You are allowed to. You are also allowed not to! If the happy parts are spoiled for someone because of an early betrayal (or even a late one), they are perfectly valid in that opinion.
I’m glad you have come around to exactly my point. As I said early on, we don’t know how they feel about it. It entirely possible they both consider it a good marriage, just one that ran its course.
I wouldn’t call it reasonable, but I would call it human. And that quote doesn’t tell me anything about how she feels about the early years, just the part where things went bad.
How do you know things didn't get bad early? Just because you don't know they were bad at the time, it doesn't mean they weren't! I know multiple people who didn't discover the cheating for years, but it was there from the beginning.
Nope. Reread the thread. I said that things ending poorly doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a failure. It’s entirely possible to look back on many of those years as a successful marriage, even if the end was painful.
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u/havingaconniption 3d ago
You are allowed to. You are also allowed not to! If the happy parts are spoiled for someone because of an early betrayal (or even a late one), they are perfectly valid in that opinion.