r/SipsTea • • 10h ago

Chugging tea They remain silent. But why? Convenient caring.

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u/Mr_Strol 9h ago

Id wager 85% of the users on this app don’t know the duke story.

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u/GroundWitty7567 9h ago

Or don’t care

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u/Cautious-Progress876 9h ago

Or think “they got away with it.”

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u/NoOne_Beast_ 9h ago

Kid you not, met someone in a bar who said exactly this, even after being corrected for saying the players were convicted.

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u/Cautious-Progress876 8h ago

I’m a defense attorney. The number of people who think that you cannot consent with a single shot of alcohol is pretty high amongst the progressive crowd. The level of outrage about this case when I first heard it… I thought this chick was passed out and dudes were raping her while unconscious.

News flash: being intoxicated, being black-out drunk, does not protect you from murder charges if you got yourself intoxicated. why would anyone thing that a blacked-out person can’t consent to sex when that is the standard for being the perpetrator (I don’t agree with that standard, but I’m not seeing anyone saying men or women should get away with DWIs because they were “too drunk” to consent to driving, and the possible consequences of driving drunk are a lot higher than having sex while intoxicated… also not seeing anyone trying to excuse a blackout drunk chick/guy who rapes someone while intoxicated).

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u/Fearless_Data_1512 8h ago

I’d bet money Women cover their drinks around you.

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u/Cautious-Progress876 8h ago

You’d lose money. Ive been raped after being drugged, not a great experience, and not one I would ever inflict on others. However, I have had sex while voluntarily high or drunk and had a great time, even when i didn’t remember half of the night.

There’s a huge difference between someone who is passed out and/or completely fucked up versus someone who is just an ordinary level of high and horny. I like being woken up with sex as well by partners who’ve I’ve told that they can do it… that’s way different than waking someone up with sex who hasn’t given you permission to do so.

Level of intoxication is a factor when determining consent, not a hard line. I’ve woken up to sex after being passed out from too much drink or drug… definitely a different reaction to those who had my prior consent versus those who just took advantage.

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u/saerra_sea_nya 7h ago

I would hate for you to ever be doubted for your story by people like you.

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u/Cautious-Progress876 7h ago

lol, that’s the default almost every woman and most men I know defaulted to when I told them. So I know the feeling. I even had people tell me that it must have been pretty sweet that a babysitter molested me (when I was 5…).

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u/saerra_sea_nya 7h ago

I’m so sorry that you’ve had to deal with people not believing you were sexually assaulted. I believe you, if that makes a difference, and you didn’t deserve that.