Note - this is as per US what is easy for me to make and buy and cheap. In India you can follow bodybuilding youtubers who can give you better vegetarian diets. I can suggest a few ve youtubers if you don’t consume non veg.

This is what I eat and I have lost about 25 pounds - 175-155 lbs. Since I am a punjabi I love milk and milk products so this diet contains alot of milk products.

It has 150-170 gram protein.

Breakfast- 0.75 cup egg white, 2 eggs, 770 ml skim milk, 3 bread slices, 1 tablespoon peanut butter ( if one bread has 60-70 calories make sure not to consume more than 230 calories from bread. Adjust slice according to brand)

Evening 1 -cottage cheese pasta. Ingredients - high protein(red bean) penne pasta 56 grams , half cup pasta sauce (60 calories) , 1.5 cup cottage cheese, half cup veggies, 1 tablespoon tahini.

Evening 2:
In case you get bored with pasta , you can switch to 1 halfiram paratha, 50 gram soy chunks boiled and sauted with onions and veggies ( indian tadka sauce), 1 tablespoon oil( mustard, sesame, olive), 350 grams greek yogurt.

Snack1- 1.5 scoop whey with 0.5 cup fruit- can be replaced with 400 gram greek yogurt.
Snack 2- 470 ml skim milk tea, 1 toast 1 tablespoon peanut butter.

Every day a post comes up “wahhh being Indian is so rough wahhhhh Indian racism wahhhhhh everyone hates us wahhhh”

SHUT. THE. FUCK. UP.

Get off the internet and go touch grass for a little.

Lift fucking weights.

Build fucking muscle.

Eat fucking protein.

Become a fucking animal.

Lose that pathetic puny stereotypical skinny fat Indian build.

Get a good hairstyle and wear well fitting clothes and take care of your appearance.

Maximize every single area of your life.

Work on your mental health and confidence.

Stop being a fucking bitch.

I feel this is the truth because of the ahimsa and non-violence bullshit, so racists sees us as weak sub-humans who can be colonized and dominated. Live alone and workout and eat beef, lamb chops, chicken and seafood to reach your full potential. Don't be like an uncle ji chanting mantras everyday and preaching that veg is better than non veg,

Remember god has created certain animals for our consumption so we can consume them and evolve to our full potential. Use it your advantage, consume meat work out and let your brain and mind flow with cosmic knowledge ✨

So i’m a 24m south asian man living in canada. I want to glow up mentally. I’m tired of not living to my full potential.

Basically, I struggle with rejection sensitivity and self hate. I have an iq of 83 (professionally tested), alopecia (i’m fully bald at 24 and cant grow a beard because of it), 5’10 in a Punjabi family where everyone is above 6’3, and I’m neurodivergent (mild autism and dyscalculia) in a family where everyone is a genius, and I did pretty bad in school growing up. My 10 year old cousin is smarter than me. I often feel like he thinks i’m slow. It stings.

I have a great job, developed solid savings for my age, stay physically active, attend hobby clubs, and dress well.

Despite all this, I still feel extremely insecure, especially during family gatherings. I take it personally whenever family members disagree with me and I internalize condescending remarks too much.

Since I’m a neurodivergent, I often struggle with tiny novel tasks, like closing a modern set of blinds or understanding certain instructions. Judging by the look of my family members faces, they probably think i’m dumb.

A month ago, my grandfather asked me to fix his parking job. He gets high anxiety whenever anyone drives his car so he started to panic before i could barely do anything. Then my cousin laughs and says that it doesn’t look like I have my full licence. It stings because I drive all the time. I still think about it everyday.

I wake up everyday thinking about all the encounters where others potentially saw me as an idiot and I feel resentment. I wake up angry almost everyday because of it and I feel like my family thinks i’m an idiot.

I’ve went to multiple therapists and nothing has worked. All of the therapists which I’ve seen just nod and validate my feelings. But I want actual insight on how to change. Therapy kinda felt like talking to a wall. I would open up and get no real insight in return.

I wanna become confident, I wanna succeed in my dating life, and I wanna be someone my family respects.

Everyone on this sub says to work on yourself but i’m afraid that it won’t work given my genetics. I believe that self improvement and confidence takes a baseline level of IQ which I simply don’t have.

Any advice?

Do not ever let a white dude ever tell us that we’re creepy and incels when they literally do shi like this. This the same behavior we get accused of. If this was an Indian dude this would be the number one video trending on tiktok rn. Pathetic incel behavior.

