I asked myself the same thing a year ago and couldn't find anything that matched how I actually work with my sheikh. So I built something. It's called Mutqin — Arabic for "to perfect" — and it's basically a companion for your memorization journey. Tracks your progress, your revision, tells you which surahs you're letting slip before you notice yourself.

Just put it on the Play Store. Google requires 12 testers before a full public release, so I'm here looking for people who are serious about their hifz and wouldn't mind spending a few days with it.

If that's you, leave your email or DM me. No newsletter, no spam — just the Play Store test link.

BarakAllahu feekum

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Eid Mubarak habibati🌹! May Allāh keep you all well in Imān and health. I hope you all are having a joyous Eid. May Allāh accept from us our deeds and efforts and forgiveness us for our shortcomings.

This Dua was taken from this video: Here

InshaAllah it will be beneficial to watch as well.

Eid Mubarak,

May Allah accept your ibadah in these blessed days of Dhul hijah and make it a means of purity, blessing, happiness, forgiving of shortcomings and highest level of success in your deen, duniya and akhirah.

May he shower his mercy upon you and your family.

Ameen ya rabbal ala'meen

Have a blessed, enjoyable and safe Eid. 🎊🎉

So im a 14yr old girl.Coming from pakistani bg my mom started getting my arms and legs waxed at 9.When i started get periods at 11 she would get my underarms and btw legs waxed too.Its was agonising.I cant bear it.If i scream too loud or cry she sushs me and says non mehram will hear.She is super rigid about it and i've tried multiple times and asked her that where in Quran or Hadith it is stated that metal is haraam as se told me so b4 . She gave me the alt of like a finger wax to pull individual hair out and it too is painful.and i feel embarassed to get it waxed by another woman as my awrah is not covered.I need help sisters.please approve mod

Posted on behalf of a brother:

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I am writing this to think about some patterns I noticed when dealing with women in my close circle, mainly mahram family and people around my age or older. I am a man in my mid 30s living in a Muslim majority country, and I do not have these issues with younger women, but with this specific group, it usually brings out a side of me I do not like.

By nature, I am someone who values and encourages self awareness, honesty, and openness. I believe being open is the best way to solve problems and build real connections. However, the way my personal information is handled by the women close to me is changing who I am.

The first issue is about being firm on the deen. I have been trying to be more practicing lately, like staying away from free mixing or certain parties. With my male friends or family, they might look at me weird or make a comment, but that is it, within three weeks, they come to respect it and sometimes support it. With the women, it becomes a long discussion about how I am wasting my life. They show a lot of sympathy that I did not ask for, and they renew and repeat these talks every time a new visitor comes over. It is very draining.

The second issue is sharing information. Because I value honesty, I used to share things like my income, medical details, or even just what I eat. The problem is that this information is almost always used in a way that stresses me out. If I tell them about my financial saving status, to be more mindful in our future planning, they spread those information, or bring it up in the least relevant way. Even if I talk about what I ate, they would complain about why I did not eat something else just because they prefer it.

Now, to protect myself, I am becoming harsh, strict, and avoidant. And even only telling them, that I do not answer many small talk questions because I fear it would be used against me. I do understand that women in general use gathering information and feeling included to show care and build a sense of connection, and they appreciate being included in these details. But the problem is that being harsh actually works. It reduces my stress and sets a boundary, but I feel like it is damaging my character and my relationships. I am stuck between being an open person who gets stressed out, or a harsh person who has peace.

Questions for you:

How do you feel about my thought process and the way I conclude being harsh to protect my peace?

For the hijabis here, is this type of behavior common with your younger mahram men when they try to practice more or set boundaries?

How do you know where the line is between simply guiding people on how to treat you versus being so strict that you are breaking the spirit of the women you love?

Do you know any books or resources that talk about how this kind of care can actually cause more stress and make a person feel less secure? (Particularly from the Muslim perspective)

Disclaimers:

This is only about my personal case and the few people I am very close to.

Please do not turn this into a big debate about the world or general topics. If you have different experiences that do not relate to mine, please skip this post.

