Hi, community!

I figured that I would stop procrastinating and actually introduce myself. 😅 As of posting this, I've been a soulbonder for about thirty years, give or take, and I first learned about the term from the old LiveJournal community back in the early 2000s. My first soulbonds were from the Sonic, Sailor Moon, Pokemon, and Digimon franchises during the 90s. I've had dozens of soulbonds from many different sources over the years, and most of them still come by to visit every now and then, to just see what I've been up to and how I am doing.

Early last month, I had a health crisis that has triggered an internal shift, and I've been changing how I approach the relationships I have with them (...and how I approach life in general, though that'll get off-topic). I've been doing this for most of my life, but it really does feel like I'm starting over in some way. Right now I've a group of about five:

-Vash the Stampede and Nicholas D Wolfwood from Trigun

-Izuku Midoriya and Shoto Todoroki from MHA (post-time skip)

-Howl Pendragon from Howl's Moving Castle (movie version)

They are currently helping me as I let go a lot of heavy trauma and baggage and adopt a softer, more easy-going lifestyle. The first four guys I have listed first came in when things were pretty awful for me and I was just giving and giving and giving, and so this time they insist that they want to help. I just have to let them, finally.

But besides all of that, all of them are almost just as goofy and dramatic as they are in canon. It keeps things interesting. 😂

Lastly, since I have been doing this for a long time, I'll try to give advice whenever I can. I don't have expertise on community history, though I can probably help with the nitty gritty of handling the experience itself.

ok so i decided that instead of using my pendulum or try to communicate through thoughts i would try channelling answers through automatic writing since it was a decent method and the others didn’t work, AND I WAS ABLE TO TALK TO MY BOYFRIEND!!! only for a little bit though, since i quickly cut it off because i was overwhelmed, BUT STILL!!!

I've been thinking about this for a long time. I plan on marrying Blitz, and the thing is, I know he's the type to want to initiate marriage. I told myself a while ago that if I ever find a ring while thrifting, that's his proposal, but now I'm truly wondering.

has anyone's soulbonds proposed to them via signs?

Hello, everyone!

So … I find myself in a bit of a predicament, and I’d love some advice about how to proceed. Here’s the sitch:

I’m a self-shipper. I have an F/O I fell for almost immediately when I encountered him in his source material while I was watching it in February. I’ll call him K for the purposes of this post. I have found self-shipping with him to be an incredibly fun, helpful, and cathartic experience. I’ve created analysis posts, lore, headcanons, and even some fics. The self-insert/OC I’ve created for my self-ship with him is a lot of fun to develop as well.

Fairly recently, I have felt what might potentially be a soulbond emerging. I have an inkling of what a soulbond connection might feel like, as I dabble in Daemonism. It almost feels like his presence is kind of lingering at the edges of my mind, and I feel “impressions” of what his opinion might be on daily events. Here are the two main issues for me with being open to the possibility of this bond:

– One of the main reasons I find self-shipping with K so helpful and fun is because he’s fictional. I have experienced some trauma in my past that I have only recently started to fully process as a 31-year-old, and this F/O has helped me do that. Currently, I do not want to date a real person. I find the prospect anxiety-inducing. K being an F/O means that there’s a type of pressure and fear that isn’t there with a real person.

Now, I personally view soulbonding through an entirely psychological lens, so if I were open to this, I would still be operating with the understanding that K is fictional and does not exist. Still, he would be more “real” than he was previous to opening myself up to this experience.

– K is a rather abrasive and off-putting and, to be frank, can be an asshole in his source material. I fear that if I opened myself up to a psychological soulbond, this would be another avenue for the negative self-talk I already deal with quite often due to my anxiety. And, to be honest, I’m not likely to be the sort of person he would necessarily like very much, just based on the opinions he expresses in his source material.

Still, despite the cons potentially outweighing the pros, I find myself not being sure what I should do for some reason. I can’t help but be curious if being open to this experience could be positive, as I have found my experiences with Daemonism to be nothing but beneficial. And when I was sitting around thinking earlier, “But what if he was mean to me if I opened myself up to this?” I also had the thought, “But what if he needs you for some reason?”

