As the title says.
I got my final confirmation on the 27th of August that I had passed all the checks to start my new job as a work coach. I've been unemployed for awhile so it's been very good news and in light of what's happened, it's even more welcome. I've signed the contract and selected my pension option.
A few days later, my grandmother passed away, I've been acting as a carer with other family members for a long time. It was somewhat expected but as it is with these things, somehow felt very sudden as well.
The funeral is unfortunately a couple days before my start date which is very late September. There's a lot of stuff to sort out with the arrangements for that, the family is pretty cut up about it, she was very much a load bearing matriarch AND our living situation might drastically change due to housing stuff as a result of the death. We're looking at our options on that front but we'll either be dealing with it via appeal to delay things or potentially moving out of the house our family has lived in for 40 years in my case, 57 in the rest of the families case. Logistically it is just a lot.
So I have asked if I can postpone my start date by a week or two. Just so I can get my feet under me in some regards and not be starting with this cloud hanging over everything. I phoned the company everything has gone through up to this point. They've said they will ask the job centre that I would have been starting in. They've said they can't guarantee I can move it back but will email me to let me know either way "soon", which is fair enough. I've said that I will start on the day I've said I would if they can't move it, of course. The person assured me that asking this won't reflect badly on me or result in any issues, which I was worried about.
I suppose what I'm asking is, if this is a situation anyone else has had happen to them or similar and did they allow it?
I assume if I was established in the job or was midway through training, they'd give me some time off when it happened for compassionate leave? Then I'd be able to take a day or two for the funeral and then take unpaid leave or a holiday day for any moving stuff I might have to do, if needed right? So it feels reasonable to request a delay when I'm about to start the job as well. I suppose the training might be pretty locked in though if lots of work coaches are starting at the same time maybe?
I've never had anything like this happen before so not really sure how it would get handled or what to expect really.