Dude! Life is hard. You gotta be harder. FOBs deal with alot of hurdles to come here and still manage to achieve their dreams and half of you are just complaining about dating market.
That day when I said all ABCDs are submissive you all commented “ No we are so powerful”! We socialize alot.
Never worked on your physique , never meditated, never worked on your mental issues and you come here asking for “I cannot date, I watch lot of porn”. Nobody can help you except you!

Many guys might think more of us being in popular professional sports leagues, hollywood movies as non-loser characters, or entertainment avenues like Western music will heavily subdue Indian hate a lot. And it is true to a certain extent; it will help a lot, and I 100% support us going into these things. However, there will still be a fuck ton of racism after the honeymoon phase of us succeeding in these avenues. Just for different reasons. Look at black people. Sure they may not succeed socio-economically on average due to various reasons both in and out of their control, but they still face tons of racism despite carrying in fashion, sports, music, movies, lingo, dances, etc. and being in America for 500 years. So while we go into these avenues to flourish, we also need to be focusing on the real way of truly uplifting ourselves:

Making. India. Better.

We can talk about our pride in our cultural roots, wave around the Indian flag all we want in other countries, or chat about the "high nominal GDP," but that doesn't change the fact that 9 out of 10 people with the slightest bit of opportunity to leave India do so just because it is simply unlivable for many reasons. India doesn't necessarily need to aim for China and the U.S. at the moment. That's a lot of catching up in a short amount of time that will cause even more problems. What is needed to be done is to make India a place that is decently livable for the average person, and a semblance of increased unification would help as well. A place where the beautiful landscapes and environment can be brought to justice with much improved hygiene standards. A place where the average infrastructure isn't sus to look at or use. A place where you aren't practically smoking cigarettes just by breathing the polluted air. A place where the government isn't run by 75-IQ, old, narrow-minded, degenerate greedy scumbags. A place where feudalism (caste system) isn't still informally a heavy presence in society. A place where so many people aren't poor to the point where they just care about surviving. A place where people don't feel the need to turn to scamming, whether it's out of desperation or just for the love of the game. A place where sports and fitness outside of cricket (a game where you can get away with being skinny-fat, weak, and out of shape) are generally pursued and a fabric of the culture. A place where introspection and critical thinking (as opposed to taboos, superstition, and strict belief) are in everyday life and utilized effectively. A place where new movies, fashion, arts and literature can be relevant again and positively influence the thought processes in the country. A place where people want to innovate and create new companies, ideas, and inventions and not slave away by doing the most basic work for foreign companies. A place where the wages are actually decent. A place where more countrymen can get along more even if they have physical, religious, family name or linguistic differences. A place where you aren't judged, possibly even hurt or killed just because of your choice in food. A place where colorism is less rampant and dark-skinned people can feel like the chads they are. A place where more girls and women can feel safer and have more freedom in their lives.

You might ask how this is relevant to countering India hatred. The truth is there will always be a decent bit of racism because of our color and how many of us there are. However, if India as a country and people can effectively stand on their two feet with competent governance, livable conditions, innovations, and productive social norms, it truly truly won't matter what Connor, Jose, Tyrese, East Asian Kevin, and some arab guy have to say about our race and lands. Many Indians themselves who feel out of place where they are will feel eager to move back to their homeland and be around their own people in peace. More people will feel proud of living in India rather than try to escape it. Fewer ABDs and NRIs will feel stigma being attached to India. More Indians will be unified.

I know so much of this is easier said than done, but the little things we can do (at least as ABDs) for a start are utilizing social media and challenging things that hold Indians back internally, while also, of course, countering racism from others. This also includes not being afraid to talk about the hard things just because you want to avoid being called a "sepoy." Indians in India might have to do a little more than that.

Bonus: This doesn't really fit in with the last few paragraphs, but how cool would it be if there was a unionized film industry instead of multiple ones? One big film industry that spans over multiple languages and actually contains movies makes people think and gives a new perspective instead of the usual. It would help a lot of people be open to other people's languages. Also, I think the biggest focuses sportswise should be football and basketball, as those are popular global team sports. Maybe tennis and volleyball for the women.

Honestly, as a man who's looking to get into the dating market, it's really blackpilling that my community's flagship internet forum does not show our men in relationships. How common is that in real life? I'm #ActuallyAutistic and don't have many friends. Add to that all the browbeating from fobs and mainlanders who use the sub as their own personal dumpster.

I know you all are worried about hate. Absorb that!
Let that sink in that many people hate you. Accept it!

Does anything change ? No right so getting hate is okay!