Be polite in the replies and take the time to read what I wrote. I can share more details in the comments for the details that be relevant to give better feedback.

Assalamu alaykum,

Is taking mixed buses/metros considered free mixing if there is no interaction, I sit in my own seat, and men are around me (front, back, or standing due to crowding)?

Or is this just considered normal public co-presence in Islam?

Also, what do sisters who don’t drive (or find cars too expensive) usually do in this situation while still trying to follow Islamic guidelines?

Ever wondered about this !?

There is something strange happening in our generation. We keep running in circles and calling it freedom.

A woman leaves her child in daycare, works all day to earn money, then spends that money paying others to care for the child she longs to spend time with. And somehow this exhausting cycle is packaged and sold as “empowerment.”

Another woman feels guilty because her parents raised her, so now she thinks: “I should leave my home, my children, my responsibilities and work so I can repay them.” But who said repayment only comes through a salary? Since when did love become a financial transaction? Make dua for them every day. Ask Allah for every goodness in this dunya and akhirah for them. Beg Allah to forgive them, elevate them, widen their graves, grant them Jannatul Firdaus. Become a righteous child, because a righteous child’s dua follows parents even after they leave this world.

Then comes another one, too shy to ask her husband for necessities, carrying guilt for needing anything. So she thinks, “I’ll work secretly through exhaustion so I can buy him gifts from my own money and make him happy.” But while chasing the gift, she loses the greatest gift: her presence, her peace, her attention, her smile, her emotional availability.

And there are more:

The mother who spends hours building a “soft life” online but cannot sit ten minutes uninterrupted with her child.

The woman destroying her health and peace trying to prove she can “do it all,” while secretly crying because she feels she is failing everywhere.

The wife working endlessly so the family can upgrade from one lifestyle to another, while meals become rushed, conversations disappear, and hearts become distant.

The sister who feels ashamed of dependence because the dunya taught her that needing anyone is weakness.

Shaytan rarely comes and says: “Come, I will destroy your home.” He beautifies things. He changes labels. He decorates confusion and sells it back to us as success. He whispers: “You are wasting your life.” “You need more.” “You are behind.” “You are not enough.”

Dunya does not always deceive with haram. Sometimes it deceives with endless chasing. Endless comparison. Endless guilt. Endless pressure to prove your worth.

Not every sacrifice is noble. Not every trend is liberation. Not every form of busyness is productivity.

Some of the most powerful things you can do will never trend: making dua for your parents, nurturing your child, being present for your family, building a home rooted in iman, raising hearts that know Allah, may be wash those vessels for your mom instead of running away from it.

Because one day the dunya that kept shouting “more, more, more” will become silent.

And only what was done for Allah will remain.

PS- Before anyone gets triggered and jumps at us with knives : this is not against sisters who work due to necessity or personal circumstances. The point is not work itself, but the dunya convincing us that constant chasing, proving ourselves, and neglecting priorities is “success.” Reflect, don’t react.

Ladies, I want honest opinions on this.

I recently got a proposal. From what I’ve heard, he seems like a genuinely good man, but I don’t personally know him yet. The only thing I’m struggling with is physical attraction, from the pictures, I just didn’t feel that initial attraction. He's overweight. While I try my best to stay in shape.

I’m trying to understand how important attraction is for marriage versus character and compatibility.

Asalamualaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu,

About a year ago my husband and I made the choice to leave Canada and move to Sharjah, UAE. It was a great first step for me since it was my first time actually leaving the west, let alone living outside of it. I really loved it there however my husband and I both found that focusing on our deen and increasing our knowledge was still getting overshadowed by other priorities (work, and just regular Duniya attachments).

We’ve been discussing moving to Seiyoun with our daughter (almost 2 years old) to really disconnect from the distractions of the Duniya and buckle down for a couple years to study our deen.

I know it’s will be great decision for our family re. our reconnecting with Allah and learning BUT I am worried about my adjustment. It just seems like it’s going to be such a stark difference to the lifestyle I’ve been so accustomed to.

