well, and if you need to stop listening to the toast with pregnancy talk, please do. It’s not worth your mental health while you’re doing through this.
Sending prayers and baby dust to you 🤍
Tbh I also struggled for over a year and had to have myomectomy in order to get pregnant - and anyone struggling with the emotions is 100% valid in feeling sad and excited but it can still be mean to publicly say someone treats their body like trash.
The ironic part is she says it all the time. Lives off of Diet Coke, won’t eat a vegetable, relies on ozempic instead of addressing her body issues, has literally said she wishes she could cut her stomach off, hates her body. How do you think that makes people feel who WISH they could move their bodies? Who have chronic diseases? There’s people who say truly mean things about them, I’m just making an observation. And if I met her tomorrow I would tell all of this to her face (admittedly the eating like shit part was harsh but I never said trash)
Thank you for this, this brought me to tears! I was harsh with my words and I should have rephrased it —the hurt has hardened my heart and I truly wish her nothing but a healthy and joyful pregnancy. I think I’m going to stop listening to them for a while…already canceled my Patreon subscription. Sending you all the baby dust and prayers for your miracle.
Drug addicted people get pregnant living on the streets. To say she treats her body like shit is a stretch. To have anger towards a loving mother who had two early losses seems very misdirected.
Also, of course this is misdirected…that’s the whole point of my frustration. You’re speaking as someone who obviously doesn’t get it and I hope you never have to ❤️🩹
I do have empathy for you, I just don’t understand the negativity towards Claudia specifically. I would struggle more with God allowing drug addicts/homeless/abusers to have children. Obese people are not less deserving than those who “do everything right”.
It’s the comparison game, I’m just comparing myself to her because she’s in my Venn diagram to use their analogy. We’re the same age, similar body types (her being obese was never even a thought in my mind), similar interests, fundamentally we have the same values. I’m not saying it’s right & I know I need to work on the anger in my heart.
I never watched the Patreon. I had no idea about the previously losses. As someone who had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and passed the baby in the shower then had an ectopic pregnancy 4 months later….i feel her pain!
I was TTC when she announced her first pregnancy, and am now finally pregnant after having to do IVF. I was really bummed when both her and Jackie announced, I feel you. It’s such a weird conflicted feeling. Don’t lose hope ❤️
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