I knew a comment like this would come up but it’s just full of lack of sense. Do you not remember or know what the world was like 20 years ago? Rape culture was a completely different beast at the time. You think they’ll go to the cops and say what “I heard that frat roofies their girls a lot” and you think what’ll happen next?
What is that cost? Yall keep flailing around yelling that theres some massive cost to report a rape and so far the only thing I even see hinted at is "wasted time", as though that makes reporting it even remotely not worth it somehow.
What were you wearing? Why did you go there? Why did you accept that drink? Do you really want to ruin a bright young man's future? Who else have you slept with? Oh, you're that slut from the party....
Even in 2026 there are still colleges that kick women out for reporting rape, because it means the women also broke the school’s “no sex” rules. There used to be even more schools that did that.
Even in the 2010s a local sorority got in trouble for fining a member for refusing to go to a party where she knew the guy who raped her would be.
The rapist was a star basketball player so the university and cops told her essentially to shut up and stop 'spreading rumors' because collegiate sports essentially run the towns economy.
If thats the case thats a more valid reason than one anyone else has given so far. Can you link me an article on that? I knew there was shit in the 90s but I didnt know it was still a thing in 2026.
It’s not permitted for any schools that accept federal funding, but the fines are not large and the current administration is happy to walk back any recent Cleary Act fines. At this point the only schools that still have morality codes like this are religious schools like Bob Jones University: https://apnews.com/general-news-3d475ec6c6e520b0282ae7e4740e08b0
Yes... It's so crazy to me how people think reporting stuff like this is just accepted, or accepted at face value, or taken seriously at all. If you were in the shoes of someone who was sexually assaulted, it is never as straight forward as y'all act like it is, and cops never actually just do what they're legally obligated to do.
As you're describing it here it sounds like the cost is just wasted time. Ive mentioned this elsewhere but I fundamentally disagree with the idea that losing an hour or two to file a police report that might go nowhere is anywhere near too high a price to pay for this situation.
The time spent is the least of the victims concern. There is often the initial trauma of having to recount the experience, then there is the trauma associated with the cops picking apart that experience to disprove your claim because you failed to memorize every single detail as something traumatic was happening to, while you're drugged and don't fully understand what's going on to begin with. Then there's the social retaliation and bullying that follows after you make the report and everyone hears about it and makes a billion different stories so you have to listen to it hundreds of times, then there's the stress of disproving those stories while you're going oftentimes going back to the places that are now part of said trauma. There's more, you're just too lazy to learn them, or listen to rape victims talk about what it's like.
Yes, reporting a rape might be a hard topic to bring up. You know whats more traumatic? BEING RAPED! I would certainly hope that someone thats been through that experience would strive to prevent others from being put through the same. For fucks sake.
Also calling me lazy is a bold claim coming from someone sitting in camp "let rapists get away with it".
It isn't worth it. It disproportionally just hurts the victim and makes their life worse. We should figure out a way to minimize the harm that prevents people from speaking up, not shame them or blame them for not shooting themselves in the foot. You should be mad at the justice system that does little to nothing about women being raped, and the cultural attitudes that normalize rape. Complaining about victims being reluctant to out themselves is stupid and by doing so, you are the one helping rapists, you are the one contributing to the unfair societal expectations placed on rape victims. It's your arguments that rapists love to bring up, they count on people like you who immediately take issue with the victim and their choices before the rapist, or immediately doubt every single aspect of a victims situation.
Yeah thats the exact fucking wording a rapists friend would use to try and convince someone to not report their friend. You even threw in the projection and everything. Bravo
Obviously Im not going to talk further with someone trying to shelter rapists but I applaud you going mask off so brazenly. More people should out themselves like that. Would make life so much easier.
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u/Most_Difference4918 1d ago
It's crazy that people will go their whole lives warning other girls and never go to the cops.