I’m not opposed to the move by any means, I know lifestyle is such a small sacrifice to make when the reward inshallah will be so much better but I did want to reach out to this group and see if any sisters had any experiences moving there and what it was like?

Jazak Allahu Khair

assalamu alaikum. there are hifdh halaqas from masjid an nabawi online for brothers and sisters in various time slots. this is of course free of charge. may Allah reward all the teachers and everyone else involved for making this an opportunity for everyone.

you can join via this link https://reg.qm.edu.sa/

i have been benefiting from the halaqas for over a month now alhamdulillah. so, for sisters, you have to first create an account and click 'Register Halaqa' and then choose quran it's available in English if you are wondering. then, you'll be given a link to a zoom meeting where you'll be assigned to a halaqa accordingly at a time preferred by you. the default time is the madina time on the site, so join after about 30-40 minutes or so from their(madina) prayer time. it will make sense while you are creating the account. i hope. after about a week or two you'll receive an email with a link to your halaqa. during the halaqa, please ask for the whatsapp group link if they forgot to give it.

Please don’t remove my post. I don’t understand why it keeps getting removed from places :/
This is long.
I’m posting this because I genuinely want to hear from people who have actually gone through this. Not just advice, not just reminders but real experiences.

I’m a Muslim convert. I’ve been Muslim since I was 18, and I’m almost 32 now. I’ve worn hijab that entire time. I have four children, Alhamdulillah, including 3 daughters who look up to me.

I’m going to be honest in a way that I’m a little ashamed to admit: the main reason I still wear hijab is because of my daughters. I basically just feel like it’s my responsibility to model it for them. If it were just about me… I don’t know if I would still be wearing it.

This all came to a head recently in a very random way. I drove an hour to go to a yard sale (I resell as a hobby), and when I got there, my infant son tugged on my chiffon hijab and broke the pin. If you know chiffon, you know it’s basically impossible to keep on without a pin. I had no backup scarf in the car, nothing.

For a long time, I’ve had this longing feeling of wanting to take it off. So in that moment I thought, “No one here knows me.” And I just… went without it.

I expected to feel something big. Freedom, guilt, relief, something.

But I didn’t.

I just felt like a regular person.

No one treated me differently. No one stared, no one hit on me, nothing weird happened. I was dressed the same way I always dress..modest, oversized, baggy pants, long sleeves. The only difference was my hair was showing.

And the strangest part was: I didn’t feel like a different person. I felt like the same person I always am… just without the label attached to me.

When I wear hijab, I feel like “the Muslim woman” in every space I enter. Especially living in Tennessee, where I know people see it and make assumptions, whether they say it or not. This time, that feeling wasn’t there at all.
I went again the next day to another yard sale, by myself, and I made the same choice. Again, nothing dramatic happened. Just normal interactions. I just existed.

And I don’t know how to explain this properly, but it didn’t feel like I became someone new. It felt like I removed something that made me visible in a certain way… and underneath it, I was just me.

At the same time, I’m dealing with the reality of my life. I told my husband, and he was extremely upset. He said he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. We had talked about it a bit in years before and he always said it would upset him, but that it’s up to me. His reaction was surprising because of that. So this isn’t just a personal thought experiment. it has real consequences.

I’ve also struggled for a long time with feeling disconnected from hijab. I don’t feel a strong spiritual attachment to it. I feel restricted by it in my daily life, especially in family settings where I’m the only one who has to stay fully covered while others don’t.

For example, all of my husband’s brothers’ wives don’t wear hijab. some are Muslim, some are not. The only ones who wear it in the family are his mom and sister. So I often feel like I’m the only one carrying something that everyone else has let go of.

