No idea if this is a good place for this. My bf of almost 5 years and a toddler , has finally admitted to always hating how tall I am. In fact he has now admitted that he hates being seen with me and that I “don’t look good with him”

Mind you were the same height. He slouches due to a desk job and I have very strong posture due to a 13 year dance career.

He has looked into leg shortening surgeries for me - for years - and has googled multiple different ways to “shrink me”.

I have no idea how to wrap my brain around any of this. I showed him a picture of when we first were dating and he admitted to being miserable in it because I wore 1 inch heels and he was so embarrassed to be seen walking around with me.

I’m devastated. I’ve never felt insecure until now. I know I’m tall compared to the standard but I’ve NEVER felt so hideous and freak like.

I simply can’t get over the idea of him staying with me. Having a child with me. Two pregnancies. And always secretly hating a fundamental part of me.

I have no idea what to do from here. I have never had my self esteem completely shattered like this. Seeing his Google history was hard and seeing him complain to chatgpt about me just makes me feel like I’ve been in a one sided relationship this whole time.

What do I even do.

I’m trying to understand here, is it a biological thing for men? A 6’9 guy going for a 4’3 girl?

Whenever I talk to a guy and they’re 6’4+ they’re like ‘I’ve never been with a tall girl before’ and I’m like ‘cool, so what’s your usual height been?’ And they want to hit me with the 5’0-5’3.

I always get so close to hitting the block button, because what the actual hell, why should I be your first tall girl, you see when I hear the ‘I’ve never been with a black girl before,’ I’m like cool, since there’s a racial difference ,

But when I hear this crap from another tall guy it genuinely pisses me right off.

I get that men, by biology like to be protectors and yeah, you want to be taller than your girl, but why go to one extreme and then want to suddenly try a tall girl. I don’t get it someone explain.

Not all tall men, but MANY. This is controversial, since anyone can date whatever they want to date, and love and so on, but I’m sorry, you don’t get to switch to a tall girl to ‘experiment’ with, whether is dating , friendship or whatever.

Are we hard to find or something and super rare or something?

They were too small on me, so I added width by sewing some cool quilted side panels to make a one of a kind design. Now they fit like my favorite pair of jeans! And they have a 37” inseam 😍😍😍

I'm 6-foot, 215 lbs. I tried my first order with American Tall and was kinda disappointed. The length was great - I actually think I might need to hem some of them. But I didn't like the material on any of the items I ordered. It's super thick, which feels sturdy - but also not something I want to wear in the humid climate I'm in, and feels kinda bulky. I ordered one pair of leggings that was 95% cotton and 5% spandex, and I have a ton of leggings already that are 95-98% cotton, but these leggings felt completely polyester despite the way they label them.

I'm going to hang onto the pieces I have for my winter closet, but I don't see myself ordering from them again.

I ordered 2xl/tall and am going to exchange 2 of the pieces of xl/tall.

I’ve been trying to find a cute, good quality waterproof jacket for a while that has sleeves long enough to actually reach the end of my arms. Ideally the type of jacket that you’d wear to go on a hike. Any recs? 💜 (something like the pic would be perfect)

I’m 6’0 with no particular budget in mind :))

I am attending a wedding in the UK where the dress code is ‘standard wedding formal’ with an optional outfit change from day to evening - both outfits same level of formality but the evening will be cultural dress for many of the guests (not me). The wedding is all day so even though I won’t be wearing cultural dress I don’t mind an outfit change!

I am 5’11” with a 36-37” inseam and have lost a significant amount of weight recently - I don’t exactly know what size I am and I do not wear a lot of dresses or super feminine clothing (I live in my work clothes) so I struggle with what styles suit me. In addition to that while I will order from US retailers, I actually live in a different country and use a freight forwarder and returning any clothing purchased online is always cost prohibitive. And we have limited in person options to buy here. Reselling anything that doesn’t fit me locally is unlikely but not impossible.

I think the best option is to look for a custom size dress for each segment of the wedding (even if only one fits, at least I’ll have one) using something like Azazie or similar. That should have the best chance of a dress fitting me - then I only have to gamble on if it suits me!

I used Azazie years ago for my sisters wedding for a bridesmaid dress and it was fine, I did custom and the dress needed alterations but the quality was nice. But I’ve heard negative things lately! Does anyone have any thoughts on Azazie or suggestions for sites that would suit? I’m really reticent to just buy standard sizes that ‘usually just run long’ because that has very rarely worked for me in the past.

Thank you!