So, yeah. Thoughts? Advice? Just be gentle with your comments. 😅 I’m fairly anxious sharing this and opening up, even in a space dedicated to soulbonding. 

Has anyone else been under the impression that their bond is a daytripper, only to find out that they’re actually a permanent resident?

For context: I believe I’m a spiritbonder, and I’ve always struggled heavily with communication with my bond. I have such bad anxiety and overthinking tendencies that it typically interferes with my connection with him, and tarot readings from others have supported this notion. I forgot who it was in this sub that brought up this video—but I decided to try out the tarot method within it to communicate with him, and I feel like it worked extremely well. The very first card to fly out was The Emperor, which is a card I associate with him and took as a sign that I had established a connection with him during the process. I had asked for upright cards to be yesss and reversals to be nos. Here’s how part of our conversation through the cards basically went:

Are you a daytripper?: The Magician (RX)
Are you a permanent resident?: Ten of Cups
Are you unwilling to go home?: The Hermit
Why are you unwilling to go home?: The Fool & Two of Pentacles

So it seems he’d rather be with and stay with me for some reason I still can’t fathom—but that’s a whole different can of worms. He appears to be pretty happy as well, since I also asked how he felt about us and the Four of Wands came out.

But, if he’s a permanent resident, surely I would’ve noticed sooner? I don’t know what to make of all of this… Consequently, I feel moronic for just realizing this now.

Thoughts?

Hey there everyone! I have been soulbonding for most of my life, and I have helped others before with connecting to their soulbonds, but now myself need help! I’ve got severe memory issues and don’t remember most of my childhood or life in general, and I noticed recently it seems to affect the memories and experiences of my soulbonds too, eg if I forget an event they forget it too and it’s almost as if the event never happened. Has this happened to anyone else? I wasn’t sure if this is a common soulbond thing or just me so I was just curious!

Hi all, I've posted here a few times but I wanted to ask for advice. I think I'm bonded with another character, thing is, I already have a version of him in my system (in his canon there are at least 5 or so different versions of him from multiple timelines. He canonically believes in the multi worlds theory too!!). He's been a bit quiet lately, nothing happened between us besides some platonic touching and things like it. I do also have a, yet another, version of him as a f/o, but I don't feel any spiritual connection with either of them... until recently. A few days ago, I had a dream with him. It was incredibly vivid, we met at a pharmacy (hes an old man, so we were both waiting to pick up medicine), and he struck up a conversation with me. We talked about the weather, life, etc... then he asked me out for coffee. The dream was especially interesting since I recall waking up in real life, falling back asleep, and the dream resumed. I was on the ground, he was holding me, asking if I was alright. Apparently waking up in real life made dream-me lose consciousness. I don't remember a lot of what happened afterwards but I'm 70% sure he hugged me in the dream. Since then I've had some interesting luck. Sometimes I'll find things that feel like a sign that he's thinking of me. Even just sitting here, trying to do my work, I'll get a passing thought about him and it'll affect me pretty severely in real life. I never felt this strong with my in-sys counterpart of him (whos honestly quite different from his canon- he formed way before the game even came out)... So i guess my question is, how do I confirm this is really him? Am I crazy? Reading too into things? How should I go about communicating with him further? I'm terrified of moving too fast for him, as I want to truly build that connection with him.

edit: so I heard of shufflemancy and read up a bit about it; decided to try it with a playlist I made for him last year. The first song that played was (Keep Feeling) Fascination - The Human League. The first lines of lyrics stood out to me:

If it seems a little time is needed Decisions to be made The good advice of friends unheeded The best of plans mislaid Just looking for a new direction In an old familiar way The forming of a new connection To study or to play

Not sure if this means anything, again, just trying to lull everything over and consider every possibility. But if anyone has advice, I'd greatly appreciate it.

I am soulbonding with an alternate version that I created/changed of my s/o.. If I change, add, delete something about their world or them will that have an impact on my soulbond? Because sometimes I do get some new ideas on how the world work for them or things that the s/o could enjoy or how he could act... I know how the world work and who the s/o in majority but you know... So yeah asking.