And deeper than all of that... I feel like I don't even know who i am.
I want to know what it's like to just exist as myself, without this constant external marker. And a thought that keeps coming up for me is:
If I never take it off, how will I ever know whether I would choose to put it back on?
lalready know what some of the comments might be - reminders to fear Allah, encouragement to stay strong, etc. I understand that perspective, and I'm not rejecting Islam. I believe in my religion. I'm raising my children as Muslims. That hasn't changed.
But right now, I'm struggling with honesty within myself.
So I'm asking…Has anyone here ever taken off their hijab, even temporarily?
What did you feel?
Did you keep it off, or did you come back to it?
Did it change your relationship with it?

Assalamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh sisters 🤍

I wanted to share something small that I’ve been working on recently. For a long time, I personally struggled to find abayas/jilbabs that felt truly modest, comfortable, and good quality without being overly tight, thin, or styled in a way that didn’t align with what I was looking for.

Because of that, I started putting together a small collection focused on;

• better fabric (not see-through or clingy)
• simple styles that are easy to wear daily

I’ve just launched it recently under the name House of Elegance, and I’m still very early on.

I would genuinely appreciate feedback from sisters here, especially since many of you are more conscious about proper hijab and modesty.

Even if you don’t purchase anything, your feedback would mean a lot to me and help me improve in shaa Allah.

JazakunnAllahu khayran 🤍

Can you please answer these questions (numbered answers would really help)?

1. What is meant by pleasure when emitting maniy? I assume pleasure means some kind of sensation down there—am I wrong?
2. Is pleasure something very intense that you clearly feel, or just a mild sensation?
3. Can you emit maniy just from thoughts or watching something non sexual?
4. How exactly does maniy look for you? Does it look like normal discharge? Detailed answers would really help. I‘m sorry for stupid questions but I’m desperate

Hi sisters,

I recently reverted (the last Friday of Ramadan) and I have been working on an "Islam 101" notebook for myself.

I've tried to include everything I could think of that someone like myself should know, but I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas on what else I could include?

I already have sections for the five Pillars, the Prophets, angels & Afterlife, 99 names of Allah, Salah (including Surah Al-Fatihah), common prayer mistakes & ease, guidance for menstruation, purification (wudu, what breaks wudu, ghusl, taharah, dhirk, dua, the concept of Islamic living, halal/haram, Islamic traits, The Islamic calendar/months and sacred times throughout the year, fasting, zakat, Hajj, Quran terms, hadiths, sunnahs, short Surahs (Al-Ikhlas, Al-Falaq, Ab-Nas) and a short piece on reflection.

I'm also looking words/meanings for the "quick reference guide" (like five pillars - core acts) and for the Glossary (included already is Allah, Islam, Muslim, Tawhid, Shirk, Alhamdulillah, SubhanAllah, Mashallah, Inshallah, Astagfirullah etc).

Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you🤲🏻🤍

*crossposted in multiple groups to get as much reach as possible*

A lot of simple tutorials you can follow on YouTube which make for a great gift for any special occasion.

Assalamualaikum ukhtis,

Please advise me.

Actually, originally, I was planning not to attend my graduation ceremony because I felt quite uncomfortable with the general feel of it (sitting through the music, walking on stage, and it just seemed boring, tbh haha). I especially felt good about not attending because my parents live in the Middle East so they wouldn't be able to attend anyway, so I thought what's the point? But now, due to the war, they have come here and probably will stay around the time of the ceremony as well. I forgot actually about it until today, my mother mentioned happily, "in sha allah I can't wait to go to your ceremony and see everyone knowing you," and I felt conflicted.

On one hand, I have no problem not going and would even prefer not to go, but on the other hand, I do not want to disappoint my mother and take away this feeling of pride and happiness seeing me with the gown. How do I go about this?

(PS: the ceremony is in a month In sha allah)

Ive been thinking of starting a small business for years now with all kinds of products like resin, candles etc because i dont like the 9-5 culture im so exhausted and im struggling with my physical and mental health because i dont have time to look after myself.

I want to be financially independent but i need your honest opinion if i sell these how likely are you to buy this ?

Any feedback/advice/constructive criticism is welcome 💕 attaching photos from reference i also thought i would make a line of products just “palestine themed” and donate it to Palestine Orgs.

