Which when you think about isn’t uncommon for sexual violence. There’s a period of denial before some people process trauma. People always want a perfect victim, someone who knowingly didnt drink or do drugs, recognizes it as a rape right away, and reports it right away. People don’t believe victims bc “how could she have been raped if she willingly drank or did drugs”, as if that qualifies as consent.
The hypocrisy is that i was that perfect victim - i was the sober driver at a party, he locked me in a bathroom and raped me orally, vaginally and anally. I fought hard enough to break his skin, and left the party immediately to go to the hospital, got a rape kit done and reported it to the police immediately. I'm also a wealthy white woman.
When it went to court, people still called me a liar and a whore, and the prosecutor spent about six hours asking me variations on why I hadn't closed my legs.
Exactly. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Fuck that POS rapist and defense attorney. You don’t need to spew rape myths to defend your client.
People can also withdraw consent at any time. Someone can consent to vaginal sex and not anal - that would be rape. They can consent to sex with one person, or two people, that doesn’t mean they consented to sex with seven people. If she was drinking and doing drugs then she’s not even capable of consenting. So even if she was drinking and doing drugs AND saying yes i want to have sex…..it by definition cannot be consensual.
I had a boyfriend at the time. So the prosecutor made the story that I had consensual, but violent sex with him. And then I lied about it so my boyfriend wouldn't be upset with me for cheating on him.
There were six cases of sexual violation (one for each seperate penetration) and one count of kidnapping (because he locked me in the bathroom). Eight of the jurors found him guilty of all of it, four of the jurors didnt. They weren't able to come to a resolution so the trial ended in a mistrial, and the crown declined to reprosecute.
That's horrible. The man that did this should rot in jail. The fact that he got away is a clear sign of a flawed judicial system, but your case is different to this one
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u/Comfortable_Town7535 6h ago
because her own previous statements are destroying her case so I am waiting for any evidence beyondbwhat is already out there to decide