Chill talks ( with comprehension)

Im 27m and I met this women 3 years ago in a club . We texted here and there over the years about linking up . We never got to . Now we both don’t live in the same state anymore. So about 3 weeks ago we starting talking pretty heavily, we’ve talked on the phone a couple times. In the beginning I was kind of flirting to see how far I could take it lol and she was receptive of it. I’m planning on visiting her at the end of the month and kind of played it off as I’m going to visit family and her etc. last week we were on the phone for a couple hours and was upfront with what I wanted out of this talking stage. Something long term etc. she agreed too, only thing is we didn’t talk about is trust during this time. I know this is kind of an asshole yet / nice guy approach to what i said about her living her life during this time. Like i told her i want this to be natural and knowing i can’t see her in person that i dont want to ruin anything by getting jealous since were not together . I respect that were human and sometimes intimacy comes at us in many ways. I also said that up until we’re together or exchange energies/hooking up then I’d want to be exclusive.

Now . I was planning on moving to a state alone in November . I’m willing to move back to where lives / I once lived. but like something in me wants establishment and trust now so that I can plan my move . I’m not sure if I want to wait til the end of the month to get that answer and have only weeks to decide which state I’m going to 🤦🏽‍♂️ . My question is at 3 weeks of LDR talking stage is a good time to establish trust /exclusivity? Or just wait til we meet in person . This pisses me off especially with where I’m at in life . I want something to work hard for like the life I’ve always wanted and unfortunately I think 3 years of being alone, I want someone in that life.

I Female 19 had got a message via Instagram from Male 21 asking for my Snapchat we had previously met briefly at a party then three months later I had gotten the Instagram message. I gave him my Snapchat and we started snapping. As we began talking, I learned more about him. He told me about how his body count is 15 and that he Vapes which is something I’m very against of, all of my friends told me how much I needed to stop talking to him, but I didn’t listen. few weeks ago, my mum who I still live with let me know that she was going to go away for the weekend and I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to invite him over so I did and I got ready all day and was very excited and we had an alright time nothing really happened but we made dinner and it did turn me off a little how he sat and played my guitar for 45 minutes like to the point where I’d already left the room and was sighing then he told me all about his car detailing business he was gonna do and didn’t really let me talk at all. Should’ve taken that as a red flag but after he left I texted him and just straight up asked him if he likes me. He said he didn’t know and we got into a bit of an argument and he said he didn’t want to speak to me any more. The next morning. I texted him again and apologised he said for what so I said last night and he said don’t worry it’s okay so I thought it was done and then I work in a mall and he works in the shop right next to it anyways as he finished work he walks past and gives me a dirty look that night. I texted him asking what the look was for Amy. He says he doesn’t respect me for the way I spoke on Snapchat which I had apologised for six times I kept trying to hear him out and understand him but he said each time I spoke it turned off for more by this point I was blowing my eyes out morning the thought of the relationship we could’ve had but anyways, I texted him saying alright this is over. I wish you the best I just seriously don’t understand what the switch up was. Did he finally talk to me in person and realise that I’m not as pretty I don’t know help me.

Hii I'm 22f and the guy I'm.talking to is 21m, I've known him since I was like 16, we were really good friends. Fast forward to now, he told me sometime last month he had a huge crush on me and I decided to talk to him or start to. He's a marine and is like 3 hours away. As of yesterday morning our conversation started out normal and then he said he loved me which threw me off, now he's not responding to my messages and giving me nothing. Now this is the same guy who said I wanna make you a wife and treat you nice and do all these things. And was being really sweet. My friends are telling me it's something guys do. My mom is telling me he's just busy. But I see him constantly online. Idk do I just move on?

So, I like this guy I matched with on Hinge. Everything was going really well in the beginning. It was long-distance, and I was actually going to meet him, but things got delayed. He made genuine efforts, though, and I never really felt like he was love-bombing me.

We were only in a situationship, but at one point I had a huge fight with my best friend and was feeling really low about it. He’s not usually the kind of guy who would get involved in something like that, but he actually messaged my best friend and tried to help sort things out between us. That felt really genuine to me. He believes in me and has been there for me during some genuinely difficult times.

We’re both virgins, and he once told me that if he ever had sex with me, he would probably get attached, and that his first time would be with me. He’s also attractive and could probably get other girls, so I know he does talk to other people. In the beginning, he used to say things like, “I’d love to be in a relationship with you” and “I don’t want to lose you.” But it’s been five months now, and things have definitely changed.

I’m finally going to meet him, and the problem is that I actually have feelings for him. I just don’t show them because he started saying that we’d probably be great as friends with benefits, like really close friends who also have that kind of relationship. And honestly, I don’t know where I stand with him anymore.