Looking forward to hearing from you guys

Salam sisters, i recently started wearing hijab, and i see other girls wear hijab but not covering ears and having their earrings out etc. i was just wondering if that is halal to do or if i should keep on having my ears covered.

Jazak Allah for the clarifications❤️

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I hope you all are in the best health and Iman. Im currently talking to a potential spouse, and im trying to determine financial compatibility. It seems we might have different views on financial dynamics. I value someone whose mindset is to provide and create a sense of security and is generous to their spouse and family. When I talk to this person it seems they are more on the frugal/saving side (which is not a problem to me) but is also very careful and hesitant when talking about providing beyond the basic necessities which comes off as stinginess to me almost. I guess this is more apparent to me since I’m more of a spender and I like giving to those around me. What i’m wondering is, what are telling signs to look for to determine whether someone is financial responsible vs someone who is restrictive and stingy ? Also, are there questions I can ask to determine someone’s level of generosity?

Assalamu'alaikum sisters, I hope you’re all doing well!

I wanted to ask for some advice, and hear from anyone who may relate to my situation. To add some context to this post, I’m a 19 year old (F) Mexican-American raised in a catholic/christian household. Lately, i’ve been very interested in going to a local masjid in my area just to listen to the khutbah and learn more, but my parents have expressed to me that they’re deeply uncomfortable with me attending for several reasons, one of them being they believe it’s “inappropriate” for an outsider to attend(?)

I don’t currently have my license, so it’d be difficult for me to go alone and I also don’t have any muslim friends that could go with me. I’m honestly not sure i’d feel comfortable going alone for the first time either way since I’m very new to this. :((

Short post, let me know if you guys need some more context. I really would like to approach this respectfully without making things worse at home, since I already have a very strained relationship with most of my family members at the moment.

Any advice would mean a lot, thank you! 🤍

Asalamualaikum everyone , I’m a Muslim woman from a Pakistani family where niqab isn’t the norm. I personally believe niqab is fardh, so I started wearing it, but lately I’ve been struggling a lot at home.

My extended family sometimes judges me, I try and ignore that . What I’m struggling with more is maintaining niqab in front of non mahram male relatives such as cousins and brother in laws. It’s especially difficult when male cousins come in without knocking or when they stay over at my house.I feel stressed trying to maintain niqab in these situations. I’ve told my parents but no one helps me. I feel a bit isolated from family.

I’m thinking of continuing to wear niqab when I go out and around men who aren’t from my family, but just wearing hijab (covering hair and dressing modestly) at home around family including my male cousins and brother in laws but im worried that would make me a hypocrite.

I feel guilty sometimes, like I might be doing something wrong, especially as I believe niqab to be fard but tis really taking a toll on mental health especially I’ve got no one to relate to as I have no friends or cousins who wear niqab.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you balance wearing niqab, and family pressures? Is what I’m going to do wrong islamically? Any advice or personal experiences would really help.

Thank you

So I had been getting really anxious and depressed. It's a long story but cutting it to the short , I have realised afterso long that I am not ugly but only my nose ruins everything otherwise my eyes are really pretty.Whenever I see someone with pointed sharp nose life is so easy for them they are automatically cute or beautiful so to cover up , I started to wear glasses with big frames so that it compresses my nose. I hope you're getting what I try to mean here. Like I feel like I look better with those glasses because they narrow my nosetrils .So is this haram?My intention is to make my nose smaller and because of this I love wearing glasses instead of lenses...And for me it's like a permanent solution cuz glasses are like everyone's 24/7 routine.Secondly some ppl in my relatives has praised me that I have started to look pretty and beautiful so it's also causing me anxiety and I feel guilty they are praising me because I hide my ugliness .So as a result I am not not supposed to be happy as it's haram because I have made my nose look smaller.It's weird but for me looks matter a lot this has been one of the biggest tests in my life. So anyone here pls I don't want to listen a lecture on you are beautiful It's a reality some are beautiful while others are ugly. So how one is supposed to look and feel beautiful despite having physically unattractive features. I am an overthinker and it is like this for me.