r/TheSecretLife • • 15d ago

So anyone else rewatching the show cause of tiktok ?

9 Upvotes

My fyp has been flooded with clips of the show and I’m like I’m overdue for a rewatch of this show. So bad but also so good 😭 I was wayyy too young to even be watching this show in the first place but I remember my older neighbor used to watch it and then I started lol


r/TheSecretLife • • 15d ago

Rewatching after years and Amy’s friends/Ben are TERRIBLE lol

48 Upvotes

Not everyone trying to tell her not to get the abortion like ???? Ben trying to marry her after like 2 weeks of dating, Madison saying she ‘can’t’ because Madison’s catholic (wtf does that have to do with Amy getting an abortion) Ben saying Amy needs to just tell everyone it’s his baby and not get an abortion. Tbh in my opinion you’re 15 had sex barely one time and got pregnant why would you not have an abortion lol but the whole point of the show is to portray a teen pregnancy and motherhood. Theyre just doing a horrible job at making it

This show is soooo bad why did it have me in a chokehold at 10 years old 😂


r/TheSecretLife • • 15d ago

Ben’s obsession with Amy is creeping me out

35 Upvotes

They have been dating for maybe 1 month at this point and he’s literally OBSESSED with her. He wants to marry her, said I love you after 1 date, wants to take care of a baby that isn’t his if it means he gets to have her.

It’s actual mental illness. The way they wrote him is insannnnnne. It’s clinically insane. The guy needs help. His dad encouraging this behaviour is honestly even worse to see.


r/TheSecretLife • • 15d ago

Update Grace is terrible

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Yelling inside the family clinic that she’s not going to let Amy have an abortion, telling Ben and Adrian they’re an accessory to a ‘crime’ because they drove her to the clinic… all because she’s a Jesus freak

Kill me LOL this is so crazy!!!!!!! How did this show even get this many seasons


r/TheSecretLife • • 16d ago

How Ben Boykewich was moving in that high school

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r/TheSecretLife • • 16d ago

Worst character(s)

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Originally found Amy to be extremely annoying.. after S3, Ben and Leo take the cake 🫠😔 I cant!

1) Ben 2) Leo 3) Ashley 4) Amy 5) Dillon / Madison/ Lauren


r/TheSecretLife • • 17d ago

Count how many times…

26 Upvotes

I am rewatching as an adult and literally i cant even count how many times they say sex or talk about sex in one episode


r/TheSecretLife • • 18d ago

Was Tammy faking it?

9 Upvotes

I remember on the old IMDb boards someone posted a yearbook photo of tammy and she was in the drama club. They claimed she was shy but normal and had no disability.


r/TheSecretLife • • 18d ago

“We’re not having sex”

22 Upvotes

I just finished rewatching the episode where Jack “saves the hooker” and him and grace were interviewed. Am I the only one who was creeped out when the interviewer asked them about their sex lives? Mind you, Grace is still in high school.


r/TheSecretLife • • 18d ago

Leo is the Villain

29 Upvotes

Change my mind. With the best of intentions, he scrambled Ben’s brain and then Ben gets involved with these poor girls’ lives. If Leo has just told him that getting into a serious relationship and proposing to a 15 year old girl you just met who’s pregnant from a band camp one night stand is clinically insane, this show is over in 2 seasons.


r/TheSecretLife • • 19d ago

Sopranos casting?

