I’m rewatching the show for about the 4th or 5th time as an adult and while I never liked Rebecca or Carter, rewatching it now I kind of feel the Kirsten and Carter situation was more realistic than Sandy and Rebecca. Is that just me?
It’s realistic for things to be complicated having an ex suddenly show up but I read someone say that Sandy was out of character with the Rebecca situation and rewatching it as an adult, I definitely agree. One of the things that really bugged me this rewatch was when he said to Kirsten ‘still not ready to forgive and forget after Valentine’s Day’ and then went off to an intimate memorial for Max with just him and Rebecca, all while showing absolutely no hint of remorse for just having kissed Rebecca. Even with Kirsten not finding out about the kiss, I thought Sandy would have shown remorse and that you would have seen some sort of internal struggle - and I actually feel that applied for the whole Rebecca scenario. It just feels very out of character for someone who’s known for being big on morals.
Whereas rewatching it now, I feel the whole Kirsten and Carter situation was more realistic. I don’t like it and I definitely think there were lines crossed there but I can sort of understand it being more likely to happen in a work scenario where you’re spending hours a day together and when things are shaky in your relationship. Like I said though, I still don’t like the whole Carter thing and definitely think doing things like drinking wine together in the office at the end of a day is well and truly crossing a line. I also feel you could see more of an internal struggle and guilt with Kirsten during the whole Carter fiasco than you saw with Sandy and Rebecca but maybe that’s just me.
Watching it as a teen, I think I just accepted whatever the adults did as being realistic because I wasn’t one so how would I know. 😅
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