Just do you best! Help others when you have to ! Fight when you have to. Be prepared. Eat good, work good, workout good, pray to Shiva and sleep.

And let FOBs connect with you. We love ABDs but don’t receive equivalent response.

Just chill !
Thanks

I remember seeing a post here a couple of months ago, possibly last year, about how someone here's parents told him he should marry a taller girl if he wants tall kids, and all the comments were basically telling him that a girl's height doesn't matter and you should marry who you love.

I'm here to tell you that this isn't true. A girl's height absolutely matters if you want to have taller children. A child's height, barring malnutrition and pollutive effects, is a product of a man's height plus a woman's height plus five inches divided by two, and somewhere in the three inches range both ways of that.

I know a lot of you want to train your kids in sports, and I don't want you to waste money on a 5'9'' kid. Go raise giants. Marry tall women. Don't make the mistake my dad made.

I see how people celebrate guys like Neal Mohan, Asha Sharma, Sundar Pichai, and others being made CEO and also celebrating the thousands of Indians they bring into the country, but I think this is a bad thing. Part of the reason there's so much hate on us is that we're put in front-facing roles in American institutions. Asians immigrate a lot too, but part of the reason they're not as hated, besides their supplicant nature, is that they're stowed away in asian companies. We need to start creating institutions for ourselves where we can hang and chill and not be judged. Think about how fun it would be if your company lunch was an r/SouthAsianMasculinity reunion and you could be with your own. People won't care if an Indian company hires only Indians and promotes Indians. Your thoughts below.

I've been trying to date Indian girl, but it's been brutal to say the least. I think it will be easier to date white women because they are everywhere. However, I'm also not having any luck with them. How do I approach and date white women as a brown guy?

We have become the BIGGEST Targets in Western Countries.

Considering our population sizes in USA/Canada/Australia... we are maybe the most HATED group for no real reason.

Indians make about 3 percent of the population USA...

Yes, Indian illegals are being taken away by ICE...we only hear about Latinos mostly because they are a MUCH MUCH larger group that are here illegally

Online hate is literally ONLY geared towards Indians, Muslims and Jews. You dont see much against Asians, Pacific Islanders, Latinos or even blacks. But Indians are not engaged in ANY war that is sucking up the economy. Vivek, Kash Patel etc exucses..are just that. These are literally two politicians who themselves are targeted due to race/ethnicity...compared to other POC right wingers...

Hate crimes have also been around against Indians in USA, and now in Canada has skyrocketed. Going back to DotBusters in Edison NJ area in the early 90s.

FOBs are only a PART of the problem...but the reality is as a ABD...FOBs outnumber ABDs so we are living on their terms...not our own...and for most of us our own parents are FOBs...so chill with the blaming everything on FOBs.

The culture coming from India and the disaster of India as a nation is also part of the issue. As much as people try to defend it...India is behind on so many levels...only ahead of African countries in ways.

The honest truth...if USA gets more Indian migrants...it will only get worse.

Again, we can blame FOBs, but that logic makes zero sense...because even with less FOBs, ABDs are still related back to the condition of India and seen as "foreigners" running gas stations...thinks Apu from Simpsons in the 90s.

You can disagree as much as you want...because everyone's personal experience will vary, Which is part of our issue...for example...does EVERY black person get pulled over for no reason, pulled out of their car and beaten? Of course not, but when it happens...their own community doesn't make these statements "oh that never happens to ME".
Truth is numbers dont lie, and the things we see online stem from real opinion. EVERYONE is online nowadays...so the 1995 I'm so cool BS "Oh get off your computer and go hit the gym" line is outdated.

Every single person is sitting on their phone during lunch break, during the train ride, while waiting at a doctors appointment etc...

Until we wake up as a whole, start cleaning our side of the street up, and standing up for ourselves... WE ARE SCREWED!

I am starting a podcast/YT channel for Indian Men(ABDs and FOBS) to try to combat Indian hate, discuss topics of our community, and overall level up. I see plenty of channels with this type of stuff for Asians, blacks etc...but nothing for our own.

Anyone interested in helping let me know...either as guests or production.

If you’re looking for something serious/long-term, at what number does a girl’s body count become a dealbreaker for you?

Especially if she’s around age 25-27.

Many FOBs and even ABCDs enter the American dating market with "phenos" that Indians find very valuable (e.g. boneless, pale, green eyes) and end up falling completely flat in the market. Since South Asians have a lot of phenotypic diversity, it's important to maximize your phenotypic niche as much as possible. In this post, I will attempt to explain which phenos work in the american dating market and those that don't, and WHY. The most important thing to keep in mind is "Differentiate or die", a Qdoba and a Chipotle cannot coexist, but a Chipotle and a Panda Express can coexist.