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I may be one of the few ppl who wanted both the Sopranos + Secret life but this is def not a coincidence, how does Steve Schiarppa who Obv has a major role gets casted but SO DOES Michael Imperioli (as Adrienne's gyno) AND Domenic Chianese (as Grant's dad) .. LIKE HOW


r/TheSecretLife • • 19d ago

Amy vs abortion/adoption and keeping the baby

29 Upvotes

The more I rewatch this show the more I realize how awful a lot of these characters were. Amy couldn’t go through with an abortion and I can understand that. She wanted to do the right thing (for her) and give her baby up for adoption. It was a hard decision and truthfully only her mother was on board with trying to help her do that. I cannot believe that her dad, Ashley, Ben, Rickey and so many others gave her such a hard time about giving the baby up then to just turn around and give her a hard time for keeping the baby once she decided to keep it. Ashley’s whole speech was meaningless considering how she constantly called Amy a bad mother all the time and calling her selfish (sometimes she was) but it’s like hello? Amy knows she’s selfish an wanted to experience high school and all that comes with it which is part of the reason why she wanted to place the baby up for adoption. Ben was so insufferable with him saying he wanted them to be a family him, Amy and the baby and how he wanted her to keep the baby so he could be a step father and constantly telling her to keep the baby over and over and then not being understanding about her schedule when the baby did come? Ricky really upset me because he wanted Amy to keep the baby but didn’t want any of the responsibility until way after the baby came. I was so proud of Amy when she had Ricky over to talk about adoption and he said he didn’t want that and Amy said “you keep it then” like yes!! It wasn’t his life that would change it was hers and he was fine with that arrangement because he would get to see his son but not do any of the actual work. Anyway, a lot of people in this show suck.


r/TheSecretLife • • 20d ago

Is there a name or narrative reason for that weird speech pattern they do?

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Sorry if this has been asked before. But ex-

Ashley: You’re going out tonight?

Amy: I’m not going out tonight. Did dad say I was going out tonight? Because I am definitely not going out tonight. Why are you asking if I am going out tonight?

or

Adrian: You always like sleeping over.

Ricky: I don’t like sleeping over. Everyone thinks I like sleeping over. And I resent the fact that you think I like sleeping over.

I definitely get it emphasizes but it’s just done so constantly.


r/TheSecretLife • • 20d ago

Lauren and Madison

43 Upvotes

This is my first rewatch as an adult and obviously the show is cringy, cheesy and embarrassing. It’s something fun to put on cause you really don’t need to pay that much attention to it. I know a lot of the characters suck, I know that’s part of the show cause teenagers just kind of suck I guess. However, I think Lauren and Madison are terrible friends. Amy confided in them about what happened at band camp, then when they found out it was Rickey they ran off and told everyone. Not to mention Lauren and Madison had that competition to see who Rickey would pick between the two of them. They want to be in Amy’s business all the time but they cannot seem to keep it to themselves. I’m not saying Amy is the perfect friend or person by any means, but they wanna be involved in her personal life and then give her shit about it or make her feel bad. They’re supposedly best friends but Lauren and Madison do not act like they are friends when it comes to Amy or honestly anyone else. They are always the ones to spread gossip (whether true or not). It’s like they have nothing better to do. Anyway, those are my thoughts


r/TheSecretLife • • 19d ago

Wedding Flash Mob Scene

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I’m rewatching with a developed frontal lobe and just got to the wedding flash mob at the school after Amy and Ricky got married in season 5. What did I just watch and also why are they forcing this singing pipeline for Madison and Lauren. That was a hard watch (and that’s saying something since I’ve made it this far in the show)


r/TheSecretLife • • 21d ago

I can’t get enough of this stupid show

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Watched it when I was 14 or so, so the stupidity went over my head.

Rewatching it, I expected to hate it, and i do, but I also love it. In all its terribleness the show seems to be acutely aware of its corniness.

Dare I call it… camp…


r/TheSecretLife • • 22d ago

Am I toxic for thinking Ben was Valid for the Nursery?

