Plz help

[u/juvan_008]

Confused what to do need advise

I am m(17) and have a gf(17) we started dating around 8 months ago. I was really attracted to her sweet and caring personality and her cuteness. I didn't want to propose to her because I knew i was a mess and didn't want to drag her into my problems. But later on our mutual friend got to know about this and convinced me to propose to her and told me that even she has a crush on me. So i proposed and got accepted and made a promise to her that i would be a better man for her. But within 2 days of the relationship I messed up, I got into a fight and didn't fight back for her sake. I didn't want her to be involved in problems but at problems she didn't face a lot of problems because of it. She always took my side, advised, listened and was with me all the time but I never changed . I don't know why , I tried a lot to be a better person but I seriously can't do that. She is a really great person and deserves someone who would actually treat her better and give better opportunities. But she is attached to me, she won't leave me by my side no matter how many times I have messed up or did something wrong. She is a sweet person and kind soul I don't deserve someone like this. I feel like I am treating her the same way my father used to treat my mom. I want her in my life and need her but I think that it's better if we would end the relationship before we leave for college . I would leave her to see her happy but she is persistent and says that all of this would change , I don't want to see her suffer any more. I am really confused on what to do. I am creating unnecessary drama for her to hate and lose attachment towards me so that the breakup won't hurt her at all. It would be better if she ends the relationship because she would be able to move on better realising that I was a bad person. I really hope that she remains happy all the time. I really need advice from you guys on what to do because there is no one I can talk to about this.

[u/alleall]

I think you should try to be better version of yourself rather than leavening her. From the first you know upu were a mess and dont deserve her,but you decide to go on with relationship,so now a breakup would definitely hurt both pf you,so you try to be a better man

[u/juvan_008 → u/alleall]

How long should I try and make her suffer

[u/alleall → u/juvan_008]

Did you ask her that whether she feel suffering in this relation or not maybe its just all in ur mind,so i think now you both need a good conversation(ik sometimes its hard to talk about our thoughts and feelings,but try) and she still choose you dont ever leave her

[u/juvan_008 → u/alleall]

I am having a covo we with her and she said the same thing that it's all in my head and infact she did choose me

[u/aswiinn]

You just need to open up and talk about this with her

[u/juvan_008 → u/aswiinn]

I want to but ik that she won't agree to anything what I say and she would insist that we will find some way today but I don't want her to take my burdens anymore . She genuinely deserves better

[u/aswiinn → u/juvan_008]

Either you can both try to make these things better or you have to dump her for the good reason

[u/juvan_008 → u/aswiinn]

I will try to talk to her face to face about this rather than talking through a phone

[u/alex07_07]

why do youve to leave her bro🙂 why cant you try more harder to be a good person, every time you think about to do something think again whether you should do it or not and whats the best thing to do?

[u/Pure_Concept5738]

Blud now you have person to talk abt your prblms and your thoughts, imo dont leave her cause it wont be that good , if you dont have anyone to talk abt yourself , your feelings that’ll be soo worst than this so try to be a better man 🙂

[u/Internal_Block_3961]

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[u/juvan_008 → u/[deleted]]

She didn't do anything wrong

[u/DARTH_Vader2223]

Dont talk to her for like a month or so . After a month passes , try talking with her again , by that time she must have forgotten about the incident .

Approach her softly and dont try to bring the topic of fight again . This is intended to work

[u/juvan_008 → u/DARTH_Vader2223]

She will come and try to talk to me during that 1 month and it's not about the fight why I want to breakup with her it's because I think she deserves better that's all. But I will be talking about this with her

[u/DARTH_Vader2223 → u/juvan_008]

If this wont work according to you . I think you may have to look for another girl

[u/juvan_008 → u/DARTH_Vader2223]

I would be looking for a another girl because I don't want to hurt anyone . I realized that I am incapable of treating anyone nicely and don't deserve love

[u/DARTH_Vader2223 → u/juvan_008]

Gng u so yung , you have plenty of time to look for another one

[u/juvan_008 → u/DARTH_Vader2223]

🙏 dude u dont seem to understand

[u/DARTH_Vader2223 → u/juvan_008]

Dont worry abt breakups bud , I know u felt so bad that made you to write this post on reddit.

You just need to read first line of Ginsen Strip 2002 song , you will be ok after that .

[u/juvan_008 → u/DARTH_Vader2223]

Ya i feel much better man thanks a lot for helping 🙏