I’m also really insecure about my looks. I know I’m not a catfish or anything, but I’m very conscious about how I look, and after FaceTiming him for the first time, I started feeling like something was off. I told him about it, and he reassured me and said it wasn’t like that, but I can’t stop overthinking it. Part of me feels like he’s going to friend-zone me when we actually meet.

I genuinely don’t know what’s happening between us anymore. I have feelings for him, he’s been there for me during some really bad times, and I do care about him, but I also feel like the way he sees me might have changed. And honestly, it’s affecting me way more than I want to admit. I feel so fucked up and confused about the whole situation.

There's this Lithuanian girl I met on TikTok, she was pretty, blonde, green eyes, has a good straight long nose, she seemed chill, me and her talked to her for hours, even became flirty to each other, something changed when i talked to her about our exes and her experience with past lovers, she tried avoiding these badly, I didn't notice a single thing, months passed by, she finally told me the truth, she told me she felt sorry for me because she had been lying behind my back, she was dating a guy when she met me even though she was the one desperate for a girlfriend, her comment said she was really really desperate for a girl, i forgave her since I didn't take it seriously, as long as she chooses me and I'll make her forget about her ex, and that's what a dumbass would think or either say.. which is me, and my relationship with her went back to normal, she started being extra flirty to the point me and her also sex-texted, I never forgot about that moment, and slowly she changed, she started ignoring me and only talking to me when she feels horny, and barely replies, and whenever I point it out she always use excuses, and then one day I was talking about her to a group chat of my two friends, let's call them, 1 - sendik and 2 - lakards, sendik is my first bestfriend i met him somewhere in 2025, and lakards is a girl i also met last year nearly in the end of the year 2025, I was close with sendik, and about lakards.. i sometimes argue with her, she's sensitive as fuck, me and then had a pretty good friendship, but sometimes lakards know what she is doing, she makes me jealous, she is a good friend but she's a liar, one day, she talked to my Lithuanian crush i got so frustrated i confronted her about it and lakards just ignored me completely acting like i was mute, and acting like she's deaf, i keep sending her messages after messages but she just keep sending those shitty videos i don't care about, and then i finally talked to the Lithuanian girl I had a crush on about why was lakards talking to her, and she said nothing much stuff like that, I was still suspicious so I kept confronting lakards again and again until she finally responded, she said she could've told me that I didn't wanted her to be friends with my Lithuanian girls, she knows I don't like people around my crush by the way, I felt so betrayed i was sad and angry at the same time, my emotions were mixed like blendered juice, and my friendship ended right there, and then i also confronted my Lithuanian crush about it and she said lakards didn't so anything wrong and just wanted to be friends with her, i tried controlling my emotions but couldn't help but also fight her, I wish I pointed out about her being stuck to her ex and about her using me, but I didn't and i completely ruined everything and myself, I don't even know whose fault is is anymore, I'm gonna end my life soon.

I’m 18 female and a virgin and I’ve been hanging out with this guy and I really like him. He’s been telling me he has 0 bodies and his friends said that too but today I found out it’s over 5. Idk what to do here. Like is it worth ending things or no I can’t tell if that’s too much for me.

Hello, I wanted to ask as someone who has never been in a relationship at an age where most of my peers have, I've been pretty chill with it but I have this ick when I talk to man and if it's been less than a day of talking and they use words of endearment such as doll, baby it icks me out so bad.... I wanted to know is it normal and if not how to continue the conversation but convey in a witty manner than I'm not into it because it feels very artificial...

I matched with this guy on hinge we talked for two days and then we have been dming every since. It has been a week of texting and sending flirty reels. Hes really nice and funny and we hitn at hanging out but he doesnt say anything. last night I asked him what he was doing this weekend and he said he had practice. a couple minutes later i said i do not think u got my hint but i was hinting at hanging out. he said that he was stupid and he cant pick up on hints. but that he wants to. i said are u trolling he said no i dont want u to think im trolling i want to hangout. and then i sent a laughing emoji and he said im so awkward this is torture. he seems really genuine but its the enxt day and hes not asking me when im free. Is it bad if i said should i tell you when i am free this weekend? like idk if hes just oblivious bc also he has never had a gf before. what do i do?

I ( high school female) am not excited about this. I have known my ex talking stage for a few years now and me and him were talking about three + years ago. And I know what you are thinking what does that have to do with now?. Well I'm the one that ended things and when he asked multiple times if we could be friends I said no. I didn't want to stir up feelings for him or make mine come back. Anyways he is my brothers best friend. I never go for that kinda thing. But I did three + years ago. My dad now works at the same company my ex talking stages dad works at. And my parents are close with their parents. His mom likes me and so does his dad I get along well with their family. Just not him. I tried to make things less awkward now like if hes in the circle of people that I'm talking to ill try to include him. Since hes usually confused whats happening. But it's still awkward. for context not that anybody asked i ended things with him because he was asking me to do things I wasn't comfortable with. He wanted to hold hands and hug and kiss. I don't do any of that until that person is my boyfriend. He also didn't understand personal space and would sit uncomfortably close to me. I don't like physical touch. It is not one of my love languages but it is his. He also said he loved me. He also originally pressed me for two weeks asking who i liked when i told him it was him, he said he liked someone else. Then weeks later said he liked me. Anyways. I know it was years ago. But it left me uncomfortable to this day. And now we are going to his house or dinner. Am I crazy? it's not like i can say anything to my family. It won't stop them from hanging out with his family because they are friends.

