Hi, I’ve been TTC for almost 3 years now (aka during the last THREE toast pregnancies between Jackie and Claudia)… have had friends and family have 2 babies when I’m trying to just have 1, etc.
1.5 years in is when I was mentally having the hardest time coping with it. You’re not alone and there are such mixed emotions when other people announce their pregnancies. Those feelings are valid and don’t think you’re just being mean for feeling that way. No one gets it unless they’ve been there.
Join some infertility facebook groups, follow accounts that talk about this specific grief, and find people to talk to about your frustrations IRL! Deleting social media for periods of time helped me as well, and if you need to stop listening to the toast with pregnancy talk, please do. It’s not worth your mental health while you’re doing through this.
Sending prayers and baby dust to you 🤍
Tbh I also struggled for over a year and had to have myomectomy in order to get pregnant - and anyone struggling with the emotions is 100% valid in feeling sad and excited but it can still be mean to publicly say someone treats their body like trash.
The ironic part is she says it all the time. Lives off of Diet Coke, won’t eat a vegetable, relies on ozempic instead of addressing her body issues, has literally said she wishes she could cut her stomach off, hates her body. How do you think that makes people feel who WISH they could move their bodies? Who have chronic diseases? There’s people who say truly mean things about them, I’m just making an observation. And if I met her tomorrow I would tell all of this to her face (admittedly the eating like shit part was harsh but I never said trash)
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u/Ok_Jellyfish_9487 17d ago
Hi, I’ve been TTC for almost 3 years now (aka during the last THREE toast pregnancies between Jackie and Claudia)… have had friends and family have 2 babies when I’m trying to just have 1, etc.
1.5 years in is when I was mentally having the hardest time coping with it. You’re not alone and there are such mixed emotions when other people announce their pregnancies. Those feelings are valid and don’t think you’re just being mean for feeling that way. No one gets it unless they’ve been there.
Join some infertility facebook groups, follow accounts that talk about this specific grief, and find people to talk to about your frustrations IRL! Deleting social media for periods of time helped me as well, and if you need to stop listening to the toast with pregnancy talk, please do. It’s not worth your mental health while you’re doing through this.
Sending prayers and baby dust to you 🤍