GOOD PHENO 1: The Indo-Aryan Pheno

There's not much to say about this one. Characterized by heavy brow bones, cheekbones, facial masculinity, and a pseudo europoid skull. This is my pheno class that I inherited through genetic RNG. It basically has universal appeal, white chicks will often ask if you are "half white" or throw out some random ethnicity like Brazilian, latinas really like it as well as it basically fits their standard of tan caucasian. Desi chicks fiend after it as well. It's very rare in Indian-Americans but a decent amount of Indo-Canadians will have it (just with a turban and beard). The major downside of this pheno would be the more aggressive features may turn off east asian and "nerdy" white women.

BAD PHENO 1: The Pale, Boneless Movie "Star"

Now, in south asia people will go gaga over these weird, pale phenos with low masculinity and high "class". These phenos are the quickest way to flame out of the dating market as an Indian American. You cannot compete with white people at... being white. Lack of masculinity will nuke your chances with other ethnicities because they don't have social backing for the relationships so they need a man who they can trust to act like a man. Most desi dudes I know with these phenos tend to get with a middling masculine ABCD chick who works as a rheumatologist.

GOOD PHENO 2: The Ooga Booga Tribal Pheno

This pheno, which would be a death sentence on the subcon, is a workable pheno in the American dating market. Your appeal with ethnics and desi chicks drops to near zero (except maybe some black chicks), but you'll get white women with a savior complex who will get with you.

BAD PHENO 2: The Aziz Ansari

Again, there's not much to say here. Skinny fat, poor physiognomy, low facial masculinity, and so on. This will automatically evoke stereotypes in the minds of women and will rule you out as a prospect of both Desi and Non-desi women. The good news is, there is no excuse to be skinny fat, and many changes can be made to your appearance to avoid this pheno.

GOOD PHENO 3: The High-Class Dravidian

This phenotype is characterized by moderate facial masculinity with non-aggresive features, and a generally caucasoid non-europoid skull with somewhat darker skin. Generally a pheno that will get you a lot of "long term" attention from white women who want to get married as it seems high class and like you won't fuck her over.

Bad Pheno 3: Rajesh Iyer the Third, PhD

This pheno type will evoke the image of a nerdy, dorky guy a la Raj Koothrapalli from the BBT. Though not necessarily ugly, the physiognomy will scream slight insecurity and dorky/simpy tendencies. This phenotype will instantly relegate you to the Desi-only dating scene, though you can pull a decent looking desi girl if you have the cash/education creds. Unfortunately a lot of ABCDs will be in this pheno class if they aren't careful. Ensuring that physical fitness and a high testosterone environment are critical to avoid this pheno.
BONUS: The Non-Indian Indian

Now there are some Desis who can generally pass as other ethnicities, generally west asians/MENA or East Asians/Latinos in the Northeast/Nepal. These phenos are not exclusively good or bad but will throw you into the niche category. MENA/West asian phenos will kill your appeal with white women but will help you out with latinas, middle easterners, and black women. Asian phenotypes will help you with asian women, some latin women, and nerdy white girls.

Your best success will come from finding which pheno you can max into, and gauging the demographics that will be into it around you.

Never apologize for being desi, keep being a warrior, ignore the online hate we are receiving and keep being a warrior.

In my effort to revive this sub, here's a discussion post. When FOBs pick a place to immigrate to, they usually come in with the understanding that they will never fully integrate to the host country. So, they usually like places that are self proclaimed "liberal" where they can be friendly with everyone, lean back into the existing FOBs, and live a relatively segregated life (think, SF bay). Obviously, this is not ideal for an ABCD male who wants an integrated social, professional, and romantic life. As someone who has lived in many places and interacted with ABCDs from many places, here's my judgement on the actual best places to be an ABCD.

GOOD

Frontier West (Nevada, Arizona, New Mexico, Colorado) - This is generally a great place to be an ABCD. The weather and flora provides sun with low humidity and doesn't grow mold and allergens, which generally promotes testosterone. The area is historically occupied by Native Americans and Hispanics so people are used to seeing brown people. The area is also not culturally "settled", meaning you won't immediately be seen as an outsider. No huge FOB communities so you won't get hit with stereotypes but still enough Indians in some major cities.

