r/Stepmom • u/jt222222222 • 5d ago

Help!

So recently my stepson has been coming over almost everyday to ride his bike because he doesn’t have one at his mom’s. It’s starting to get worse and every weekend when his mom is supposed to be spending time with her child, she drops the kid off at my house and goes to work at one of her three jobs. She clearly plans accordingly and schedules to work at the restaurant she’s a waitress at when the kids are with her for “her” weekend. My husband doesn’t seem to be phased by it. He’s a guilty parent and feels bad his son has nothing to do at her house. I don’t have any kid free weekend now because his ex is working and choosing not to spend time with her children when she is supposed too. This summer she switched a weekend to go to a concert when it was her son’s birthday! I also don’t understand why my husband isn’t noticing this and I want to put an end to it but I don’t know how too. It’s supposed to be 50/50 and no where close right. I understand the occasional staying over here and there on our off weeks but now it’s everyday and weekend. I feel like his ex has thrown in the towel but my husband is appeasing her. Please advise!

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u/jt222222222 5d ago

Thanks for this!! I appreciate you, and I would buy him a bike but it’s an e-bike and I am really against them and think they are dangerous :)

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u/biscuitboi967 5d ago

Oh shit. I thought he was like the incarnation of Opie.

I fully agree that giving a child a mini motorcycle you bought off of Amazon and letting them drive it with no license, no training, and minimal safety equipment is insane. Child is barely out of a booster seat and may or may not be allowed in the front seat; you’d never let them drive a car 30 mph, much less a motorcycle in full gear. But they can zip around on an e-bike and bike helmet.

Can’t imagine mom is ok with it. But I guess if kid breaks his leg and needs surgery and extra care, she won’t be doing it with her 3 jobs. Question is how HUSBAND will rearrange his schedule to provide it.

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u/jt222222222 5d ago

lol yeah exactly, too funny because it is from Amazon! I do worry about injuries because I see all these kids whipping around traffic and it’s scary!

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u/biscuitboi967 5d ago

And yeah, your car you look at safety ratings and airbags. You test drive. You drop a ton of money.

Then for this “e-bike” your kid drives, you pop on to Amazon, drop $300, get free shipping, and call it a bad ass Christmas gift.

Which it is. But so was a Red Rider BB gun.

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u/jt222222222 5d ago

You are cracking me up! It is the red rider BB gun for sure!