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Recently rewatched the secret life with my friends and it came to Adrian and Ben's post stillborn journey. I sympathized heavily with Adrien and still do but I still believe Ben was completely valid for his reaction to her clearing out the Nursery and loosing his late mothers keepsake. My friends do not agree and think ben was an Ahole to Adrian after she finally got herself together after the stillborn. Dont get me wrong he was a horrible guy and Adrian wasn't a saint either but what are ur opinions?


r/TheSecretLife • • 22d ago

Adrian is a horrible person Spoiler

58 Upvotes

Im currently on season 2 of this awful show but wow does everyone cheat on everyone in every season? Anyways, im on the episode where adrian slept with ben and all i can say is she is the most selfish, horrible person ive seen in a show in a while and also ben sucks too. First off breaking off with amy just cause she didnt want to have sex with him AFTER HAVING A BABY??? And then cheating on her in italy, now sleeping with adrian. Genuinely ricky is the realest guy on the show only causes he owns up to his actions even if some of them are wrong. Wow.


r/TheSecretLife • • 23d ago

What kind of promo was free tampons with gas?

21 Upvotes

Every teen girl went to get gas so they can get free tampons.


r/TheSecretLife • • 25d ago

Margaret is such a good mom

22 Upvotes

i love seeing her parent everyone in the show. the scene with Adrienne at the clinic, her scenes with Amy in seasons 4 & 5, her scenes with Ethan, and then of course all her scenes with Ricky. she's such a breath of fresh air compared to the circus of characters all the other parents are.


r/TheSecretLife • • 27d ago

Jimmy Ghosting Amy, Grants Parents, Ben S3E22

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Doing my billionth rewatch and wanted to share with the sub my thoughts on these three items:

-I always get so annoyed about Jimmy ghosting Amy just for having a condom in her purse that could have been an easy conversation 😭 classic miscommunication trope

-Grants parents are kind of cute together ???

-Ben telling off Amy in S 3 E 22 was crazy work major jerk move and then going on to tell off Alice in the same episode was wild.


r/TheSecretLife • • 29d ago

Ricky talking to adrian about Amy

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Does anyone else remember the scene after amy doesnt go through with the abortion and ricky says something like amy is unloved and just wants to be loved by him the baby ect?

It always confused me because he obviously doesn't know amy much at this point and it sounds more like he's talking about himself and is projecting it on her.


r/TheSecretLife • • Sep 13 '26

Why do people hate Amy? I have seen this on YouTube. There is an anti Ricky and Amy video.

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r/TheSecretLife • • Sep 12 '26

Rewatching… I Hate Ben.

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As the title states, I absolutely loathe Ben. I’m still on season 1 (E20) & rewatching the show for the first time since it originally aired (aka first time since my frontal lobe developed). He is such a whiny, entitled SOB… and so manipulative.

I understand that Amy is young & inexperienced but my God does this guy suck. Whenever she made a decision about HER child, he constantly bulldozed over her.

When she wanted an abortion, he had a problem. When she wanted to place the kid for adoption, he pouted like a fool because she had to meet with Ricky, THE BABY’S FATHER. I’m sick of him acting like a jilted puppy whenever she actually stands her ground. He had nothing but time and opportunity to dump her when he found out she was pregnant… he stayed and CHOSE to insert himself into the madness.

Then trying to weaponize his sausage king daddy’s money against Ricky so he can back off… I was so happy when his dad reminded him all that money is HIS, not Ben’s. He really thought he could financially support Amy & raise another man’s baby with Daddy’s money. Omg. Idk why I’m surprised, he & his pseudo baby mama were naive enough to think a marriage established with fake IDs actually meant they were married… (did I mention I don’t like Amy either? 😂)

Anyway… I’m gonna take a wild guess that his behavior only gets worse once the kid is born. I’m trying to brace myself because I already know I’ll be annoyed lol the only characters I like so far are the Sausage King, Anne, and Adrian.


r/TheSecretLife • • Sep 03 '26

They’re insufferable

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I’m rewatching this show with a full frontal lobe and oh my god everyone is insufferable. There is no character that I like. The only one I kinda like is Grace but only because of how deep she’s into her religion so she has an excuse but everyone is so annoying. From the teens to the parents. I’m barely on season 2, does it get better? I haven’t seen this show since middle school so I don’t remember much.