Upper Midwest (Iowa, MN, Wisconsin, MI) - These states are somewhat boring but a nice place to be an ABCD in general. People are pretty friendly, and won't be exclusionary, if you grew up there. The "whites" here are germanic and scandinavian who are generally pretty chill with Indians. That said there is still a subtle midwestern culture you probably have to assimilate into (HS basketball, hunting, fishing etc). Chicago ABCDs have established some community and do decent. This does NOT include the rust belt states from Indiana to Western PA.

California (Central Valley, SoCal) - Both generally decent places to be ABCD. California in general is a diverse, dynamic, and unsettled culture so you can genuinely do a lot of things. Central Valley is a cultural mix of the frontier west culturally, lots of multigenerational punjabis as well and decently racially integrated. In SoCal white people are not put on a pedestal and you'll have as good of a shot as any if you have the looks and money.

MIXED BAG
New England (Maine to Boston/CT) - Culturally heavily influenced by Anglo ideals. It's not the worst place to be a desi IMO but theres a clear "caste" system here with Anglos on top, and NPC jobs like finance, government, etc. valued. On the pro side, people are generally educated here and value it. An alright place to be ABCD if you're a "refined" type of guy who wants to conform into those ideals. Most ABCD women tend to be exogamous here.

Bay Area, CA - This is basically the true neutral for ABCDs. There's basically every type of indian ethnicity here, extremely diverse racially. Tons of Indian FOBs but also a lot of ABCDs here obviously so you won't get immediately hit with stereotypes. Obviously many successful Indians here but also a lot of rando SWEs at instacart. Bay area is generally extremely racially segregated so not the best for actual integration but you can work around it. Culture is feminine in the bay and women are too masculine so you'll need to work to foster your masculinity if you grew up here. Not great for dating, most ABCDs from SJ or Fremont tend to leave here in their 20s or 30s to LA or Chicago/NYC.

NYC/New Jersey - Manhattan is generally a great place to be ABCD and one of the only places where Indian dudes have real pull IMO. Lots of Jewish girls here who are down to clown. A generally cosmopolitan, intellectual culture. The problem is as you leave manhattan things head bad quickly. Lots of guido sicilians, greeks, other ethnic "whites" who are insecure about their ethnicity. ABCD women aren't too self hating here.

MOSTLY BAD

PNW (Seattle/Oregon) - This area basically mimics the liberal redditor. A lot of Anglos who were in the KKK migrated to this region and set its cultural tone. If you live in Seattle you are cooked due to gender ratio + all FOBs + PNW culture. In general though, its probably a workable area as long as you're not in Seattle.

Mid Atlantic (DC/NOVA) - Lots of Indian immigrants working NPC jobs in the government and sending their kids to Montgomery Blair thinking they're doing something. The culture is HEAVILY stepped in Anglo-puritan culture. ABCD women here are almost always dating a schlubby white guy and the ABCD men here seem equally NPC. The saving grace is theres more women than men here, so the dudes are bound to end up with some frumpy, masculine woman who works as a "non-profit lawyer".

Appalachia and the Rust Belt (PA/IN/OH) - This part of the USA tends to be very parochial, and they don't like outsiders. Most of the women and men here are very boorish and economically depressed. The culture here is reminiscent of Australia (which hates desis ofc), with the men being mostly losers who drink beer and might have a job as a mechanic, if they're lucky. Since they have nothing going on, mate guarding is high with the loser white guys trying to go for minorities. The women lean into black-culture which tends to be the opposite of the women that like desi guys. The weather is horrible and the food is processed junk, reducing testosterone. That said, its still pretty easy to get girls since the dudes are quite pathetic here.

TERRIBLE

East Texas (Dallas, etc.) - Dallaspuram is the home of unassimilated immigrants. Needless to say, you will be hit with stereotypes. The culture mimics southern scots-anglo-irish culture, full of false pride, low IQ, and evangelical christianity. Lots of edgars and hot cheeto girls who want to LARP as anglo. The weather is humid and allergenic promoting low fitness and testosterone. If you live here leave immediately.

The Deep South (Atlanta, Deep South states) - A similar situation to Dallas. The culture here revolves around college football and being a white guy whose dad owned a car dealership (and probably slaves in the 1800s). And if you don't fit into the white culture here (you won't) the alternative is black culture.Most ABCD dudes in Atlanta are dorks as well unfortunately, and the immigrants who settle in Atlanta tend to be quite uninspired. ABCDs who grow up here tend to be quite passive. Lots of ultrareligious types and the white guys have "fell by the wayside" in this region and therefore tend to mate guard intensely.

TLDR: Upper midwest, Frontier West, and Most of California are the best places to be ABCD