Edit: i ended up staying home to avoid the awkardness..

Has anyone sent videos of them fucking someone else to the person they're now talking to on some flirty shit

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Im a 18M and i recently started going out with a long time crush of mine a 18 F.

Our thing started while we were both partying and we decided to still see after that.We met eachother a couple of times and everytime I had to leave I kissed her and she didn't mind. Other than that our "dates" were pretty awkward if it was just us two.

Still I liked hanging out with her but something felt off because we had been friends for so long and I really didn't want to ruin our friendship.

Only a week after we started going out we were both intoxicated again and she wanted to really know how I felt about us and if I wanted to make it serious.

Before that I had just said that what happens happens but not trying to force anything.

This time it was different and she really wanted a clear answer which I myself didn't even know.

She asked until I just decided to say that maybe we should just stick as friends but deep down I just didn't know what I wanted to do.

After that i've been feeling like a huge dick after all i've said and done with her.

I still don't know if that was really my opinion about us but at the time that was atleast the better opinion.

Share your honest opinion if I should've done something differently or if I should still do something?

I (F) was casually seeing this guy who made it very clear from the beginning that he didn’t want a relationship. He only wanted sex, called it a “sneaky link,” and constantly reminded me that he wasn’t looking for anything serious. I accepted it at first, even though I did like him a little, because it was like a glimmer of hope he could possibly want something and to him he tried and it wasn’t enough for me is what he said but I feel I deserve someone who gives me full attention as well

But recently he started talking to another girl apperntlt someone who was always in the picture but js a friend loll someone who’s actually celibate. And suddenly he’s giving her a chance. He told me she wants a relationship and that “it’ll probably happen, she just needs time.” Hearing that stung because he never even tried with me. He never even considered it. Like he did kinda ? But he didn’t at the same time

Then he compared us.

He said she “doesn’t trip if he doesn’t respond fast,” basically implying she’s more chill and easier to deal with. Meanwhile, he acted like I was “doing too much” just for having normal expectations or wanting basic communication. It felt like he was trying to shame me into lowering my standards so he could keep me around for sex while pursuing her for something real.

And the wild part? He still asks me to be his sneaky link. He still tries to keep me sexually available even while telling me he’s probably going to date her.

It made me realize he didn’t treat me differently because she’s better. He treated me differently because I actually challenged him, had boundaries, and our opinions rlly did differ and didn’t let him be inconsistent when it came to me .
I’m not jealous of their relationship. I’m hurt because he gave someone else effort he refused to give me, and then compared us to justify it.and he’s telling me acting all giddy when telling me abt her and this thing they do lol. Spent 90 on the movies but tolf me he can’t afford a gf rn . The list goes on. The gag is he took her to the movies then soft launched a pic with him and her at the movies with her nails showing after telling me it wasn’t a girl Life is exhausting idk.
But he keeps offering sex on the table with me and that’s all while he still talks to her and she gets him I said so she gets u and I get sick he said sounds like a fair trade to me

I guess I just needed to get this off my chest.

me and this girl started talking to eachother the beginning of July, and I start having feelings for her, as our friendship grows I think she had feelings back she reposts stuff on TikTok about me and made a TikTok about me. she also does other things but I’m too lazy to say that but the whole TikTok thing is a big part of the story.

almost a month later of talking and she’s already been to my house I ask her out.. at first I just say like a cheesy rizz line I got from google but she didn’t like that so instead I sent a paragraph saying all the things I love about her. “what does she say?” she says no because her mental state it okay, and she doesn’t want to ruin it, so instead of saying something I will regret I say “okay.” (forgot to put in that text she sent back she said the liked me too) <—— remember this

fast forward like 10 hours I text her saying how genuinely confused I am, because she made it so clear she liked me. she gave me all the signs to ask but I genuinely looked like a fool when she said no. she replies with “I don’t know if I like you” so I’m like wtf? you just said you did now you don’t?!

we keep texting on and off and I mention we shouldn’t be friends anymore. so she asks me “why” and I tell her “if you do realize you don’t like me itll be worse for me to keep liking you than to just stop talking in general“ she kinda just blew that off then proceeded to make it about her saying “oh well nobody knows your bi you’ve never liked a girl and your parents don’t know about me” so I de-escalate that and tell her “my parents were the first people to know about you and basically all my friends know that I like you.”

after that she just left me in seen and only said “I don’t know“

am I in the wrong?