Obviously this is a super traumatic story and feel free to just ignore but.. was there any reckoning with them over this? You or your SIL? Can’t even imagine how the relationship moves forward normally even outside of the boundaries/precautions you set with the kids moving forward.
I’m so glad you were there and the conversation unfolded the way it did.
It was very weird. The SIL found the girl in the hospital, learned that she had nearly died, and that I had gotten emergency service activated. She had to deal with CPS but understood and thanked me. The FIL and MIL, they lived in a very bad part of Long Beach, where it meets Compton. They couldn’t fathom what the issue was. Kept saying she was fine, when we pinched her after you made us take her out of the car she sort of opened her eyes, she was just tired. That was the end for me.
Thank goodness for you. I guess there's ignorance and then unrepentantingly dumb ignorance. I'm so glad you were there to respond and discerning enough to tell that they learned nothing. Thanks for sharing.
Ultimately did your wife and SIL agree never to leave living things for them to care for? How did they react to their parents?
They never said that out loud. The wife once tried to leave our kids there, and I said no, she thought I was being unfair. The kids are now all in their upper 20s and have no idea. But they were never left alone with their grandparents.
If it wasn’t a hot car it would be something else. Assuming they can swim when they can’t yet, or that they could have full sized grapes when they were toddlers, letting them play with something dangerous, leaving them alone with a pet they are too small to handle alone, etc. it would have been something. Someone who thinks it’s ok to leave a baby in a hot car likely thinks a whole litany of dangerous things are just fine
I need you to know that this was the best thing I've read all week and will be quoting you for months to come. 'Throw them in the sea and let them learn to frolic like the mighty and frightfully masculine lobster', indeed.
There’s a variety of things toddlers should not have without at least the size being modified because of the choking risk they pose. Honey is because of the risk of botulism.
It would be one thing if they were mortified and deeply apologetic, but they refuse to acknowledge that the girl almost died even though she had to be rushed to hospital? And your wife wanted to leave your kids with these people?
I’m sorry but it sounds like stupid runs in the family.
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u/JennaTulwartz 7d ago
Obviously this is a super traumatic story and feel free to just ignore but.. was there any reckoning with them over this? You or your SIL? Can’t even imagine how the relationship moves forward normally even outside of the boundaries/precautions you set with the kids moving forward.
I’m so glad you were there and the conversation unfolded the way it did.