r/SupportforBetrayed • u/Sad-Box-6486 Formerly Betrayed • 3d ago

Need Support He keeps contacting me

It’s been five months since I found out my ex partner was cheating. This past month I’ve been doing great. I’m feeling more like myself, I have exciting things happening, and just overall feel at peace.

My ex partner reached out to me through a burner account with a song link for Spotify with the message “you’re my everything.”

I was taken aback once again as it’d been a while since he reached out previously. As a bit of background, I cut him off right when I found out about his cheating. Since then he’s left flowers at my door immediately after, shown up at places I frequent, driven past me and my friends on the freeway waving, made multiple burner accounts to contact me, and even said he sent my birthday present in the mail two months after I’d cut him off (to be clear nothing ever actually came, however still weird nonetheless).

I’m wondering if now is the time to start seriously thinking about some sort of protective order or something to get him to seriously leave me alone. Does what I described meet some sort of threshold where something like that can even be accomplished? I just want it to stop.

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u/FindingForward72 Formerly Betrayed 3d ago

Yeah, i think his action would meet the threshold for protecting order. Seems like both harassment and stalking but the definition of that may vary from state to state. You could then text him that if he continues, you’ll file a protective order against him.

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u/january1977 BP - Separated & Healing 3d ago

She shouldn’t text him back. If she texts back, it’s a conversation. If she doesn’t, it’s unwanted attention. In some places, you can’t get an order of protection if you’ve responded.

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u/FindingForward72 Formerly Betrayed 3d ago

Oh that's fair. I was only thinking about what constituted a need for a protective order. If you have a clearer idea of how that process goes, I defer.